In the modern world it is often impossibleIdentify exactly which roots are inherent in each tradition. After all, many rituals are a kind of mix of existing and time-converted customs. A lot of songs are written specially in honor of such a significant event in the life of every young couple, like a wedding. Some of the most famous rituals and traditions dedicated to such an important day for all newlyweds, I would like to consider in more detail in this article. What kind of association in our subconscious mind causes the word "wedding"? It is an elegant bride in a beautiful elegant dress and a little embarrassed fiancé dressed in a strict black (or other color) suit. This is a beautiful photo for memory and a romantic mood, sincere congratulations and wishes of happiness from loved ones and, of course, the first night of the newlyweds in a new status. Each of these moments has its own, very special significance, and all together they create a festive mood and atmosphere of a fairy tale. Indeed, in most cases on this day every bride sees herself as a princess who finally meets her prince. And it does not matter what he came to see her - he sailed on a ship with scarlet sails or came on a white Mercedes. What matters is that it is from the day of the wedding that a new, often unfamiliar and therefore very exciting life begins.
Wedding traditions around the world
Not in every country do the brides appreciate the harmony andthin waist. For example, Nigeria approaches this issue in a completely different way. The elders of the tribe decide for themselves whether the girl is ready to marry. After a positive outcome, the newly-made bride is moved to a separate hut, where only her mother can enter. What is the purpose of forced retreat? It turns out that in a few months (or even for a whole year) she will have to fill up as much as possible! The girl tries to move less to subsequently boast of her magnificent forms. The more she adds weight, the more successful she will be able to get married. And the audience can express their enthusiasm with a loud ovation. An original understanding of beauty - and cellulite is not terrible! Indonesia does not welcome the spirit of patriarchy: girls are free to choose their own suitor. The test period for the groom is 3 months. If he did not like his beloved, then he returns to his place of residence. "Coming" - that's the right name for a young guy: at night he stays in the house of his potential wife, and in the morning goes back to his mother's house. However, does this behavior of the guys look somewhat unusual? In Sweden, the procedure is as follows. Young people get acquainted, then the guy takes the girl home, confesses on the way in his love feelings. As a result, they spend the night together ("matchmaking night"). The country is known for its free morals, so premarital relations here do not bother anyone. Sometimes young people live in a civil marriage for several years. Registration of family relations in the relevant bodies is made after the birth of a common child, which is a guarantee of obtaining the subsequent offspring. In Japan it is accepted that it is the bride who came to the groom on the day of the wedding, and not vice versa. And the best time of the year for such a celebration is summer. According to the traditions of this country, the bridegroom covers her head with a kerchief, hiding her jealousy. The newlyweds acquire the official status of husband and wife after each of them takes a sip of rice vodka. The traditional color of any Chinese wedding is red, because it symbolizes joy and love in this country. And that's why the bride's dress usually is red, the same applies to candles, gift wraps and envelopes with money. In China, the relatives also give the bride a small box with gold jewelry. And wedding glasses of a newly-married couple are connected by a red tape that all future family life they were joined by love and happiness. But the Spaniards, in contrast to the Chinese, prefer the orange color. The customs of this people say that the wedding bouquet of each bride and her hair should adorn the flowers of this shade. This is because the orange, whose fruits are known to be bright orange, refers to evergreen plants, and therefore the bride retains youth and health throughout the whole family life. The Indian wedding amazes with its splendor. Its customs and rituals are still firmly connected with the Vedic culture. The wedding and accompanying festivities, which last for four to five days, are organized by the parents of the bride. And the rite itself passes around the hearth with sacred sacrificial fire. Traditions and rituals of the Indian wedding are aimed at making it clear to the future husband that his wife is the most valuable gift given to him from above, and the bride is obliged to adopt the spouse as a god, without which all her further life will be meaningless. In Germany, on the eve of the wedding day, it is customary to beat dishes so that family life is successful. This is done by the bride's friends on the threshold of her house. During the wedding ceremony in the pocket of the bride must necessarily be a pinch of salt and a slice of bread - a long symbol of abundance. As for the groom, he must bring grain with him, so that family life is rich and successful. This is also symbolized by