- That the two people keep their relationship, inany of their actions should be motivated. Sooner or later there will come a moment when feelings become dull, something in each other will start to irritate, someone on the side will seem better. If you want to be in this family, then you can find the strength to overcome all the crises. The main thing is to have a desire. Many very young girls, say, even 95% of those who just graduated from school and entered the institute, say: "I want to get married, three children, and then I will be happy." They think that the family is such a great entertainment. Some of them may be lucky, but in most cases everyone realizes that the concept of "family" is quite complex. Tanya and I (Ivan was married to actress Tatiana Arntgolts until the summer of 2013), when we got married, we planned everything, but not divorce. And it happened that way. Because today I do not build far-reaching plans, I live happily with the present.
Ivan ZhidkovPhoto: Irina Morina
Disintegrated without quarreling
- When people get divorced, something happens in their lives.drama, and not because someone or you left someone, but because what you were used to, your protection, fortress, hopes, and so on, collapsed. I am not talking about myself specifically, but in general. Naturally, many do not know what to do next. It is probably more difficult for women who are also left with children in their arms. Plus, a family is a home, and a person suddenly loses it! For me, this was also difficult. Tanya and I understood what was going on for a long time, and therefore our breakup was quite organic. I don’t know whether it was painful or painless, there was a certain feeling of prostration, as if the question “What next?” hung in the air. Gradually, everything fell into place, I accepted the situation and went my own way. We understood that preserving the marriage for the sake of the child, when the feelings had already passed, would not make anyone happier, especially Masha. — Almost all ex-spouses break up with scandals, and often people who once loved each other want to destroy each other. Tanya and I understood perfectly well that there was no point in quarreling. We have nothing to share. Our daughter Masha is our common daughter, she has only one mother and one father, and they communicate with each other like parents. We divorced when Masha was a little over three years old, she did not notice any particular changes. When my daughter asked why we broke up, he answered: “Love has passed, the tomatoes have withered.” She laughed and did not ask such questions anymore. Why did we break up? There is no specific reason. We are just different, stubborn in some ways. It happens that love comes and goes. Everything began naturally and sincerely with us and ended the same way. What the media wrote about the affair between Tanya and Grisha Antipenko is complete nonsense. He is Tanya’s stage partner, and that’s it. However, I have no right to comment on her personal life, that’s what we agreed on.
I'm friends with a child
Ivan with his daughter MashaPhoto:@ivancarevich1— I know many guys who dropped everything after a divorce and don’t know how their children are doing. I’m not judging anyone, but I don’t behave like that. Why do men act like that? In my opinion, the whole point is that when you’re no longer in the family, it becomes more difficult to communicate with your child. After all, if you’re at home, sometimes it’s enough for children to just have their dad there. But when a man falls out of the family and someone else appears, he starts thinking: “Why would I go there, what would I do there? The house is already someone else’s…” This is probably what scares people off. And, of course, you have to take into account that a person’s behavior is largely influenced by the relationship they had with their parents in childhood. I rarely communicate with my dad, that’s just how it turned out. There was always a clear line between us, and, unfortunately, friendly, trusting relations never developed. That's probably why I have such a strong desire to communicate with my child and not be a strict despot, but a friend whom my daughter will listen to, love and respect. I think this position is correct, because if you are friends, it means you can agree on everything. To get closer to your child, you need to listen to him. I can't say that I spend a lot of time with my daughter, I just try to constantly keep in touch with her. I live separately, but from time to time Masha lives with me. Since Tanya is also an artist and often leaves, I can take my daughter to my place. At home, I have her things, a room. Now I have moved from the center of Moscow to the countryside, and it has become easier to spend time together than within four walls. There is always something to do: you can slide down a hill, take a walk, run. And before, I constantly had to come up with some kind of entertainment - parks, cinemas. Gradually, I turned into some kind of amusement park. Now I have the opportunity to just be a dad.
