Love is something that worries humanity already onfor many centuries. In our life it is almost the most important. Over the centuries, people fell in love, suffered, became happy or unhappy, married unions and parted ... Love so captivates people that they lose their heads and are ready to give up everything for her sake. From the great seemingly love begin to do stupid things, break a career, drop a family, squander money, commit suicide. Particularly concerned about all the love in his youth. Each girl, once met her prince, loses sleep and sleep, dreaming, hoping and yearning. And when the "prince" does not pay attention to her, in despair asks someone: "What if I fell in love with a guy?" They scold her, discourage her, advise something. And the girl continues to suffer, thinking that this is love for life. How to be, really? Well, well, if everything goes through a couple of months. And if indeed everything is very serious, then what to do? First, let's try to understand what this feeling really is and what is love and true love.

How to distinguish love from love

Almost everyone sooner or laterfalls in love, testing for the object of falling in love with tender romantic feelings. We think about it day and night, we dream about how we will meet, how we will touch ... All people want to be loved and to love. This need is inherent in us by nature itself. And like we love, and even mutually, and everything is so good. But then the delight of communicating with a partner suddenly evaporates somewhere. With him, for some reason it becomes boring, and what earlier in this person seemed attractive, now repels and irritates. What's the matter? Yes, everything is quite simple. The fact is that we have mixed the hobby with love. And it's good, if we did not manage to get married. Then parting will not be so painful. And if we had time, and even got children, and after a joint life turned into hell, it's already a disaster. Therefore, it is desirable to learn to distinguish a simple hobby from true love. Actually, the difference between them is not so easy to notice. And the hobby and love accompany the desire to see your chosen one as often as possible. And in that, and in another case, thoughts are constantly occupied by them and fantasies about the development of relations. And just lovers, and true lovers dream of reciprocity. Both those, and others experience uplift and excitement in the presence of the object of their interest. Both do not know what to do when they are not around. So how do you recognize love and distinguish it from superficial love or simple sexual attraction? In order to understand whether or not love has really overtaken, or if you experience some other passing feelings, you need to calm down the emotions and soberly assess the situation. This will require an honest and reasonable answer to several questions.

What attracts you the most in a guy? If this is mainly his appearance (a beautiful face and figure, the manner of behaving and so on), then you are still just in love. Beauty is not eternal. People get sick, get old and change. You can not associate your life with someone just because it has attractive physical data. Sooner or later, even the most perfect appearance becomes familiar. And, consequently, interest is lost to her. And this can significantly shake the basis of relations. If you aspire to know your loved one as a person as a whole and find in him, despite the shortcomings, more and more attractive qualities, then it's time to talk about the authenticity of love. No, in this case, of course, there will be an assessment of his physical qualities. But it will already become an additional stimulus for the development of feelings.

What different qualities especially attract youin a guy and how many of them? With the enthusiasm for such qualities is usually little. Suppose you are fascinated by his smile, voice, sexuality, gestures, manner of speaking ... And only. In general, at the beginning of relations this is enough. However, if over time, not try to uncover in your beloved a lot of wonderful aspects, the feeling will come to an end. True love implies the desire to know a person and to discover in him new, very capable of traits. Each of us is individual and has both advantages and disadvantages. That's when you approach your young man with such a yardstick and take everything in it entirely, without trying to do something to radically change his character, feelings can be considered deep.

How did love begin? We are told a lot about love at first sight, about how only the girl saw the guy and immediately realized that he is her prince. In fact, true love can not flash instantaneously. The outbreak of feelings in the first seconds of the meeting usually means that the guy just made a strong impression on the girl. Sometimes it is based on sexual attraction, sometimes due to a moment, sometimes - an intuitive attraction. But always this is not yet love, but a hobby that can go through a very short time. If feelings last long enough, and your desire to be close to the guy only increases, despite the fact that you already quite well know his shortcomings - this is love. Perhaps, it has not yet blossomed in full force. But it has already risen and promises to become a luxurious perennial tree.

How do feelings affect you? When people are still just in love, they are not able to control their actions, in which discord begins. In this period the girl is overwhelmed only by emotions. In this state, she does not think about anything, except the object of falling in love, and can make a lot of mistakes. With true love, a person is more organized and strives to become better. Because it does not destroy, but inspires.

How do you survive a long period, atduring which you will not see the guy? If, some time after the parting, the desire to see your partner gradually fades and you get an interest in someone else - it was a hobby. With true love, the absence of a chosen one next to each day aggravates the desire to meet with him as quickly as possible. No one except this person is particularly interested, no one can take his place. In general, the separation test is one of the most reliable indicators of the authenticity of love. Yes, we are afraid of it, fearing that the chosen one will have another object of passion. Yes, it hurts and can happen. But it's better to let this happen before a serious relationship begins, not after.

I must say that the answer to all these questions is notcan give a full assessment of the feelings experienced to the guy. Often the development of deep relationships begins with a passion, which then turns into true love. In our case, we are mainly talking about the fact that one should not worry too much, if not the certainty that he is the one without which further life is unthinkable. Perhaps, it's just worth looking around, because there are so many interesting guys nearby! Surely, some of them like you. It is worth smiling such a cute, and all the suffering as a hand will remove. I do not want? Well, then we'll think what to do next.

How to act if you fall in love with a guy

If you fell in love with a guy seriously, and he has not yetreciprocated, do not despair and weep, exclaiming tragically: "Oh, he does not love me!". In this state it is necessary not to shed tears, but something to do. It is likely the young man is simply not tuned to any feelings, because you are younger or not very familiar with it. Maybe that's why he behaves this way, that he considers you a girl from another circle. Or he is not yet ready to fall in love. All this, in principle, is fixable, if you find the right behavior and decide what and how to do. Before you look for him, you need to put yourself in order. Girls with a suffering face and sad eyes almost no one likes. Therefore, I must say to myself: "It's hard for me right now, but joy awaits!" And confidently go to this joy. Let your eyes flare up, your back straighten, there will be an easy gait. Learn to smile, joke and communicate with everyone friendly and optimistic. Nothing like the guys in girls like a benevolent cheerful sociability and wit. Girls with such positive energy attract a lot of fans. And our young man, too, certainly will not remain so indifferent to this sparkling young lady. But for this you need to be present in his circle of communication as often as possible. So, one should learn as much as possible about his hobbies and try to divide them. Does a young man like sports? We go to classes in the same gym. He has a dog? We start a dog. Is the guy always stuck in the pool or fitness club? We record in the same pool and club. In a word, we try to do everything to meet with him often. And, on occasion, we start a conversation about the guy's favorite business, trying to make him understand that we also have something in this. After all, it's enough for a man and a woman to talk, and some kind of relationship is already going on. In the future, it remains only to warm up the interest of his beloved. For this you need to constantly improve, change something in yourself, learn something, not forgetting to watch your own appearance. Unwell, carelessly dressed girls can become friends, friends, but not loved. Therefore, we must always look neat and attractive and try to be as charming as possible. Then the guy will see in you a woman, not an asexual being. If this happens, he will begin to feel sympathy. This will be the first step towards the development of true feelings. Then you just have to pretend that you have not yet chosen whom to fall in love with. The young man will certainly be moved by the desire to be elected. The goal is achieved. Let now he thinks about what to do in order to achieve your love. We advise you to read:

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