fresh green branches of trees, from which guests make a kind of carpet, which must be passed by young people after the ceremony. In Poland, the neighbor and girlfriend of the bride weave a special rosemary wreath, which is placed on her head on the wedding day. The newlywed woman is also supposed to drain a glass of wine filled to the brim, without spilling a single drop. Many wedding customs in this country are associated with money. For example, those wishing to dance with the bride must buy this right by attaching money bills to her dress. According to another tradition, often an unusual way occurs and the mandatory delivery of gifts: the groom holds a bridal veil, and guests are invited to throw in it bills. In Portugal and Hungary, they also came up with a "monetary dance": anyone who wishes to invite the celebration of the culprit to the dance should put a few coins in the bride's shoes set in the middle of the room, thereby engaging himself as a dance partner. In Switzerland, every young couple should put a pine tree on their own - a symbol of success and money prosperity. In Norway, two young trees are planted in this area. In any country, and sometimes in every city, there are unusual rituals. Each of them is interesting in its own way. It's wonderful that such customs are stored in the depths of people's memory and are necessarily present at relevant events. After all, in this way we maintain an invisible connection with the generations of our ancestors and introduce into our future family life a piece of their immense wisdom, accumulated over centuries of experience and spiritual values that have no age.
Wedding customs, traditions and signs of Russia
Often even the most modern wedding does not dowithout the ritual of matchmaking, when the parents of the young man come to the house to a girl for acquaintance and for permission to take her to their family as a daughter-in-law. Now this tradition is purely conditional, and earlier it was of great importance, because how much the words of matchmakers proved to be eloquent, the fate of future newly-married couples often depended on. After all, parents did not always agree to give their daughter to a person whose qualities they were unsure of. Few people know, but popular now customs associated with the bride's abduction at the wedding, have their history from long Slavic times, when the groom and his boyars could forcibly decorate the bride from the parents' house, if they did not want to pay ransom, or her father and mother resisted a possible union. At that time, this did not provoke merriment, so the girls were carefully guarded from the male eyes, and marriages were made by prior collusion of families. Probably everyone knows the customs of bride's ransom on the day of the wedding. Their history is also very old, because before the Slavs really all sold their unmarried girls to the families of suitors. Now this tradition has acquired a purely symbolic meaning and is designed, first of all, to amuse the guests. Friends, relatives and the bridegroom are met on the threshold of the house by relatives and bridesmaids with the demand to pay them for it either with money or by performing some kind of merry action, for example, solving puzzles related to family life. It often happens that the future husband is led into a room where people are sitting, covered with sheets, and they suggest guessing where the bride is hidden. In case of error, the groom must contribute a certain amount of money in order to continue the attempts. By the way, this rite also has a long historical roots, when the girl was hidden from the young man behind the curtain, and the outcome of a successful matchmaking depended on whether the young man could forcibly kiss his future wife. Often mentioned in popular folklore, the braid of a young girl is a symbol of her loss of innocence and the attainment of the status of wife and mother. It used to be that on the eve of the wedding, her friends would come to the bride, sing songs that her youth had gone, and weave her hair, thus preparing for family life. This tradition continues even now at many celebrations, when at the end of the first day the mother-in-law or the groom is taken out of the bride's hairdo, they take off the veil and cover her head with a kerchief - a symbol that now the girl has become a young wife. All newlyweds at the wedding shout: "It's bitter!". But very few people know that originally this word was not associated with the requirement of kisses from the newlyweds. Once upon a time, the bride was approaching with a tray, where there was a glass of vodka, to every adult guest at the wedding, offering to try the intoxicating drink from her hands. The guest was supposed to drink and with the word "bitterly", which was a confirmation of the fact that while drenching the liquid was not water, put money on the tray as a gift. A popular tradition so far, when the bridegroom takes the bride on the doorstep of the registry office after the marriage procedure, which means now that this is what he will do with her throughout the whole family life, is also a transformation of old rituals. According to one of them, if a young husband carries his wife across the threshold of the house, then by that he will be able to deceive the brownie, so that he recognizes his woman and does