If the child is a first-grader or studies in an elementary school
Don't make getting ready for school a nightmareTry it onsuit, shirts, a sundress, shoes, having a school dress fitted by a seamstress, running around shops, shopping malls and markets. For a six- or seven-year-old, this is stress. As a rule, parents spend almost the entire last month of summer getting their first-grader ready. It can't be done earlier: what if he grows up and stretches out? In fact, moms and dads themselves get just as tired of such purchases. Shouts and reproaches are sometimes heard in the fitting rooms. Distribute the purchases so that you buy the school bag last. As a reward. Since the first-grader is interested in this particular school item, and not the shoes and socks he will wear. In no case discuss out loud, "how much more needs to be bought, we have already spent our entire salary": September 1 is a holiday! Let the child not associate it with wasted money, nerves and endless shops.
A photo: Getty Images Do not criticize the teacher. If you did not like the first teacher (and it happens), never, under any circumstances, do not discuss with the child's teacher. "We got an old woman", "Yes she mumbles some," "Do not want anything, just ask at home!" Studying and diligent behavior in school depends on the respect and love of your child to the first teacher.
Photo:Getty ImagesNegative experience is harmfulIf you see that your daughter or son for some reason is not keeping up, cannot cope with the school curriculum, do not scold, do not force them to cram for hours and write letters in copybooks. Each child has their own stages of development. Do not let negative experience take over. Talk to the teacher about the best qualities of the child and develop in this direction. Ask questions like: "What is my child good at?" Yeah, drawing. So, you participate in all the drawing competitions. Physical education? All sports competitions are yours and your child. It is not bad experience that shapes the child, but positive one. After the first certificates, the baby will start to study well in other subjectsYou should ... No, you should not "You must be an excellent student!", "You must be the best!", "Don't let your smart parents down!" Don't go crazy. The child is in the first grade. Yes, his task is to study diligently, not to forget about additional assignments. And to do it for himself, and not for his parents. It is important to understand this in the first grade. Hang a poster or picture in your child's room with motivational words: "I am a schoolboy. I can do anything! I am great!"
If the child goes to the fifth grade
A photo: Getty ImagesInstead of one teacher - many teachers "Let each teacher remember you!" Familiar words? And let's say the same thing in another way: "Study well to prove yourself! You are many. " A significant difference for the child. You can remember and bad behavior, and hysterics, and tardiness. Do not scare the child with the colossal responsibility of a high school. "Now you will have the most interesting time! There are many teachers, you can choose your favorite subject, and with each teacher the communication will be exactly as you want! "
A photo: Getty Images I'll have to quit ... sports, dancing, hobbiesNot in any way! Additional lessons children often throw in high school. They do not cope with the curriculum, they pass to the second shift, they make bets for studying. Remember, you can not donate a child's hobby. No matter how the child is crying, that does not have time, lags behind or does not want. This age. Additional lessons, as practice shows, improve the learning process, organize the child. Do the lessons, then walk No! After school, children of 10-12 years old must necessarily rest in the fresh air. Not at the computer, TV, tablet, namely walks. Or a dream. The erroneous opinion of many parents that later the head works worse leads to accumulated fatigue. You will do lessons at least until one in the morning. Categorically impossible. Do you need knowledge or dictated by you at one o'clock in the morning, essays, reports, reports? Spend the time so that the child can go to bed on time. It is difficult, but necessary. Do not relax the child, do not relax yourselfNelzya say:
- "I'll get away, you just learn." Obligations must become even greater.
- "Cope yourself, you have a fifth class, you're an adult." Lessons still need to be checked and monitored.
- "I'll deal with your deuce tomorrow!" Teach the child to solve school problems on their own, interact with the teacher, retake the control, correct the grades.
- "I'll find you information on the computer, and you'll choose what you need!" No. You together search for answers, show how to work with books, search engine. Check and work on errors.
Forget about it:
A photo: Getty ImagesNot use physical strength for bad assessments and behaviorWho is the main person in the house, a teenager already knows, do not show your weakness. Then we'll talk about it! Here and now. Discuss immediately why the work was not given, why there was a conflict with the teacher, that it would not work in physics, do you need a tutor: how best to go home or walk yourself. The school question is very important, and we control it. I'm ashamed of you. All the talk about studying irritated the teenager at any time. Resign yourself to this. You can not say that the child is "stupid, not our kind, lazy," etc. This does not motivate. A teenager can not be compared with other children. Support it, give your example: "I remember, also dropped out of school in the seventh grade, and then I wanted to become a military man and realized what I was learning. What do you think about the future profession? "Set goals to him, and do not say that you are ashamed of him. Do not scold ... our education systemThis is a taboo. For a teenager is a fat plus in his piggy bank "do nothing." If everything is rotten, why should I try? It's not my fault, it's a system. Do not grow swearing Svetlakov in front of the TV in "Our Rush." The excellent man's complex One more bright is NOT AVAILABLE. Many parents transfer their own unfulfilled desires to their child. "We go to the red diploma!", "Die, but bring a fiver, the four is a shame!", "The flu is not a reason not to be engaged!" Cautiously, slow down. The complex of the honors pupil is transferred for the rest of his life. A child is a fine line between the successes and failures that shape his personality. There is always someone who is better. Help a teenager to take his place in life, and not immediately all the places in the first row
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If the child is a graduate
A child is not a savings book. We are so much like you.invested... Spent so much on tutors..." This is the first road to nowhere. In relationships, in a stressful situation at the Unified State Exam, in setting plans for a graduate. You can't talk about it, let alone think about it. Most schoolchildren could not concentrate on the exam solely because of this attitude of their parents, having an accompanying fear of not living up to their wishes and... investments. August is a month of silence about school You can't stress a schoolchild out with talk about school in the last month of vacation. Only carefully and in a friendly conversation. Give these days to your child's joy and carelessness. Believe me, it will do him good. 11th grade... Only studies "We won't go skiing this year", "All the holidays are tutors and trial tests." No, no and no. All psychologists and training coaches claim that it is especially important for 11th graders to use their weekends correctly. Don't change your plans, let your child also have a skiing holiday, in warm countries, at grandma's in the village. This is necessary and essential for further studies. Not the end of the world You can't discuss the lack of points on the Unified State Exam as a personal apocalypse. Review all options in advance: college, another faculty with further transfer, a year of preparation, a fee-based basis with transfer to the budget. This is not a war, but the child's first adult task. Boys - sports, girls - fitness You can't limit your child's life. Throughout the 11th grade, mental activities should alternate with physical ones. Often, any additional activities for a graduate become unattainable. No time ... There is time. Especially for sports. Research experience proves that these are the children who pass exams better, clearly set goals, and cope with stress.
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