Photo: Getty Images1. If the child is too timid and at the sight of his peers quickly retires towards his mother, then most often it's just an age feature. Up to 2.5-3 years old children do not know how to be friends, they are observers and prefer to just play around without interaction. In this case, mom should be patient and not insist on sharing fun with others. The cause of anxiety of the baby can also be anxiety mom, her desire to always be around, insure, do not let go. The child reads the non-verbal reaction of the parent and understands that the environment is unsafe, it's time to hide. Here, Mom herself needs to figure out what exactly is bothering her. Does the other kid harm yours? Will he take away the toy? Will he hit a shovel? Sanded with sand? Is it so serious to run to the rescue headlong? Or, maybe, you should wait some time and the children themselves will understand? If you see that the situation does not threaten the child's vital safety, count to ten before going to the rescue. Perhaps your baby needs more confidence.
Photo: Getty images2. When the carapace constantly selects other people's toys and hides with them in an unknown direction, the reason may be the desire to attract attention. Your child became bored, and he wanted to somehow diversify the walk, playing with mom in catch-up. This situation is a signal that it's time to switch the attention of the kid to something new: to tear together the leaves, mix them with sand, cook an unusual porridge. Children like this kind of entertainment. At an early age, the understanding of "one's own" is only being formed. To speed up the process, you can collect different things at home in one heap and, playing, divide them into mother's, daddy's, grandmother's, their own. And it's useful to come to the playground with your toys and personal experience to show how you can arrange an exchange, in which everyone will be satisfied. 3. If the baby solves his problems with the help of strength, one should pay attention to observing the regime of the day. It is likely that the child regularly gets tired of long walks, hungry, overexcited from a lot of impressions. While a person is still small, there should be a clear system of wakefulness, sleep and food intake. If you plan something new, be sure to warn the baby where you are going and what you will do. And on the site, the mother's task is to prevent an "attack". If you see that your child is on the verge of plagiarism, offer him to stomp their feet, jump, play hide and seek. Any physical action that can negate the energy of aggression is necessary. When it was not possible to prevent the "fight", it is necessary to explain clearly, clearly, without smiles to the child, that this can not be done. And it is impossible not only here and now, but in general. Parents often make the mistake of allowing a child to hit his mother or father in the game. Such actions must be stopped, otherwise there will be no positive result. It is also useful after "impossible" to tell what exactly it is possible.
Photo: Getty images4. When you hit your child, you do not need to blame anyone - the baby will not feel any better from it. Hug him, support him, calm him. At all, do not humiliate with phrases like "what did you not give up". It's also useless to swear at the mom of a fighter who was not there at the right time. In a similar situation, as in the previous one, you need to act on prevention - to detain the abuser's hand, to make a comment. Most often the words from someone else's mother "I do not like that you're fighting" stop the child. It is important only not to evaluate the remark of the child's personality, but to speak about his wrong actions. 5. Does your child not allow anyone to swing or slide? Try to figure out what need he is trying to satisfy in this way. Perhaps he needs attention, or he is overtired, or does not know how to interact with others. Suggest a game - we miss all the tickets. Or divert it to some other object. Remember that children do not harm just like that. From other moms in this situation, too, need help - do not create an audience for a small stubborn.
Photo: Getty Images6.If the baby has thrown a tantrum and cannot calm down, then it is time to take him off the playground, depriving him of spectators and "friendly" adults with their suggestions and comments. At such moments, the mother needs to monitor her internal state, because she is an example of how to properly cope with her emotions. When, out of despair, the mother herself begins to get angry, there will be no positive result. Try to pull yourself together, if necessary, step aside for this, warning your baby, count to five. The child will calm down faster in the arms of a kind, loving mother. 7. When your good toy is broken, pay attention to whether you or your baby are upset. It is quite possible that he will not even notice the loss, and your task is not to convey your state to the little one. If a broken doll or tractor does not give the child peace, explain that this happens in life. There are meetings and partings, acquisitions and losses. Experience it together, be sad together. There is no point in looking for the mother of the person who broke the toy to find out who will pay for it now. You don’t need to set a bad example for your child – you won’t return the toy, and you will ignore your son or daughter’s emotions. And you shouldn’t take expensive purchases with you outside.
