1. This is not always love at first sight
You carry it for 9 months, you have with himan unbreakable bond, they said. When you see it, you will experience a feeling of universal dimensions, you will be torn from it to pieces, they said. You will love him from the first seconds to the grave, they assured.
A photo: GettyImagesIn fact, many women are not at all like that. Even after going through all the difficulties of procreation, you do not always immediately feel the most incredible feeling. And this is normal. I know women who, only six months after the birth of the baby, felt for him the very true love that everyone was talking about. And all the previous 6 months they just wondered: "Why do I need all this ?!" In general, the first months of a child's life for many become something like a prelude. Here everything is like in the adult world: when a new person appears in our life, we look at it, learn to understand it, look for points of contact and only then we are imbued with the whole heart!
2. Maternity is boring
Few people like to do the same thing of the dayin a day. And motherhood - this is a real routine, which exhausts. Washing, porridge, diapers, games, walks, bathing, rocking ... Between all this - cleaning, washing, preparing dinner. Any mother has a list of constantly recurring cases. Thus, each day becomes similar to the previous one. Behind all this it is sometimes difficult to see pleasant moments or enjoy small things. Well and to satisfy infinite whims of children it is necessary every day.
3. Motherhood - ungrateful work
Being a mother, you sometimes get tired of pohlesche anyasphalt paver. But if at work at the end of the day you can always sum up and assess how fruitfully you have worked today, and at the end of each month you are somehow awaiting a reward for work in the form of wages, then motherhood in this sense is somewhat ungrateful work. No salary, no praise from their superiors. And very often at the end of the day my mother asks: why did not you seem to be doing anything all day, and you were falling off your feet?
4. When you're a mother, it's harder to share real emotions
Everyone around is sure that children make a woman100% and smoothly happy! It seems to everyone that children are something like a drug, which must be passed 24 hours a day. But children often bring grief or simply exhaust. But at the same time, the mother should always continue to be there, even if she is tired, distressed or ill. A child is a tremendous energy cost. But to share how tired you are of your own child and how you want to sometimes send everything to hell, absolutely not accepted. Own children are accepted to love in any scenario, every day and every minute, regardless of the circumstances. What moms do and do.
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5. All mothers once reach the boiling point
For some, this is rare. Some have it every day. Both are normal. Maternity is far from a holiday, which is always with you. But this is the most effective way to master the skills of infinite patience. Anger management courses lasting a lifetime.
6. It is impossible to find a balance between motherhood and work. He is not here!
On one of the items you will always "sink". In the mornings, late for an important meeting, because the child is naughty or does not let go. And in the evening to the child you will not always be released on time. In addition, the child was sick - and now, good-bye, work! And if an important project, then good-bye, baby. Thus, in an attempt to combine the child and work, you will always be a little on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Even now I am writing this article, and next to me cry a child who seems to have just slept well and ate. And no, he does not hurt, he just needs attention!
7. Motherhood Dilts
You can have as many as you wantformations. You can be as much read as you like. But in the decree, brain activity, to put it mildly, begins to malfunction. To begin with, the first months with a child are always your 24-hour monologue. Just imagine: you talk all day with a man who at least does not understand you, as a maximum - can not say anything in return. And you are not talking to him on high topics. And secondly, a rare mother can do without any "hog-pusya-agagusya". Do not go insane and continue to think as quickly and dexterously as before the birth of the baby, it is very difficult.
8. Becoming a mom, it's easy to forget about your second half
Many people have heard about this. Many on the eve of the birth of the child promised themselves to devote time to their loved one, regardless of the circumstances, but in this matter, all will periodically experience a complete failure. Sometimes you will not have the strength to have sex, the opportunity to go on an ordinary date, or just to chat over candlelight dinner. However, nothing will check your relationship for strength better than the child. Also interesting:
