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Mom goes to work. What will happen to the child?

Sooner or later this moment comes in lifemost families: mom needs to go to work. You need to keep a prestigious and well-paid job or you just can’t live a day without your favorite thing - we are not talking about this now. We are talking about how a working mother can leave her beloved baby at home with peace of mind. This is a very difficult and very responsible period! “Try to prepare your child in advance. At the same time, the duration of the process will depend not only on the degree of attachment of the child to you, but also on the person to whom you entrust your treasure,” advises young mothers educational psychologist, head of the Center for Development for Children and Parents “House of Joy” Elena Shuvarina. It is clear that the optimal, most suitable and also the easiest option, requiring minimal time for preparation, is a grandmother, dad or nanny - kind, caring, patient. All these qualities, of course, are extremely necessary for the person to whom you entrust your child. However, if there is no such person nearby or he cannot help you, you will have to choose a more difficult option - a kindergarten: everyone knows that it is much more difficult to get used to being there. However, Elena and I have already talked about this in one of the previous issues. In any case, you should start preparing for the important moment in advance. "While the baby is still with you, prepare him theoretically: tell him where and why you will be leaving, for how long. Discuss with him who he will stay at home with and what he will do without you. Let your child understand that you are not abandoning him, and that you still need and love him," - this advice from Elena Shuvarina will certainly help mothers to build their line of behavior correctly. We listen to the teacher: "Tell the child that you will return for him, and set time limits that are clear to him. For example: "I will return when you sleep." Or: "When you have lunch." And be sure to keep your word so that the child does not worry in vain." Don't listen to the "kind" grannies-neighbors in the yard who advise you to "play around" with the baby and leave unnoticed. This is wrong, because leaving unnoticed can make him feel abandoned. Be sure to say goodbye to your loved one, hug and kiss him. And when you return from work, be sure to pay attention to the baby, be alone together. And of course, try not to get nervous and do not scold the baby if he does not let you go. This is how our kind advisor Elena Shuvarina says about it: "This is a normal reaction of a loving child: he just does not want to be without you, without his mother. Your faith in the child and in the successful outcome of events can work wonders!" More good advice from Elena Shuvarina on the website of the Development Center for Children and Parents .