- Imagine our grandmother told mybrother, that he has in his pants little sparrows. And when he found out that this was such a bird and on the street a flock of sparrows was shown to him, one had to see his bewilderment! He was right on the street trying to peek into his pants to compare, ”my colleague Xenia, the mother of a two-year-old boy, told me. Yes, parents show uncommon ingenuity in coming up with some sort of parable for children's genitals. Calling a penis a penis, and a vagina for some reason, is awfully awkward. So it turns out as in a joke: the priest is, but there is no word.How to talk to children about sexPhoto:GettyImages In the UK there is such an organization - the Sexual Health Service. And her experts advise parents to leave the embarrassment for another case. - Nicknames for the genitals are invented from a feeling of awkwardness. We, adults, associate the genitals with sex. And that's why we are ashamed to mention their names once again. But children do not have such associations. They are not embarrassed and do not need to instill this feeling of shame in them, psychologists say. But, if you think about it, a lot of people are ashamed of their bodies. And the very fact that people have sex also embarrasses many. But they are doing the same! ”“ For children, the penis or vagina are the same parts of the body as others. After all, you do not hesitate to call your hand an arm or a leg a foot. Eye, ear - these words do not cause any shame. That's all the rest should not, - experts explain. To help parents cope with embarrassment, England has even created a website that explains how to talk to children about their anatomy. And, which is also important, how to prepare a child for the fact that his body will change, how to talk about sex, relationships and growing up. In general, about what they are trying to tell children in sex education lessons and what causes indignation among some parents. “We urgently need such a website in Russian,” Ksyusha said thoughtfully. - And then I, to be honest, too shy.

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