"When I gave my husband a laptop, he was at the seventhheaven from happiness, this I have never seen before, even after the birth of our daughters, "recalls 45-year-old Marina. - In a few months he became a real computer addict. As a result, we divorced. " If the computer does not always become a stumbling block, causes strife and exacerbates existing problems, it often violates the existing family balance. "He encourages family members to create or rebuild the relationships that bind them in new conditions that may not be acceptable to all households," says social psychologist Irina Palilova. A computer can become the third superfluous in communicating spouses, is able to endanger the parental authority, generate conflicts between relatives ... In a word, it is not always possible to gently enter this new family member into the house, not allowing him to dictate his rules at the same time. But this "indicator", which reveals weaknesses in family relations, can simultaneously help to rectify the situation or even create new ties. Everything depends on the place that is assigned to him in the house, both literally and figuratively. Excursion around the apartment with comments.
Child and computer
In the bedroom
A plus:a new form of intimacy “It was important for my partner that I let his computer into our bedroom,” says 29-year-old Kira. - When I started to show interest in the computer, my friend calmed down. Otherwise it would be perceived as if I do not love his best friend. " To make you accept your computer is to symbolically make you accept yourself. Initiating another in computer wisdom also means making him a part of your world and strengthening the couple. The computer can create a new form of intimacy. “It allows you to make plans together in real time, think over trips, organize a party ... and immediately start acting,” says Irina Palilova. In a couple, the computer can also act as a mediator, allowing you to avoid conflicts and communicate more calmly. “When my husband and I had problems, I had to resort to to talk to him,” says 31-year-old Valeria. “In addition, he learned important things about me and my life from my blog.” Minus: opponent of love, “When will you finally lie down?”, “We don't have sex anymore,” “Put out this car, I can't sleep!”. Penetrating into the bedroom - the bastion of marital intimacy - the computer can turn into a rival who is always there and who devours your time. In the family, it is necessary to leave space for pleasure alone, but here the measure is important. Many women feel redundant in their own bedroom in the face of a complete merger with their partner's computer. “The monitor turns into a screen between the spouses, creating the illusion of a person's presence, when in fact he is not with you,” Irina Palilova analyzes. - If there is only one computer in the family, then in the marital bedroom it can cause a love and sexual catastrophe; in addition, children attracted to the parent's bedroom by a computer can turn it into a walk-through yard. "
