A photo: GettySpecialists distinguish several age crises in children: 1 year, 3-4 years, 6-7 years. But the greatest difficulties in communicating with the child parents experience in the so-called teenage crisis - from 10 to 15 years. During this period of maturing personality, there often is not enough inner harmony and understanding of oneself, including because of the riot of hormones. There is growing excitement, because of what it can become secretive, closed or, on the contrary, unnecessarily emotional and aggressive. What to do in conflict situations and how to respond to the child's behavior competently, we understand together with the family psychologist Elena Shamova.

Situation 1

10 year old boy watching cartoon, restingafter school. They agreed that in an hour he would sit for lessons. Time passed, my mother invited the boy to the desk - no reaction, the second time - again no, the third time she came up and turned off the TV. The son reacted violently: he was rude, said that his parents do not like him, and he swung at his mother.

Tip

Here the red line is a struggle for powerbetween the parent and the child. Mom tries at all costs to get up over the teenager, to do it in his own way, the boy resists and, without finding other arguments, begins to use verbal aggression (to be rude). Rudeness in this case is his defensive reaction, an attempt to stop the suppression of his own desire. For my mother, instead of demonstrating my superiority, it would be much more effective to turn to my son in a friendly way and warn him in advance: "Native, let's put the cartoon in pause after 10 minutes, work out, and then continue to watch."

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