You have made a decision that your childis it time to receive the rite of the sacrament of baptism? Well think about why you need it. Do you want to baptize a child because your family is a believer? Or is it just because baptism has become fashionable these days? However, priests are not advised to baptize a child just to pay homage to fashion. If you have made a decision about the baptism of a child, you must properly prepare for it. Parents have a large number of very different issues associated with such a sacrament as the rite of infant baptism. The answers to most of them parents can find in this article. Considering that the overwhelming majority of our readers, most likely Orthodox, this article will deal specifically with the process of the rite of baptism in the Orthodox Church.
The history of the rite of baptism
Baptism is one of the most ancient ritesOrthodox Church. The baptism of a person is considered a great sacrament. During the baptism, the main role is played by water. And it's no accident - water is endowed with the ability to wash away sins from a person. However, water in the process of baptism does not simply wash away sins from a person. The Church interprets the ordinance of the sacrament of baptism as the death of man for sin, but a resurrection for Christ. Baptism of the baby is his spiritual birth. Immediately thereafter, the sacrament of baptism will be performed over the child, the child is considered to be attached to the church. He has the right to participate in all other sacraments - communion, confession and others. Unaccompanied children, according to the rules of the church, are not entitled even to the burial service, in the event that a disaster occurs and the crumb died. The Orthodox Church allows for a ritual of the baptism of a person of any age. In the case of a small child, the rite of the baptism is performed according to the faith of its parent, both biological and godparents. If the baptism of an adult is performed without godparents, receivers are simply necessary for a child who has not attained the age of fourteen. Incidentally, the choice of godparents should be taken particularly carefully. Almost always godparents are chosen either among close friends, or among rich relatives. What is a sin to conceal - this mercantileism is inherent in most people. However, in no case should we forget about the responsibility that the church places on the godparents:
- The godparents must vouch for the faith of the newly baptized child before the Lord.
- It is the godparents who are responsible for the spiritual upbringing of the child.
- Godparents should participate equally with biological parents in the upbringing and life of the child.
- The godparents must take care of the child in the event that his biological parents do not become.
In our time there is a very widespread mistaken opinionthat the godparent and mother should not be married in any case. However, this is nothing more than a gloom of prejudice - Orthodoxy does not consider this fact unacceptable. Strictly speaking, the one who first takes the child by the waist immediately after the extraction of their font is considered to be the godfather - the godmother takes the girl in his hands, and the boy - the godfather. Although even in the churches themselves often adhere to this position. Since a small child is still in an unconscious age, and baptism takes solely the faith of his biological and godparents, they should ensure that the baptized child regularly takes the sacrament. Yes, and prayers before the communion should be read by the godparents, regardless of whether they commune themselves on this day, or not.
The presence of parents on baptism
Very many young mothers ask the samethe question that worries them is whether they will be allowed to attend the baptism rite. It depends on various factors, and first of all on the age of the child. So, until the fortieth day after birth, a woman in Orthodoxy is considered to be "unclean". Accordingly, in the event that baptism is received by a child who has not reached the age of forty, a woman is extremely undesirable to enter the temple. She should wait for the end of the rite of baptism at the entrance to the temple. If, after the birth, more than forty days have passed, the priest must read a special prayer over the woman, after which she is considered completely "cleansed." Therefore, parents should agree in advance with the priest and visit the church so that he can read the necessary prayer over the young mother. However, nevertheless, modern life has made a lot of adjustments, including the views of the Orthodox Church. Today, very many churches are absolutely loyal to the presence of a young mother, no matter how much time passed after giving birth, and whether prayers were read over the mother. Therefore, Mama herself must make such a responsible decision. The Orthodox Church, when deciding on the baptism of a child, is guided by certain rules that regulate the age characteristics of those children who are preparing to receive the rite of the sacrament of baptism. Until the child has reached the age of seven, for the rite of baptism, only the consent of the parents is necessary, because they bear full responsibility for the spiritual development of the baby, both before the church and before the Lord. After the child is seven years old, the consent of only parents for baptism is not enough - the consent of the child is also necessary. If the child does not want, the priest will not be baptized. But in the event that a child is already fourteen years old, and he wants to receive baptism, the parents' consent to this is not necessary for the priest. The child is considered old enough to make such decisions on his own.
The Baptism of the Child
Of course, all parents are interested in whatoccurs during the rite of baptism - what to expect and what to prepare for? Below is a brief description of the traditional ritual of the sacrament of the child's baptism. Of course, in various churches it can vary slightly, but its basic principles are unchanged everywhere. Until the baby is immersed in the font, it is held by the godparents - the girl in the hands of the godfather holds, and the boy - his godmother. After the child is immersed in the font, the boy receives the godfather in his arms, and the girl is the godmother. For the boy's churching, he is brought for the altar, going there through the Ponomar door. The priest together with the boy bowed to the throne and carried the child through the southern Ponomarians. Girls forbid the Orthodox religion for the altar, because only men can become clergymen. After this, both boys and girls, the priest is attached to the icons of the Mother of God and Savior. After this, the child is given to his father or mother, if they are present, or to the godfather.
