quarrel with your loved one Well, here, we again quarreled with a loved one. Again angry anger, anger, vexation. No, why is he always arguing ?! After all, what he says is utter nonsense! And in general, we are right, we are right in everything! And he is not! And no nails! None! No ... But after all, a quarrel with a loved one occurred, and not with the uncle in line ... And on the soul restless. With someone you love, you do not want to make trouble. With them only about tenderness and caresses dreams. So? So! So, we need to somehow keep the relationship and put up. How to do it correctly?

How to put up with your loved one after a fight

A quarrel with a loved one is a very unpleasant thing andpainful. Of course, I want to make peace as soon as possible and drive away the tension that is in the air. But let's not hurry. We will do something, trying in the meantime to look at ourselves from the side, having risen in the place of the beloved and soberly assessing the situation. It is necessary to accept his right to his own point of view. Otherwise, if we approach him with the words: "Enough to swear, but I'm still right!" - the second stage of the quarrel will begin. But we do not need it! In order to restore peace in a relationship, do not start again to prove your case. Because "either no one is right or everyone is right." Even if the problem does exist, it should be discussed with the favorable emotional state of both. And to discuss the problem, not the identity of each other. At the same time, we can not proceed from the fact that we are always right, but the man is not. Like, a woman knows better. In this case, quarrels with your loved one will become regular. Because every person sees the solution of a question in his own way. And his point of view has the right to exist. To begin a truce is better with the words: "It is very hard for me when we quarrel! Let's not do it again! ". Our task is to establish relations, not to emerge victorious from the most senseless battle. If the beloved continues to sulk and does not go to contact, you should wait. Well, we've already cooled down, but he's not here yet! Give him time. Let him go. For us, the main thing is to learn how to listen. Let the beloved express, if he wants. It may very well be that there is a reasonable grain in his position. Or that out of two opposing points of view will be the best way to solve the problem. After all, it is considered something from different sides! In general, in order to quarrel with your loved one was not too painful for us and for him, we need to learn how to figure out the relationship correctly. First, you can not conflict anywhere and when it got. For quarreling, you must choose both time and place. Do not row in the presence of strangers, before leaving someone from two to work or study, during a pleasant stay. The quarrel must be considered. When it takes on a logical form, it will be possible to solve any question without offending each other in vain. If the scandal begins to gain momentum and cross the line of reason, it's worth picking yourself up and stopping. Nothing good will come of such a "dialogue". Instead of trying to come to a consensus, it will result in mutual reproaches and resentments. Therefore, when we feel that we lose the ability to think, and the throat starts to squeeze rabies, we slow down. We leave in another room or go for a walk in the park and gather with thoughts. And only then, already calmly, we start to discuss the problem again. If necessary. I must say that this is often necessary. Hiding discontent with the actions of a loved one, fearing to destroy the peace of relations, to be silent and tolerate is much more dangerous than to expound his claims to him. The suppressed irritation will sooner or later break out with a force similar to the eruption of a volcano. Then it will be very difficult to control your emotions. And who knows what will end this storm of anger. It is possible that a complete catastrophe. If a man loves, and we will speak kindly and calmly, he will certainly hear us. No, perhaps he will even object, but he will take note. And we listen to it and draw conclusions too. If we do not understand something, we will ask you to explain that there is no misunderstanding in the relationship. And try to understand your beloved, no matter how difficult it was. After all, if there is a conflict, then he, too, is confident in the correctness of his position. There is a possibility that we are wrong! People are forgivable to make mistakes. Well, well, someone will say. Learn to quarrel - it's still half the battle. And how to avoid quarrels with your favorite at all? It's almost the most expensive person in the world! Why do we quarrel? quarrels with your belovedA quarrel with your loved one

Why do we quarrel with loved ones

In general, quarrels usually occur between people,which are not indifferent to each other. If a person is not interested, he can not hurt something. What does it matter what and how are they said or done? Even if we are hooked, it is unlikely that the conflict will be too stormy. Well, we'll quarrel, well, let's make a comment and calm down. Because he is an outsider. Passing. Another thing - a loved one. Our thoughts, desires, dreams are connected with it. Freely, involuntarily, all of his, even the most innocent, acts and words are seen. And something, of course, affects the living. After all, the loved one is very close, at the very heart. It is quite natural that some of his awkward movements cause, if not pain, then discomfort. Because he touches us. A quarrel with a close person is an indicator of the fact that in relations, for their further development, it is time to solve some problem. Avoid it is not necessary. Otherwise, the problem will grow to global proportions. How then it will be solved, who knows. If the conflict is settled at the very beginning, everything will fall into place. People are imperfect, and everyone may not like something in the behavior of another. But we can not read other people's thoughts. Therefore, and know that in us someone does not like, if he does not say, we can not. Well, when something does not like a neighbor, a passer-by, colleagues, that's okay. All you will not be lovely. But when a loved one - this is a serious question. Since if you do nothing and do not try to change, you can lose it. In principle, finding out the relationship helps people better get to know each other and improve. However, quarrels are useful only when there really is love. If it is doubtful, it's better not to get your nerves on and off in different directions. Why empty scandals, which still do not lead to anything? In life, and without them, there are difficulties. Well, if there is love, do quarrels occur too often? So, we are too quick-tempered and we are conflicting over trifles. In this case, it is advisable to work on yourself. And to learn, having felt the tension in communicating with the beloved, inwardly agree with him. Even if it, in our opinion, is wrong. Then, when the tension subsides, we will discuss this issue. In the meantime, the main task is to avoid a quarrel. Well, when we did not manage without it, we will not yell at each other in two voices at the same time. Let's say a man, and then we'll start to twiddle about him. So, at least, you can hear something and be at least partly heard. There is a good technique, the use of which helps to avoid special conflicts. It is enough to think up some code word and agree with the beloved to pronounce it, as soon as you want to quarrel. Let it be the word: "giraffe", "valenok", "umbrella", "rocket" ... Anything. The main thing is to take it as a signal that it's time to release steam. Said a couple of times before the start of the conflict, this word will eventually turn into a kind of lightning rod. Well, in general, of course, to reduce the number of quarrels to a minimum, you need to determine what their reasons are. Perhaps it is the desire to remake another or the desire to eliminate from the partner bad habits or mistrust, resentment. All this is not necessarily expressed in a heated debate. Quarrel can manifest itself as a painful silence. It's not that important. Importantly, two loving people can not normally discuss the moments that undermine the basis of a happy relationship. This should be learned. Love is a rare gift, it must be protected. It will be very unfortunate if it disappears due to some misunderstanding. In general, quarrels with loved ones - this is the norm, if people try to understand each other and take the opposite point of view. Only the unity of the male and female worldview is able to find a solution to any problem, no matter how complex it was. And only such unity opens the true path to happiness. We advise you to read:

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