First visit to a newborn baby: 9 rules

Newborns are gentle creatures. Their mothers - even more so. Therefore, they should be treated like a glass vase. Of course, it would not occur to you to come to visit them without an invitation, or to bring your own coughing offspring with you. But there are a few more rules that you should strictly follow, even if you are officially invited to the bride. Do not ask if you are not invited to meet a baby, do not press on a young mother. Someone endures a month from the day of birth, someone needs more time to “go out into the world” again. Once unobtrusively ask when you plan to call for a visit, and ask again closer to the date. If they do not answer, it means that your visit will definitely not bring joy. Sit in a pose waiting.Photo: GettyImages2. Do not be late. Have a conscience. The young mother is already unsweetened: she doesn’t have enough time, doesn’t get enough sleep, doesn’t eat, and her morning tea is cold, forgotten on the table. Therefore, the time for guests is surely difficult to cut out from the schedule. Breaking this schedule is a terrible sin. Don't Stay Far Not all moms can say something like, “We can give you twenty minutes, sorry, then it won't be up to you.” Therefore, try to be considerate and not to burden the young mother too much with your presence. Unless, of course, she asks you to the contrary. Bring food with you, "How did I get tired of cooking myself," a friend who told me four months ago confessed to me in a whisper. This she expressed, perhaps, the feelings of all young mothers. Therefore, going to visit, take with you at least something to tea. Maybe a cake baked personally, maybe a friend's favorite sandwich, or even more than one. At the same time and mom feed. Just watch the ingredients: if she is breastfeeding, this imposes some obligations on the part of the diet. 5. Wash your hands and do not touch the child without asking. Of course, I want to grab and cuddle this sweet baby! But keep yourself in hand. It is desirable to clean. It does not matter that you have already washed them ten times. Maternal suspiciousness is limitless. If a minute later, as you took the baby, your mother has already begun to look plaintively at you - immediately give her her charm. Ask your mother to sit with the child until she can sleep or take a shower. These are two things that are terribly lacking in the life of a young mother. If she trusts you enough to leave you alone with the baby, you are just a priceless person. But if she refuses your offer, do not insist. Maternal suspiciousness - well, you remember. Refuse to be served If a friend offers you tea / coffee / dance, simply refuse. After all, you came to visit to help her, and not to become another person you need to take care of. In the end, you can pour the coffee yourself - and at the same time brew her tea. But if she didn’t sleep for half the night and baked a cake, you just have to eat it.Photo: GettyImages8.Don't bring your childrenEven if they're healthy. Even if you asked permission and your friend said she doesn't mind. You do realize that you'll have to look after your own children, not mess around with your friend's. And you won't be able to really communicate. And if your six-year-old wants to hold the baby, Mom might go into hysterics.9. Don't give unsolicited adviceOh, those wonderful "You're doing everything wrong" lines. If you're asked about how breastfeeding went, what you did with colic, and whether your baby was allergic to the food you ate, answer, of course. But keep the comments about your friend eating too many cookies to yourself.