not suit her with small dirty tricks. In general, there are a lot of wedding traditions and take in our country. Many of them managed to overcome a long historical path and to transform themselves, some merged with the cultural heritage of other nationalities through mixed marriages, and something our contemporaries brought with their own observations and conclusions. So, here are some of the most common wedding signs. A happy family life If you are planning to marry and are at the moment puzzled by the choice of rings, then pay attention to those of them that have a classical shape, that is, rounded with a smooth surface, without incisions and bends. It is these decorations that symbolize a smooth and prosperous married life. In no case should you be allowed to measure your wedding rings, so that your family happiness does not go to others, was not stolen or spoiled by envy. A bad omen is to drop the wedding ring before it is on the finger of the bridegroom or bride. If this still happens, then through it you need to pass a thread that is burned after the ceremony. In order not to repeat the fate of your parents, do not take their rings, even with the aim of melting and making your own. The sign that promotes the financial independence of a married couple is as follows: on the wedding day, a copper coin is put on the right shoe of the groom, which later becomes the talisman of the wealth of the young family. To protect yourself from the evil eye, the newlyweds need to have on their festive clothes one small English pin, fixed head down and hidden from prying eyes. The bride should be pinned to the hem of the dress, and the bridegroom - hidden in a buttonhole. They say that for the future of family happiness as a married couple, you need to think over your outfit in such a way that there is something new in it, something worn, and also any thing of blue color. Best of all, if it is the mother who will lend her daughter for the time of the wedding, as a guard, any thing that has long been kept in the family as a relic. And after a young couple has his own heir, this object will remain with them forever. Quite a lot of popularity was gained by the custom of sprinkling a young couple with rice, investing in this ritual the desire to have numerous offspring. In Russia, newlyweds are also showered with small coins, symbolizing excellent financial security for the future (analogous to the money rain). In other countries, the bride and groom are blessed with rose petals, nuts, and millet. We should also pay tribute to the traditions associated with the easy birth of children from a young wife. For this, her waist at the wedding should not be decorated with belts and flowers. As for shoes, it is better to give preference to models with closed fingers and a heel. Since happiness without tears does not happen, then the bride must cry a little before the wedding. The bride can not see herself in the mirror in full parade. The fitting should be done without a veil or gloves. And, importantly, the groom should avoid looking at the future wife in the wedding dress until the moment they go together to the registry office. Few people know that the bride's bouquet is not just a festive addition to her outfit, but a symbol of the happiness of a young couple. Therefore, before marriage, you can not give it to anyone other than the groom or your own mother. At the banquet the bouquet should stand before the bride in the vase, and at night - be in the bedroom of the newlyweds. That the concluded union was strong, in day of wedding to a newly-married couple it is better to hold hands that nobody has managed to pass between them. Signs related to mother-in-law and mother-in-law If onwedding mother-in-law calls the newly-born daughter-in-law a tender name, this is evidence of the future warm relations between them. Do the parents of the newlyweds have fun and rejoice at the celebration? Hence, the life of all generations of families will be marked by mutual understanding. If the bride first addresses her mother-in-law, then their relationship will be calm and trusting, and if her glass is raised in honor of her father-in-law, this may become a sign of the future well-being of a young couple. Facing the wedding with your own mother-in-law is a good sign for achieving mutual understanding between you. They say that if the mother of your spouse bakes pies well, then getting along with her will be quite easy. But if during the meeting of the newlyweds on the threshold of the parental home or the solemn hall, the halophyte overturned and the salt woke up, then both the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law may experience difficulties in communication with each other in the future. Torn by the bride dress at the wedding says that her husband's mother is an angry and scandalous woman. It is believed that the son-in-law is lucky to have a good mother-in-law, if she ... likes to sing. To prove the financial worth of the mother of her wife, the groom must throw a handful of copper coins under her feet. If the mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law through her left shoulder, this may mean that she has a grumpy and unkind temper or simply not enough to drink. And if her view is directed through the right shoulder, then the relationship with the young spouse of