Features of communication with older children

When a child grows up, parents need it.to accept. That pattern of behavior that was practiced at an early age, where excessive care, upbringing, moralizing prevailed, no longer suited. It is on this basis that many conflicts arise with older children.Communicating with older children should bring joy to both parties. Photo: Getty To ensure that communication goes well and was pleasant to both parties, you must adhere to the following rules:

• Advice and guidance are needed and important, but the childwill take them correctly only when he himself asks for help. We need to give him the opportunity to be independent in solving important issues. Even if he makes mistakes, these are his mistakes, which in time will turn into life experience.
• Do not be offended by an adult son or daughter, ifthey come or call not as often as we would like. The child has personal affairs, needs, family, work, etc. A quiet conversation, in which the parent will try to explain what he would like to see more often a son or daughter, will give a much greater result than offense and accusation.
• When a child leaves his or her home and beginsindependent life, parents have a lot of free time, which they previously dedicated to their child. Try to take this time with something new, discover new hobbies, hobbies.

Adult children do not need instruction and moral teachings. They can put up with this out of respect for the elders. But sooner or later such communication will provoke a conflict situation.

Psychology of conflicts between parents and children

The bulk of disagreements arise on the basis ofexaggerated demands and expectations on both sides. Mom and Dad are waiting for respect and gratitude from their children, and those in turn believe that parents who never refused them anything should continue to indulge their whims. Having not received the desired, the child remains dissatisfied with the parent, he believes that they do not love him enough. Comparing his life and the lives of his peers, children can even blame their parents for not giving them something. And they are not interested in the reasons for such "injustice". Over time, to grown-up children, of course, comes the realization of how much they gave mom and dad. After all, they give everything they can at that time, often denying themselves their needs. To prevent this from happening too late, you need to talk more with each other, try to be calm and restrained. This will help to avoid conflicts.

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