Preparation for the rite of baptism
And now it's time to talk about howcorrectly prepare for the child's baptisms so that they become a real holiday, both for the baby himself and his parents - both biological and godparents, and not a test of strength. Parents should pay attention to the following points:
Despite the fact that the modern church to manythings become more loyal. However, it is highly recommended to respect the church and its traditions. First, for the rite of the sacrament of baptism, the godparents and biological parents of the child must necessarily come in the crosses. Also the godmother should carefully think over his wardrobe. It is unacceptable to come to church in trousers - only a dress that covers the shoulders and below the knee. An exception to this rule are only small girls who have not reached the age of seven. The head of a woman must be covered. Choosing shoes should also pay attention. Although the church does not say anything about women's shoes, it's worth to give up the heel. At least on the basis of practical considerations - depending on how many children are baptized that day, the ceremony can last from half an hour to two hours, and all this time you have to stand still, holding a crumb on your hands. To the clothes of a man, the church does not make any special demands. However, you need to avoid t-shirts and shorts - after all, the church is not a beach, is it? Yes, and trendy clothes, and bright makeup should also be set aside for a more appropriate occasion. Do not attract special attention to the church, because your goal is completely different.
- Cross and things for baptism
According to the traditions of the Orthodox believers, inIf you have a fee for the baptismal ceremony in your chosen church, it must be paid by the godfather of the child. In the event that a boy receives a baptism, the godfather must also acquire a cross for him. In the same case, if baptism is accepted by a girl, her godmother should take care of buying a cross. In both cases, regardless of whether a boy or a girl is baptized, the godmother must acquire the things needed for the baptismal ceremony. As a rule, the following things are necessary for the baptismal ceremony for a child:
- The cross. It does not matter - gold, silver or the most ordinary.
- A small icon of that saint, whose name is the child.
- One clean diaper and two towels - one large, the other a little smaller.
- Special christening shirt.
You need to buy all of the above thingsin advance - the exception is only a cross and an icon of the saint. They can be purchased in any temple. However, remember that a cross must be worn on a person all his life - if you want your child to have a gold cross, get it in advance, in a jewelry store. In churches, it is impossible to buy a gold cross. Also, experienced parents do not recommend donning a cross to the baby not only on the chain, but even on a string - they can rub the delicate skin of the crumb quite hard. It is much wiser to put it on a satin ribbon. In addition, for the ceremony of baptism you will need candles, which can also be bought directly in the church. Precisely specify how many candles you need to buy in order not to be distracted in the process of baptism, detaining not only yourself, but all the others. It is much more reasonable to buy a little more candles. In addition, remember that most of the money earned from the sale of candles goes as a donation to the needs of the temple. Baptismal shirt can be bought already ready - sold whole baptismal kits, and you can sew yourself. In this there is absolutely nothing complicated - in the cut it resembles an ordinary nightgown. However, an ordinary Christian cross must necessarily be on the back. Of course, ready-made baptismal kits are very beautiful. However, they have several significant drawbacks. Firstly, their price is quite high: the child and father absolutely do not care how much a christening shirt of your crumb is worth - 100 rubles or 1000. It is better to spend this money on a child, or donate to the needs of the church. And secondly, most of the shirts from baptismal sets, especially for girls, have a rather complex cut. Therefore, it is extremely inconvenient to wear them on a child, especially on a wet one after immersion in the font. Do not forget about towels. One large, bath towel is necessary in order to wrap it in crumbs after the font. The second towel can come in handy - how little embarrassment can happen with a small child during baptism? But diapers are not recommended - so take care of taking with you the necessary number of clean diapers.
- Baby Feeding
Be sure to check the feeding schedule. It is impossible that the crumb would suffer from hunger. In the event that the baby is breastfeeding and the mother is near, there are no problems. But in all other cases it's worth taking care of taking food with the child. Do not forget about water, especially during the hot season.
- Photo and video shooting
Until recently, photos of the child's christening seemedsomething incredible. In our time, such photographs are not surprising. Filming in the church has become quite ordinary and commonplace. However, in each specific case, talk directly with the priest, who will conduct the rite of the sacrament of baptism. Some clerics adhere to old views, and therefore are extremely negative about photos and video. However, even if you have received permission to shoot, in no case be too intrusive. It is not necessary for the sake of a good frame at the most inopportune moment to climb under the arm of the priest, hindering him. Remember that the primary task is precisely the baptism of your child, and not the creation of successful photographs.
After the church
In our time, as a rule, after the church, adultspeople celebrate the baptism of a child. However, unfortunately, the holiday often turns into an ordinary celebration. But do not abuse alcohol this day - you mark the child's baptism - that is, the birth in the spiritual life. And, as is known, drunkenness is not welcomed by the church. Therefore, do not start the first day of a new child's life in this way! We advise you to read: