Dad can: 5 pluses of male education

Reason number 1. DisciplineThe father in the family is historically assigned the place of the leader of the pack, and the mothers - the role of the keeper of the hearth, therefore it is more likely to put the children in a rigid frame than the pope than the mother. His authority is beyond doubt, and his father's word is the final authority. After it, it is no longer discussed whether it is possible to turn on the computer or walk for an hour longer. The situation is often the case regardless of gender stereotypes, and we are not talking about stick discipline: children, especially the small ones, obey Pope unquestioningly and take strictness as a given. Fulfilling the requirements of the father, they learn to observe the schedule, fulfill their duties and other similar skills that will be useful to them in the future - everyone knows that in life one often has to do something not because they want so much, but because it is so necessary.Photo: GettyImages The reason No. 2. Protection "I'll tell my dad" is perhaps the main trump card in children's disputes, which is taken out of the sleeve only if the opponent, not wanting to give up, passes to prohibited methods. Those who do not have a father feel deep resentment, and those who have a father have a sense of protection and self-confidence. Often, "say to the Pope" little disputants are not even going to, they just need to know that this can be done in principle, and then the father will figure everything in justice and punish the offender. The strength of this knowledge can be assessed only with age: those who have grown up in single-parent families may experience a sense of inferiority, regardless of what heights they managed to achieve in their business, only because their dad did not praise them, then other children. Reason # 3. Responsibility. Parents for the child are an example of what the father and mother, husband and wife should be, and they become the standard regardless of their qualities, since small children are much more inclined to idealization than to analysis. If everything is all right in the family, the girls will most likely expect the same qualities from their future husband as their father, and will not allow moral or physical violence against themselves. Obviously, if parents consider beating as the norm, then so do the children. A father who does not allow himself to raise his hand to anybody, cares about his wife and children, and justifies his position as head of the family affairs, he will set an example of how a man should bear responsibility and support, and a woman - to recognize authority and value efforts. Healthy relationships between parents give children the opportunity to learn gender roles, and this is much more important than it seems: it's easier for girls to understand that their value is measured not in physiological indicators, but for boys - that their chances of a happy union increase in proportion to the thickness of the wallet. A person who has not mastered the laws of mutual respect by the example of mom and dad, has been copying offenses for years, without even realizing that his problems are rooted in childhood.Photo: GettyImages Reason No. 4.DeterminationIf mom forbade eating ice cream on a walk, dad will most likely allow it: as a rule, dads do not miss the opportunity to pamper their children, especially those who, after a divorce, see their daughters and sons only on weekends. Fathers almost always play the role of ringleaders: they teach children to swim, ride a bike, take them with them on hikes and fishing, because one of the main tasks of male education is the socialization of the child. Mom protects him at home, and dad takes him out into the world and teaches him not to be afraid of what is happening in this world, but both parents must remember that the main thing is the child and his own desires. Children need competent management, not dictatorship: if a son wants to do ballet, and a daughter wants to play hockey, let them try, even if it is just a whim. A positive decision by both father and mother in such cases will help children understand that they have many opportunities to realize themselves in the world, and in a controversial situation, they can count on the support of their parents. Reason #5. VariabilityMen are creatures from Mars, and women are from Venus, and a person who is familiar with the behavior of both finds it much easier to understand and accept the reasons for the actions of others. Men are practical, focused and silent, and women are sensual, talkative and multitaskers, which is why it can be so difficult for them to interact, and a child who has received a positive example of finding a compromise from mom and dad will not be forced to look for it from others. In single-parent families, parents should ensure that the child has an example of communication between adults who respect each other, people of different sexes. For example, in this case, the father can be replaced by a grandfather, stepfather or coach in the section where the child goes, and the mother - by a grandmother, aunt or teacher at school. Everyone knows the difficulties that single mothers experience, but the topic of single fathers is not covered so well. That's why dads who raise children without the help of their mothers will talk about their lives in the new program "Male Parenting" on January 24 at 9:00 p.m. on the TLC channel.