her daughter will be successful. It is believed that, in order to achieve mutual understanding between his mother-in-law and his son-in-law in the future, they are supposed to drink together from one glass at a wedding celebration. And yet, do not ask your moms not to cry on such a solemn day. According to popular signs, the tears of parents at the wedding give their children a happy marriage. Signs related to the season and the weather People say that the strongest marriages are those that are concluded in the autumn, in September or November. The origins of these traditions are rooted in the distant past. After all, harvest took place in the summer, and by September the storerooms and barns of the peasant households were complete. It was then that the turn of the holidays and weddings came. As for spring, the unions at this time of the year were held together only in case of emergency, as the stocks were depleted, and the time of great worries connected with the cultivation of the land was coming. This is what folk wisdom says about marriages concluded in different months of the year:
- to marry in January - early widow;
- married in February - to gain consent with his wife;
- to marry in March - to live away from relatives;
- April marriages are fickle and changeable, like the whimsical spring sun;
- marriage in May - the young will have to run a lifetime;
- The June wedding promises a lifelong "honeymoon";
- Marriage in July will fill the life of the couple equally with acid and sweetness;
- the marriage in August grants the young wife as the wife of not only a beloved, but also a faithful friend;
- those who dream of a quiet family relationship, it is better to marry in September;
- October alliances are marked by difficult and difficult relations;
- November promotes a happy family life;
- the same one who married in December, the stars promise bright and rich days.
As for the weather for the wedding, folksigns say this: if in winter, spring or autumn on the day of marriage there is heavy snow, then the life of the young will be rich and prosperous, and if a strong wind blows, then the relations in the family turn out to be gusty - then calm, then a hurricane. But the frost on the day of painting is a sign to the appearance of a pair of first-born males, endowed with good health. The wedding at the Shrove week speaks of the future of a happy and happy family life. If on a solemn day in the spring, summer or autumn, there is a clear sunny weather, but suddenly it is raining for nothing, this is considered an omen of wealth. But a strong thunderstorm or storm - the harbingers of future troubles. Signs associated with the ceremony of the wedding To conclude the union was successful, before the wedding, the groom is allowed to kiss the bride only once - upon handing her a wedding bouquet. To protect herself from the evil eye, the newlywed during the trip to the church must protect herself with a veil. It is impossible for the newlyweds to keep an empty box in which their wedding rings lay. She is picked up by that bride's friend who wants to get married more than anyone else. Wedding in a hat is a sign of a future divorce, a short veil symbolizes the possibility of the birth of sick children, and its absence is suffering and disappointment in family life. During the wedding, the bride must be baptized with her gloved hand, so that further life is rich. If the bridegroom holds a wedding candle higher than the bride, then he will become the head of the family, if on the contrary, he will give way to this role for the wife. But blow out the fire of their candles they need simultaneously - it symbolizes a long life together. After the completion of the church wedding ceremony, the newlyweds should look together in the same mirror, so that their life with each other is cloudless and happy. The wealth of the future family promises torrential rain during the wedding. To confuse the evil spirit and save her marriage from her tricks and temptations in the future, the newlyweds had to go to church on the same route, and return to another. And it is desirable that both roads are confusing, because it will confuse the evil spirits and make you untie. Perhaps, from here and went more modern traditions to go after registration and wedding in the beginning for a walk, and only then to the place of the solemn feast. The above signs and customs associated with the wedding are far from complete. There are a lot of them, and it's good that some have survived to this day, thus turning marriage into a merry action, a memorable holiday and the most unusual day in the life of the newlyweds. Of course, blindly follow all the traditions and take into account the majority of the signs should not be, because otherwise each step to the groom and the bride will have to do with great caution at possible violations. But such a serious perception of the conventions, you will agree, does not at all contribute to a joyful mood and is likely to cause additional unrest, which is already a lot at any wedding. Therefore, some customs may need to be taken into consideration, but it is not necessary to be upset either because of the impossibility of observing them. Remember that only we ourselves are able to do our best to find our own happiness in the future of family life. We advise you to read: