Moving. Behind this word - a considerable amount of trouble. Starting from household - things to collect, housing to find, routes in the new city to rebuild. And ending with much more important things: get used to a new atmosphere, new people, a new team. And all the same is waiting for your child. But only for him it's even more serious. After all, his school friends are people with whom he spent most of his life ... When I moved to the other end of the Earth, my head just swelled with thoughts: how will these new, completely unfamiliar people accept me. It depends on it, I will get accustomed to this city. But even more, I was worried, how through all this will pass my 16-year-old girl Alexander. She has a bigger team, and children are much more cruel than adults. But there's nowhere to retreat - behind, no, not Moscow, of course. But ten thousand kilometers to the native Vladivostok. Now all this is a passed stage. And we together with the girl Alexandra are ready to tell how to make life easier for yourself and your child, if you are shining a new school.
Photo: a shot from the film THE COUNCIL 1. Sotsseti to helpMama Natasha: Does the baby stick to VKontakte? So it's wonderful! The main thing here is to direct the social activity of the chadushka in the right direction. After all, have you already decided with the school? So, it's a little thing to find a school community on the network, to join it, and to get acquainted in absentia with local inhabitants. And there, you see, devirtualization will be easier. Alexander's sister: Communication on the net is, of course, not the same. But it is possible to determine from afar which music in the classroom is preferred, local gossip is also useful. And it is also very important to know what language your future friends are talking about. SOVET 2. Do not wait for the end of the school yearMamma Natasha: It was a very difficult moment. For several months I could not decide whether to translate at the height of the year, or wait for it to end and come to the new class on September 1. As a result, I decided to break the child right now. And I never regretted it. Sasha got acquainted with all of them, continued to talk with some guys in the summer, as a result, September 1st came to school as her own. Alexandra's daughter: And also - better to translate or to the sixth grade, or after the ninth. In primary school, newcomers pay little attention, in high school are already thoughtfully considered. In the middle - this is a continuous riot of hormones, which you need somewhere to splash out. It's very easy to get lost, not to cope with the pressure of the "old men" and fly to the outsiders of the class. To get out of the "lower caste" (in any class there is a hierarchy, and tough) will be oh how difficult. COVE 3. Give me freedom of speech. Mama Natasha: To get acquainted with the director and the class teacher you will come, of course, together. And here it is important not to "poke over". Give the child himself to tell about himself. And the skills of self-presentation will develop, and the teacher will be able to form an adequate opinion about your child. Alexandra's daughter: In my first school I was taught to speak. So I knew how. And it turned out to be my trump card. In the new school, more attention was paid to mathematics than to the art of smooth speech. It's not bad, of course, but for me it turned out to be an opportunity to take your niche, to surprise teachers, to attract the attention of classmates. SOVIET 4. Do not "gut" the childMama Natasha: I was terribly anxious immediately, after the first day at school, to start running around, looking in the eyes , grab for the hands and ask, ask - how did it go, this first day? In fact, it's "Calm me, tell me everything is all right," just in a different form. Knowing my child, I took myself in hand and created a "space of silence". Everyone needs time to realize what has happened, to ponder. Then the boy will express his impressions himself. You just show him your willingness to listen at any moment. Alexander's sister: It took me three days to digest my first impressions. And only then I was ready to share them. And it's great that my mother did not press me. She knows that until I "ripen", pulling out revelations from me is useless. I am done with general phrases. TIP 5. Open the doorsMama Natasha: My eternal religion - let friends be in the house. It does not matter how much, and even if I have to spend the entire weekend away from home. Well, or once again give money to the cafe, so that Sasha could sit there with friends. If there is an opportunity to get tickets for a concert, a sports match, a movie or a festival, I will gladly sacrifice a girl to invite someone with me. Common interests and shared leisure work as a bond just fine. Alexander's sister: My classmates love my mother. It's awesome. SENSE STRIKOYMalenye advice from Sasha parents:
- Look for the pros. Just bring them not in the forehead, but unobtrusively. Type, "you'll get your new friends". Or "from here to Finland closer, you're there the climate is suitable." It works, even if the person grimaces in response.
- Make small holidays. In a cafe, for example, go once more. Or on a roller coaster you can climb - it is a good distraction and cleans the swollen head from a pile of thoughts.
- If you are asking, ask at the gossip level. Let's say: "Well, are there normal people in the classroom"?
- Encourage the idea that healthy impudence is good. Without the skill of the first approach, get acquainted, start a conversation will not go far.
- Do not worry too much. When I see that my mother is worried, I start to get nervous. Though like and not because of what and everything is all right.
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