The main enemy is perfectionism
It is impossible to catch everything. Especially if you have three children, work in several places and without a sustainable schedule. And I also want to look good, travel, watch TV shows, drink wine and meet my girlfriends. You have to understand: you can not be in three places at the same time. So every time you have to choose where you need it. I decide everything according to the importance of the moment. For example, today I have a live broadcast on the radio, and I will not be able to go to the matinee for school. But I will ask to take this matinee out of the mother of our classmate, and in the evening we'll watch the video together with the child. And tomorrow he has an exam, and it is important for me to support him. Therefore, I will cancel the march to the beauty salon and spend this time with the child.
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I choose to wear by force
Do not hesitate to seek support and help everywhere,wherever possible. Because there is nothing more terrible than the "burned out" mom, who is tired of everything. Next to me is a man who can replace me in many ways. We are one team with him. With Valery I can leave all the children, even the smallest. Plus there is a nanny who also helps.
The more children, the easier
The most difficult thing is when you have one child, andyou have little experience. You all your aspirations, fears, desire to give love crush on one little man. It makes it very difficult for him and for you. The more children, the easier the relationship. This does not mean that you love them less. Just unimportant things fall away by themselves, like husks. You react only to what is really needed. Also you cease to aspire to be in time all, to be the best mum and to bring up the best child. You just start living with children.
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Children's jealousy is absolutely normal
I do not know of any family in which there would be nosimilar manifestations. And if there are mega-babies, then it's very similar to the production story. My children do not kill each other in the fight for my mother's love. Although the eldest son of Luke from time to time "trolls" Martha. And Martha can take offense at him. I try to give children the opportunity to solve their own problems. As a rule, in situations where the brother and sister quarrel, there is no right and guilty. Both are good there. Someone has faked someone, someone answered someone, did not give in, tried to substitute. So we get both. Let them have better offense at their mother, than against each other.
Do not have to be tough
Although sometimes for educational purposes this is requiredsituation. One day Luka wanted a longboard (a skateboard - for example, "Telesem") for his birthday. We agreed that he would get it if he did not lie about his grades, studies and homework. But I could not keep my word. In occasion of this situation I even consulted with subscribers and psychologists in "Instagram". In the end, they made a decision based on how much Luka is still ready to take on some responsibility and fulfill our conditions. It is important to show generosity, to say: "I love you, I want to surprise you. But next time I will do otherwise. And I want you to treasure my deed. " I'm not sure this will work. Children are children. It is very difficult for them to keep their attention, to keep a promise. We were like that. But if the child makes at least a small attempt, it will be useful.
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