How Mom Should Be in a Decree

- Here's my face and at least three years in the office is notI will appear, - girlfriend Svetka lovingly strokes rounded belly. - Enough. Has worked. I will be next to the baby as long as possible. I nod: my mother is next to me in the first two years of my life - this is a quiet kid, and harmonious relations, and the right development, and the opportunity to see the first steps, to hear the first words. In general, do not miss the key points. "I'll sit for exactly three years," Sveta continues. "Or maybe I'll quit it altogether." It's better at home. I'm not arguing with her. But having spent not a year in the decree, not two, but six years, I can say for myself: if it were not for certain circumstances with which it is still difficult for me to argue, I would not just go to the office - I ran, dropping the tapki.No, I I'm not going to make a stunning career now (though, maybe a little later and yes). I'm definitely not one of those who are ready to stand at the bench until midnight, having shaken off the dear child to the nurse-mum. But I am sure that a full-time working day is absolutely necessary. And not only me, but my child. And that's why. How long does it take to sit in the decree Photo: GettyImages1. I want to talk. I can print quickly. Very fast. Sometimes it seems to me that I am typing faster than I say. Because 90 percent of my communication is virtual. Social networks, Skype, messengers are my friends, colleagues and all the rest. In real life, my main interlocutors are husband, mother, mother-in-law and son. Basically, of course, son. And with him so far I can not discuss everything that I want. Politics is not yet ready to talk about it, but I am not ready to talk about the new season of the "puppy patrol". The stamp on "disconnection of the brain" in the decree has been wiped to the holes, but this, alas, is true. I'm wild. Meetings with girlfriends on weekends will not save "the father of Russian democracy." Rescue the way out to live work. 2. I want to be missed for me, Mom, my dad will be coming soon - to walk around in front of the door Timofei starts two hours before the end of the working day. - Papulechka! - the son ahead of all runs to the door, meeting her husband from work .- Well, when already ... - eagerly waiting for her father to have supper. From the side it may seem that Mom is the third one here - superfluous. Of course, this is not so. But against the background of the pope, who exists from Monday to Friday in the life of the child two hours a day, my mother is clearly fading. Especially since you understand who, in this situation, scolds and educates more. So it turns out that my father is a holiday, and my mother is a routine. To her care the child is more selfish, as to something due. I do not think this is right. I'll be honest, I myself would not be bothered to miss the child. Maybe to look at him a little different, fresh look. And a little from the side to see how he grows up. And when he is near you almost unchallenged, he always seems like a crumb. How long does it take to sit in the decree Photo: GettyImages3.I want to earn moneyI went on maternity leave from a decent job and a decent salary. My husband and I had comparable incomes. I started working part-time when Timofey was 10 months old. But the amount I can earn from home is ridiculous compared to what it was before and what it could be now. Fortunately, the family does not need money at the moment. Nevertheless, without my own salary, I feel uncomfortable and even a little unprotected. I feel calmer when I understand that if something happens, I can take responsibility for the family. But even without thinking about the bad, for example, I feel uncomfortable taking money from my husband's salary to give him a gift. 4. I want my son to developLast year, British scientists found out that the skills of children of working mothers who are forced to attend kindergarten are 5-10 percent higher than those of those who were taught everything at home. Moreover, even grandparents have a more positive influence on their grandchildren in this regard than parents. Either they entertain them more actively, or they do more. By the way, most mothers have probably noted a similar phenomenon more than once. And I have too. Children are much more active and willing to do something new with a stranger than with their mom and dad, to whom they are accustomed and whom they can twist as they please.