The birth of a child is a real holiday forfamilies. But for a newly mummy, a new life can turn into a real nightmare, which is often called postnatal depression. Let's try to figure out what's the matter. First, you need to find out the causes of postpartum depression. During pregnancy, most women experience a real attack of hormones. The body changes, and to make it easier for a woman to survive, hormones are released that, on the one hand, give her joy and help to look at the world easier, and on the other hand, make a woman more emotional. That's why sometimes it's not easy to understand the behavior and desires of expectant mothers. They then cry, then they laugh, then they are sad, and then they are unjustly happy. But this behavior of pregnant women has long surprised no one - all are accustomed to and are sympathetic to them. Why is this happening? Some neuropsychologists argue that depression after the appearance of crumbs is most associated with hormonal disorders in the body of a woman. Female sex hormones during pregnancy are made in a huge amount, and after birth the body tries to come to a biological norm. Thus, the inability to psychologically move quickly in the conditions of a new life leads a woman to the appearance of postpartum depression. Most doctors are inclined to believe that postpartum depression is associated exclusively with the psychological mood of a woman, which depends on her character and innate temperament. In support of this, they cite examples of women who, after giving birth, are not prone to malaise, but, on the contrary, are full of happiness and joy, despite the new responsibilities and difficulties with caring for crumbs. Let's take a closer look at this issue.
Causes of postpartum depression
And now let's talk about what happens towoman after the birth of a child. Newly mum is experiencing real stress. You will not believe, but sometimes even the most difficult work can not be put on the same level with the life of a young mother. After all, at work, you can always take a break to relax, chat with friends or drink coffee. In the end, take a sick leave or leave. Mamas with young children can only dream about this. They work around the clock, seven days a week. Sometimes they even have to go to the toilet with a child in their arms. And you will not go to the superiors, you will not ask for a day off ... Have you imagined your work in this mode? That's the same ... And add here a certain physical ailment and a huge sense of responsibility for the most expensive - for the baby. Most often this is the main cause of postpartum depression in women.
- Inconsistency of the situation with expectations
Of course, the woman was waiting for the birthits crumbs. However, as a rule, if a woman expects the first baby, she does not even know what kind of work she is going to have. No, of course, in theory, she knew perfectly well what would be difficult. But theory is one thing, and practice is quite another. And as you become aware, the young mother starts to panic and is experiencing real stress. By the way, psychologists say that it is for this reason that the appearance of postpartum depression is most often noted in women who became mothers for the first time. As a rule, more experienced mothers already know perfectly well what the load expects them, and how they can make their lives easier in this or that situation. By the way, if there are women in your environment who have recently become mothers, talk to them. Surely they will tell you some nuances and secrets.
- Home duties and child care
The state of stress in mom's life is limiteda brief period from a few days to a couple of weeks. This moment is characterized by the fact that a woman faces new responsibilities and a new daily routine. A small child requires maximum attention almost 24 hours a day. Just think about it - feeding, caring, taking care of a healthy and timely sleep, feeding again, daily walks in the fresh air, bathing, preparing for a night's sleep, and in the breaks, household duties are also imposed: lunch, laundry, ironing, cleaning the apartment ...
- Insufficient amount of sleep
Some mothers try, if possibleadjust to the biological clock of the baby so that a little longer to sleep and gain strength. But even this is sometimes difficult in the first six months - the kids wake up several times during the night, do not always want to eat at the usual time and can often be very moody for no reason.
- Feeling of own impotence and helplessness
Moreover, if a woman has the first child, then almost every mother is afraid to do something wrong, to harm both the child and herself because of ignorance of some things.
- Visits of friends and relatives
Agree that the very process of childbirth takesa lot of strength for my mother, and often after this a large number of relatives and friends who wish to personally congratulate the newborn baby and his mother, not only scares the woman, but literally exhausts psychologically. And openly declare: "I now have postpartum depression. Do not touch me or help me! "May not be every woman. Perhaps, that is why it is so hard for young mothers. That's all - favorable conditions for the emergence of postpartum depression created
Another interesting point. There are situations when a woman can not immediately take a child (there is no joy in dealing with him, there is no feeling of custody of the child, etc.). This is due to the fact that many future mothers imagined not only their long-awaited child, but also life, which will begin at his birth. Feelings of guilt, persecuting a woman, can also become a decisive factor affecting the occurrence of postpartum depression. But usually everything falls into place after a couple of days. Many couples in such cases turn to the attending physician or psychologist who help to find emotional balance, look at everything from the new side and find the best solution. Do not be afraid or ashamed, because doctors know firsthand what post-natal depression is in women. Do not forget that the role of the pope, many belittle in this matter. Who as not a beloved person can help out in household chores, help with the child and morally support. Together, experiencing this time is much easier, and the experience gained beyond doubt is priceless. Because sometimes it is worth to indulge in the small whims of a young mother - perhaps some insignificant detail will help her to withstand another difficult day and not think about postpartum depression. Often, such a spleen passes after a while (from a couple of days to a couple of weeks), depending on the temperament and nature of the mother, on the psychological mood and external circumstances. But if improvements are not observed, this may indicate the presence of such a serious problem as prolonged postpartum depression. Sometimes it can be caused by a child's illness, lack of support from the husband, family and friends. It is necessary to find out whether there are other stress catalysts - work, money problems, and much more. It is especially important to remember that if a woman has been depressed earlier, there is a very high probability that postpartum depression will not bypass her. And to predict, depression lasts in each concrete case, even the skilled psychologist can not.
How to recognize the problem on time?
The most unpleasant thing in postpartum depression isthat it can last a long time and, of course, it's hard to cope with this without the help of a specialist. There are a number of signs of postpartum depression that will help in time to recognize the presence of such a serious problem. And this is very important, because the sooner the treatment is started, the easier and faster the relief will come. And the neglected form of postpartum depression presents an extremely serious threat to the psychological - and even physical - health of the young mother. And it is very important to know these signs - even if you are absolutely balanced person and are 100% sure that you will never be depressed after childbirth. Depression, like the chronic fatigue syndrome, is so insidious that it can hit any person. And most often quite unexpectedly, not only for others, but for him. Therefore, it is better to carefully study the symptoms. As they say, who is forewarned is armed. And do not delay the time - if you notice these symptoms, immediately take appropriate measures. Do not wait until the situation worsens and there are symptoms of neurosis or, worse, a nervous breakdown. With these complications, coping will be much more difficult. And keep in mind that the symptoms - the indicator is quite subjective. Everything depends on the individual characteristics of the organism of each particular woman. One young mother can express all of the following symptoms of postpartum depression. And another woman - only a few of them. In more rare cases, the symptoms are generally very difficult to notice with the naked eye. As a rule, this applies to women who are very good at owning their emotions. People around them will not notice the symptoms, because the woman will not allow herself to give vent to feelings. By the way, such women are hardest - the symptoms of depression are absent, they themselves will not complain. And close people continue to remain unaware that the young mother desperately needs their help, even though she does not even admit it to herself. But let's still find out what are the symptoms of postpartum depression:
- Moral depression
A woman experiences a constant feeling of sadness,internal emptiness and anxiety. Daily work at home and childcare become too much monotonous work. Good news and minor pleasant trifles no longer bring joy to a woman, but only depressing an already restless state and a feeling of frustration in everything.
- Increased emotionality
Very often the young popes sincerely wonder,why do their worst half continue to behave as if they are still pregnant. A woman can cause a scandal for nothing, "blows up" and faints over trifles, can burst into tears because of absolute trivialities, for example, a broken cup. Sometimes such a condition of a young mother is imputed to a hormonal background, which has not yet recovered from childbirth. This is partly true - but only partly. In most cases, this emotional stability is explained by nothing more than the same notorious postpartum depression. It's just wonderful if the family understands what happens to a woman and does not contradict her. But in the event that such behavior seems to them a banal whim, the young mother will have a hard time. After all, in addition to the psychological burden that she already feels, she will also have to find out the relationship with her close people. And there, you see, and to a nervous breakdown near ...
