The child asks an awkward question: how to answer

About legs - Mom, do you think I should go shavinglegs? - Asked my seven-year-old daughter. And what can I say? I must admit that Katya's legs are really promised in the future to cause her a lot of trouble. But I wouldn't want to force the epilation procedures. “No, Katya, it’s not time yet,” I said. “When will it be time?” I'm already seven years old! ”“ When you grow up. ”“ Tell me too! When I grow up, I will have to get married. And with hairy legs, no one will fall in love with me! In general, we agreed to wait up to 14-15 years at least. As a grandmother would have answered: “And who only thought of this is shaving their legs. And in general, the more often you shave, the thicker your hair grows. Nowadays, the maximum that we allowed ourselves was to discolor hair with perhydrol. ”True: Laser epilation is contraindicated in adolescents due to the unstable hormonal background. Shave hair from the point of view of medicine is possible at any age. Shaving does not affect the intensity of growth.A photo: GettyimagesPro boys- And why boys have pissing sausage? - this is the youngest daughter, Ulyana. Having started kindergarten in her three years, Ulya knew the delights of a toilet shared between M and M. The situation was complicated by the fact that the question was asked in a crowded tram and demanded an immediate answer - the nearby passengers are already rolling with laughter, and Ulya - a stubborn girl, if mother didn’t hear, she would repeat, and repeat once more, until even the driver could hear. - Because the Lord specially invented it so that the newborn boys could be distinguished from girls, that moment I do not pr I went, but the child’s answer was completely satisfactory. As a grandmother would answer: “You will know a lot - you will soon grow old” (this answer has been helping out grandmother for many years, and not just this question). with the functions that they perform, and this part of the body is no exception. About mood — Mom, do you like to get angry? ”“ No, of course. ”“ But why are you angry all the time? There is, as they say, no comment. A question for me personally is a reason to think and look at myself from the outside. Am I really in the eyes of my children — a gloomy, gloomy woman who does nothing but swear? Of course, in response to such a phrase, there is a great temptation to blame everything on children. I am not a psychologist, but common sense dictates: it is necessary to separate the actions of children and their own emotions - they are not always interconnected; deliberate and unintended pranks, made simply from an excess of life. Well, it seems to me that it’s not forbidden to explain my condition to children either: “I was upset by your quarrel with my sister,” “I am sad because I was tired at work.” As grandma would answer: “I'm angry because you are bad children and I’m specially angry! ”Truth: Renowned psychologist Julia Gippenreiter reminds us that mother is not a robot, she also has her own feelings and emotions. Parents are also upset, sad and worried, and therefore it is important to convey their feelings to the child, but at the same time not to injure him.A photo: GettyimagesOn the milk Ulyana plays in the daughter-mother: - Lyalya must be fed-how do I pour milk in sisi? - the generation brought up in “bybiborns” is used to the fact that everything is “real” and does not know what “make-believe” is. It is necessary to explain that a woman’s milk appears in the breast only when the child is really born and in advance “You can’t pour it in any way.” As a grandmother would answer: “They do not put him on the table, don’t crush him with a knife, but everyone saw him, everybody ate him. That's how we talked about mother's milk - “they don't put it on the table.” So, and you will not take it from anywhere. No, Ulenka, you can’t pour it. ”True: a woman’s breast milk is produced under the influence of the hormone prolactin in the amounts needed to feed a particular baby. About sex - By the way, I have long wanted to ask - what is sex? “Katya visited TV at her grandmother, but for some reason she caught some of her incomprehensible words.” “This is a special intimacy between a man and a woman who love each other,” I answer, without going into physiological details — for her age such information that's enough for now. - How are you with dad, huh? - the child instantly relates the new information to reality. As a grandmother would have answered: “And where have you just picked up such words! And in general, it’s too early for you to be interested in such things! ”Truth: Sex is a human behavior associated with the satisfaction of the“ basic instinct ”- the desire for procreation. Well, or just to get physical and emotional pleasure. But the basis is still the instincts associated with reproduction.Photo:GettyimagesAbout roles in the family— Mom, do you really sit on dad’s neck and kick him around? Will you show me how? I want to too... Well, grandma says so...— I’m afraid dad’s neck can’t support two of us.— And we’ll take turns, okay?— No, dad needs to be taken care of, he’s the breadwinner and the head of the family. And anyway, grandma is wrong.— Does the head mean the main one? No, mom is the main one for us. You decide everything. But we won’t tell dad about this, hee-hee... As another grandma would answer: “The mother-in-law gets angry when the daughter-in-law is having fun. The mother-in-law is not a mother, she will never feel sorry for you, she will not offer you a rest. For her, you will always be unworthy of her son.” The truth: Who knows what the truth is like in this case. Each family, each couple has their own. Someone feels great in the role of a housewife. And someone needs self-realization in business or creativity. Some of the ladies happily change roles with a man and become a "breadwinner", and someone cannot imagine a day at work. The main thing is that the distribution of responsibilities suits both partners and all family members feel happy.