No child will learn, if notwill have to take exams, and no adult will work if the payment of his labor, at least indirectly, does not depend on the result of his work. Nanny is no exception. Once you hire a reliable employee, you should not flatter yourself that he will do his job on conscience without any control on the part of the employer.
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Actress in a Million
I'll give you an example that stuck in my memory.Once I needed to find a sports complex outside the Moscow Ring Road. It is much more difficult to find something by address outside the city than on the streets of a metropolis, so I had to stop the car often, turn my head and ask for directions. My search led me to the territory of a gated community, where I noticed a stranger with a little girl. They were walking near a playground. The little girl was shyly asking the woman about something, to which she answered every other time, with irritation, and looked at the girl with cold eyes, almost with hatred. “Surely this is a nanny, not a mother or a relative,” I thought and began to watch her. “How can you hate your job so much?” Suddenly the woman’s phone rang. In mid-sentence, she stopped talking to the little girl, took out her mobile and answered. Chatting merrily, she moved along the path, and the girl remained standing in the same place, kicking the melting spring snowdrift with her boot. The woman turned around, looked at the girl, waved to her, but she did not react, carried away by her occupation. Then the nanny quickly returned, sharply yanked the little one by the hand and dragged the three-year-old child along the road like a sack, without interrupting the telephone conversation! I shook my head and drove on.
A photo: Getty ImagesBoltaya on the phone, the nurse moved on, and the girl remained standing on the road, kicking the snowdrift. After forty years I had to return the same way, and I noticed them again. Just at that moment a beautiful sports car drove into the village, so that I had to step aside, skipping the car. Behind the wheel of a sports car was a blonde, seeing that the nanny changed in the face ... The Buddha himself would envy such a rapid enlightenment! She smiled at the girl, began to twist her head and something to show her in the side of the forest, crouched down, straightened her hat, then picked up the baby in her arms and sang a song about the bear cub. Probably, she would have started to dance, but at this moment the blonde drove straight to them and lowered the driver's glass. Nurse pretended that only now she noticed her mistress and squealed to the whole village: "Ow! And it was Mamma who came! "- and she began to chatter about how well they had spent time walking. I was spellbound, unable to tear myself away from the contemplation of the miracle of spiritual transformation, but then the guard asked me not to create a cork. And I left, which I regret until now. It was necessary, of course, to show parental solidarity and tell the blonde how to treat her child until she sees. I do not know how the girl's mother would react, but I would only thank the passers-by in her place.
Trust, yes, check
There is probably no worker whoin the presence of the boss, he would behave the same way as he would alone. But some nannies have such a big difference in behavior that even I, an experienced person in this matter, feel uneasy. Therefore, it is very important to monitor the nanny's work. There are many ways of unobtrusive control. This could be a personal check of the results of the day's work, and a video surveillance system installed in the apartment, and spontaneous visits to places where "Mary Poppins" does not expect to see parents. The main thing is not to watch the nanny where she herself easily understands that she is being watched, and plays a role for the public. There is another important point regarding control - watch how the nanny follows the daily routine. Keep in mind that not all employees are able to properly organize their working time. Even with a small number of obligations entrusted to the nanny, you can return home in the evening and see a completely exhausted woman who has not completed even half of the planned tasks. It is better to take the planning process into your own hands: make a schedule for the children and post it in a prominent place. That's exactly what I did. And when I saw our nanny rushing around the house, grabbing everything and leaving half of the tasks unresolved, I made a schedule for her too. The result was not long in coming: the woman began to spend much less energy, and her "efficiency factor" immediately increased. Making such a plan will not take much time, but you will get rid of a headache and understand how adequate your demands on the nanny are. For example, suddenly, without realizing it, you expect her to cook soup in 15 minutes or have time to take two children to classes that start at the same time, but are at different addresses. And vice versa, the nanny's complaints that she ironed three children's T-shirts for an hour and was very tired will no longer arouse your sympathy. To summarize, I want to advise parents to be sure to keep the work of nannies under control, because they deal with the most valuable thing we have - our children.
