How to keep a trusting relationship with children

Anton for children and a friend and teacherPhoto: School of TV stars "Teleshko" How to liberate a child? The most important thing is not to clamp it. It happens that parents put a lot of restrictions: it’s impossible, it’s impossible without explaining why. The child begins to complex, because he thinks that by taking a step, he will definitely make him wrong. He needs to be given the opportunity to try himself in all directions and personalities. This will develop self-confidence, help the child to open up. Listen to your child. With children it is necessary to talk more often and more. If you regularly talk on different topics, discuss something, meditate together, you will never lose touch with your child. Now there is very little communication. As a rule, parents have work, then TV. The child comes home: "Dad, Mom, I saw today how a leaf of yellow from a tree fell." For a child, this event, and for parents: “What kind of nonsense, do not pay attention, these leaves in your life will fall billions. And what, are we going to waste time on each piece of paper? ”As soon as the parents react by rejection, what’s the point further in the child to come and tell? Listen to them with interest. That is how trust arises. You should be really interested in the life of your child. Do not discount children's difficulties. If you see that the child is silent, looks depressed, of course, you need to sit down with him and talk. Find out the reason for his stay in himself. Not every child goes to the contact, someone is shy - act softly, do not push and do not demand to put everything out. And to you, an adult, the reason for his sadness may seem frivolous. The most important thing here is not to teach a little man, saying that all this is nonsense, that everything will pass. Just try to teach him to switch from a problem to something else, forget it for a while. You should become an authoritative friend for your child. If for your child you are a certain strict parent who controls and forbids, then sooner or later he will try to deceive you. That is, the relationship with the child through strictness is not built. But here we must also remember that the mother, who has become a girlfriend, will not have any effect on the child. Keep the middle ground. For example, when I work with guys, it looks like this: I'm a friend, I came to help you, we have one task, we can cope together, maybe I know a little more than you, but make decisions on your own. At the same time on the set, I always stay for the guys Anton Vladimirovich. As soon as the middle name departs, familiarity begins, my status as a teacher is immediately lost. This is unacceptable. You should know what your child is doing in social networks. I am categorically opposed to children up to the fifth grade sitting in social networks. Unfortunately, they spend more time with friends on their phones than in private communication. And on the Internet, in addition to real friends, there are dubious content comrades with dubious suggestions. You can ask about his connections in the network and say: “You know, son (or daughter), he is somehow incomprehensible. What is interesting about it? ”A child, trusting you, will tell everything honestly. And you, parents, will be calm for his future, for who he communicates with. Putting any passwords, prohibitions, filters on the computer is not an option. Now children are much smarter, more advanced than we are. We must be able to negotiate with the children. And if there is no trust relationship with the child, there are various programs that help to track his actions in social networks. To look after the child is not very good, but for your own peace of mind you can. Children should clearly know how to behave with strangers. A hundred percent a child can trust only two people - mom and dad. And mom and dad say that a stranger can be dangerous. With strangers, the conversation does not support; if someone starts to offer the child an ice cream, a kitten, a candy, he should ignore the offer. If someone stranger came up on the street and is very intrusive, the child needs to attract the attention of any other adult. He must understand, remember, understand that there can not be one in a meeting with a new person, there must be someone else: parents, teachers or other adults.