Oh, that early September panic... Well, how are you?mentally summing up "how I spent my summer"? School years are long gone, but we, like hostages, return every year... no, not to the scene of the "crime", just to the school board. As if a strict teacher will ask us. Psychologists call this condition "September 1 syndrome". And not only schoolchildren are susceptible to it. But also adults. Why do we fall into a stupor at the thought of the beginning of the school year? How to stop feeling like fifth-graders left for the second year? In many cultures, the New Year falls in the fall. This was the case in Rus' until the reforms of Peter the Great. Therefore, for us, fall is subconsciously associated with summing up, zeroing out the life cycle. Unlike the winter bustle with tinsel and holidays, fall is more about "deepening into oneself." It is a cozy blanket, aromatic tea, the smell of baked pumpkin, rain outside the window. When all the lessons and breaks are long gone - school and years of study at the university are behind us, at the beginning of September we often feel left out. And if there is a schoolchild growing up in the family, then the worries only increase. What to do?

1. Increase self-esteem

Photo: Gettyimages.comPsychologists agree that all so-called "school" syndromes - both in children and adults - are the result of inflated expectations and low self-esteem. Therefore, you need to work on yourself and your attitude towards yourself. How to increase your child's self-esteem? Leave him alone! Stop "poking his nose" at failures and controlling every step. And praise, praise and praise! So that he believes in himself. And what, in fact, prevents us from doing the same in relation to ourselves? We will leave the successes and failures of our school-age child on his conscience. We have learned our lesson. School life is no longer our life. Keep our distance. Do not convey our anxiety and fears.

2. Anatomy of fears

Yes, we are all different.Therefore, you should not compare yourself with others, and even more so, depend on the opinions of others. You should not think that everyone around you owes us something, and get angry when you do not receive a certain behavior from your loved ones. No expectations - no disappointments! Alternatively, try to voice your complaints out loud to yourself. What exactly do we not like? How can we fix this? Are you uncomfortable with the way the class teacher scolds you for your son's lateness? We can: a) stop being late; b) politely explain to the teacher that her mentoring tone is inappropriate for you. Another option for "anatomizing" our autumn fears is drawing. The image can be put in a cage, painted over or torn. It is necessary to bring emotions to the surface, not keep them inside.

3. Take care of yourself

Photo: Gettyimages.comChanging your hairstyle, manicure and professional makeup do not solve all the problems, but they certainly lift your spirits. It's time to remember about yourself, my beloved. Treat yourself to a course of relaxing massage. And then meet your friends for a cup of hot chocolate. The beach season is over. You can afford desserts! And only then, pleased with yourself, we go to the parents' meeting!

4. Channeling energy into a peaceful channel

If autumn is a time of “beginnings” for you, go ahead!Make new acquaintances, sign up for courses and trainings. Investments in knowledge are the most reliable. Perhaps new knowledge and acquaintances will raise your career to a new level. Or maybe you yourself will be able to prepare your son for exams. If you can entrust your schoolchildren to grandmothers for a week, do not deny yourself a vacation. The velvet season is the most pleasant time by the sea. If you are single, allow yourself an autumn romance. Perhaps, over time, it will grow into something more.

5. We keep the lines

Photo: Gettyimages.comThere are dozens of recommendations written in modern psychology on how to set your boundaries. The main thing is to understand what boundaries mean to you? Do you feel the personal boundaries of other people? For example, not giving unsolicited advice is respecting the boundaries of another. Even if the “other” is your offspring, solving a problem for the second hour. And it is your right to stop a series of complaints about life from the teacher from the extended day group when you pick up your child. Unless, of course, the teacher had to stay an extra hour because of you. Remind yourself more often that you are an adult, an accomplished person. You have the right to make decisions and act as you see fit. And no one will scold you at the board!

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