1. This is not always love at first sight
You carry him for 9 months, you have a relationship with himan unbreakable bond, they said. When you see him, you will experience a feeling of cosmic proportions, you will be torn to pieces by him, they said. You will love him from the first seconds until the grave, they assured.
A photo: GettyImagesIn fact, many women are not at all like that. Even after going through all the difficulties of procreation, you do not always immediately feel the most incredible feeling. And this is normal. I know women who, only six months after the birth of the baby, felt for him the very true love that everyone was talking about. And all the previous 6 months they just wondered: "Why do I need all this ?!" In general, the first months of a child's life for many become something like a prelude. Here everything is like in the adult world: when a new person appears in our life, we look at it, learn to understand it, look for points of contact and only then we are imbued with the whole heart!
2. Maternity is boring
Few people enjoy doing the same thing over and over again.day after day. And motherhood is a real routine that is exhausting. Washing, porridge, diapers, games, walks, taking a bath, rocking... In between all this - cleaning, washing, cooking dinner. Any mother has a list of constantly repeating chores. Thus, each day becomes similar to the previous one. Behind all this, it is sometimes difficult to see pleasant moments or enjoy the little things. Well, and satisfying the endless whims of children is necessary every day.
3. Motherhood - ungrateful work
Being a mom sometimes makes you more tired than anyone else.asphalt paver. But if at work at the end of the day you can always sum up and evaluate how productively you worked today, and at the end of each month you are rewarded for your efforts in the form of a salary, then motherhood in this sense is a somewhat thankless job. No salary, no praise from the boss. And very often at the end of the day, mom asks herself: why did you not seem to do anything special all day, and yet you are falling off your feet?
4. When you're a mother, it's harder to share real emotions
Everyone around is convinced that children make a woman100% and continuously happy! Everyone thinks that children are some kind of drug that should make you high 24 hours a day. But children often bring grief or simply exhaust you. But at the same time, a mother should always continue to be there, even if she is tired, upset or sick. A child is a colossal energy-consuming thing. But sharing how tired you are of your own child and how you sometimes want to send everything to hell is completely unacceptable. It is accepted to love your own children in any situation, every day and every minute, regardless of the circumstances. Which is what mothers do.
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5. All mothers once reach the boiling point
For some people this happens rarely.For some, it's every day. Both are normal. Motherhood is far from a holiday that is always with you. But it is the most effective way to master the skills of endless patience. Lifelong anger management courses.
6. It is impossible to find a balance between motherhood and work. He is not here!
On one point you will always be"sag". In the morning, be late for an important meeting because the child is capricious or does not let you go. And in the evening, work will not always let you go to the child on time. In addition, the child is sick - and then goodbye, work! And if it is an important project, then goodbye, child. Thus, in an attempt to combine a child and work, you will always be a little on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Even now, I am writing this article, and next to me is a child crying, who seemed to have just had a good sleep and eaten. And no, nothing hurts, he is just demanding attention in this way!
7. Motherhood Dilts
You can have as many degrees as you want.education. You can be as well-read as you like. But on maternity leave, your brain activity, to put it mildly, starts to malfunction. Let's start with the fact that the first months with a child are always your round-the-clock monologue. Just imagine: you talk all day long to a person who, at the very least, does not understand you, and at the most, cannot say anything in response. And you are talking to him about far from lofty topics. And secondly, a rare mother can do without all the "usya-pusya-agagusya". Not going crazy and continuing to think as quickly and deftly as before the birth of the baby is very difficult.
8. Becoming a mom, it's easy to forget about your second half
Many have heard about this.Many people promise themselves on the eve of having a child that they will devote time to their loved one regardless of the circumstances, but in this matter, everyone will periodically experience a complete failure. Sometimes you will not have the energy for sex, the opportunity to go on the most ordinary date or just chat over a candlelit dinner. However, nothing will test the strength of your relationship better than a child. Also interesting:
