7 things you should stop doing instead of a child

“Oh, my God, my head is empty. I forgot to put Pavlik a notebook on social studies, "- my colleague lamented, after hearing someone on the phone." And how many Pavlik years? "I ask out of courtesy." Thirteen, "Marina answered proudly. And yes, the grandmother collects a boy's briefcase to school. Again, out of politeness, I said nothing, but mentally stroked my daughter's head, which was going to school completely independently, starting from the first grade. And she wondered: is it true how many parents and grandparents literally blow dust particles from their children, taking care of them almost before the wedding, and even after? It's so tiring, and most importantly - meaningless ...A photo: GettyImagesA seriously, where to start raising children in independence? Mom of four children made a list of seven items. Any child is able to do these things by himself. Here, try it, it will definitely cope. Get up in the morning Yes, among the first-graders of children who are ready to bounce on the alarm clock, really a little. But as soon as the child has moved from elementary school to secondary school, that is, in the fifth grade, he can solemnly hand over this duty - to get himself out of bed. In the mornings you have it and so do things: fix yourself up, drink coffee. However, some mothers say that they love to wake their children - they are so cute when they sleep, it’s impossible not to stop. But here it is important to understand that motherhood is not only about affection. It is also a task to educate self-sufficient adults. Cook breakfast and lunch too. The main task of parents is to make sure that there is food in principle at home. If not, bring home this very food. Perhaps with the help of a schoolboy. But to make scrambled eggs, cook pasta or even porridge (or porridge from pasta, it does not matter) the child can himself. Remember yourself twelve years old. Were you able? In addition, some five or six years later, and your schoolchild will turn into a student, perhaps he will leave to study in another city, and you will not have any idea what your child feeds on there. Therefore, firstly, it would be necessary to stop worrying too much right now. Secondly - to accustom the child to feed themselves. 3. Take care of health and hygiene. For example, a teenager is able to go and get tested in the morning. Of course, you will have to go to specialists with him - until adulthood, doctors cannot do anything with a child without parental consent. But he is already quite capable of doing some things without you. By the way, since the age of 14, the child can already register on Gosluglug, apply for an international passport and make a lot of useful things for himself.Well, but about teeth cleaning, shower and in the evening, haircut nails at that age already remind somehow ashamed. But if these procedures have not yet turned into reflexes, then it's time to spur the process.4. Going to schoolEven not discussed. And running back and forth to bring the child of the forgotten home notebook, textbook or sports uniform, is also not necessary. Did not take? Himself to blame, it was necessary to get together, and not to sit, buried in the phone. Today I forgot, got stuck from the teacher, next time, you see, it will be more attentive. Besides, serfdom was abolished long ago, and the child has not yet earned a servant. In general, learning through pain. Very effective.Photo: GettyImages5.Plan your timeAnd not only your own, but also someone else's. "Mom, I have an essay due tomorrow, can you print it out?" - getting a message like this when you're finally heading home after a day full of chaos is not very pleasant. Coming back? No way. Let him warn you in advance next time. Essays are not assigned the night before they're due. And they are not asked to bring play dough, Whatman paper, and similar junk to school at nine in the evening the next day. A child should learn to think about your convenience, too.6. Keep an eye on clothes"Mom, didn't you wash my uniform?" No. Does the washing machine give you electric shocks? Or don't you remember the password to the washing powder box? And anyway, why should I remember about your clothes? Even a baby can carry them to the washing machine. In the end, you can ask them to wash them. But don't think that I'm some kind of personal laundress who has nothing else to do but look after their socks and T-shirts. 7. Doing homework If he asks for help with something, then of course you should help. But you shouldn't sit next to him and watch him tirelessly to see if he's doing his homework. Seriously, that's his job. And you - let's repeat for the tenth time - have your own things to do. So don't do the work for your child. This is something he not only can do, but should do on his own. And he should be responsible for the results of his work too.