- Change in appetite
There should also be a lack of appetite or,on the contrary, its amplification. During a severe psychological condition, namely postpartum depression, women tend to either "seize" problems, or, conversely, refuse normal food by eating on the go. Both are highly undesirable situations. In the event that a young mother refuses food, she jeopardizes her health. During pregnancy, the body's reserves are practically depleted. And if there is no adequate nutrition, the probability of developing iron deficiency anemia and vitamin deficiency is high enough. And than it is fraught - it is not difficult to guess. You do not want to spend a month in a hospital bed? And this is the case, if for some reason you do not reproach the baby with a breast. And if your baby eats exactly Mom's milk, you also endanger his health. After all, for adaptation and growth, he needs a huge amount of a variety of substances that he can get only from mother's milk. And since we have already found out that the mother's own reserves are simply not available by the time the baby is born, there is simply nowhere to take them for milk. Except, of course, food. And if your mother does not eat anything? Correctly, anemia, beriberi, delayed growth and development of the baby. What kind of mother would want this? But overeating is no less dangerous. And first of all for the mother herself. You do not want to gain a dozen or two extra pounds in a couple of months? Get rid of them then will be oh how hard. And to be beautiful, believe me, you again will want very, very soon. You will then reproach yourself for gluttony, but it will be too late. But pay attention - the refusal of food does not always indicate exactly the depressive state. Sometimes it can be, and is due to the fact that the "newly minted" mom simply does not have enough energy, neither time to cook, nor to use it. In this situation, a young mother should ask for help. Remember, what is fraught with malnutrition?
- Sleep disorders - drowsiness and insomnia
Here you should be careful - insomniais a very disturbing symptom. It is insomnia that leads the symptoms of the most common psychological disorders. However, make sure that it is about insomnia, and not about situations in which a woman is forced to give up sleep in time to manage all the cases. Again, the whole routine changes and it is often difficult for a woman to calculate the time for all her duties and deeds. Anxiety is worth to be beaten in case a woman really faces insomnia. Time to sleep is, but the head is full of thoughts and experiences, as a result of which it becomes difficult for a woman to fall asleep. Too much sleepiness, too, does not say anything good. As a rule, drowsiness occurs when a person is on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Of course, in those cases when any other physical factors, for example, this or that disease, are excluded. Thus the body tries to protect itself. But in this case, one should not confuse pathological drowsiness and chronic lack of sleep, which for a young mother is a habitual condition. Of course, it is very, very difficult to determine the type of drowsiness yourself. Therefore, it is best to seek help from a doctor who will really and objectively assess the condition of the young mother and, if necessary, give her recommendations and prescribe the necessary treatment.
- Lack of ability to concentrate
There are so many new cares,with everything - less and less. Because of this, sometimes even simple things can cause not just frustration, but also real hysteria. For example, a request to cook dinner at a time when Mummy ironing clothes, puts the life of the young father in jeopardy - she can throw an iron. Of course, we are now exaggerating. But, as you know, every joke has a bit of a joke.
Treatment of depression
Very often you can hear the question about how mucha similar depressive state lasts. Definitely can not be said - it all depends on several factors. From the individual characteristics of the psyche of a woman, from the general state of her health, from the help of her close people. And especially on how quickly the problem was discovered. To diagnose postpartum depression, it is best to consult a doctor. He will conduct a medical examination of a woman and ask questions to find out what thoughts and worries worry a woman, what feelings and emotions she is experiencing. In the future, the doctor observes the patient's condition for a certain period and makes a diagnosis. If necessary, the doctor will appoint a woman a session of psychotherapy, physiotherapy treatment, activities aimed at overall strengthening of the body. And in especially severe cases, the doctor can decide on the need for medical treatment. By the way, it can only be carried out under the strict supervision of medical personnel. Very often, young mothers make a mistake, which can not be allowed in any case - they begin to take certain sedatives on their own. For the sake of justice, it should be noted that most mothers still understand the danger to the child. And so they prefer plant remedies. However, very many herbs are far from as safe as they might seem at first glance. And very many of them penetrate into breast milk and are capable of harming the baby. You do not want this? And, besides, it is necessary to know what preparations are needed at the moment for a woman. Often sedative drugs only worsen the situation, aggravating apathy, depression and complete indifference. In a number of cases, absolutely different drugs are needed that excite the nervous system. Therefore, leave the right to prescribe pharmacological preparations to the doctor. If, of course, you are not the enemy of your health and the health of your crumbs. The doctor knows exactly how to get out of the postpartum depression not only as quickly as possible, but with minimal losses. But does it really depend on relatives and friends? Of course, this is not so. And let's find out how to help a woman cope with postpartum depression, and, if possible, completely avoid her appearance. You will not believe, but just a few simple things can solve this problem as quickly as possible.
- Distribution of duties.
It is necessary to make a new daily routine,rationally planning new responsibilities and, if possible, distributing them with the husband or family members (grandparents, older children). Do not be shy, ask for help - you deserve it! Surely your family will not refuse to help you. And even if neither mother nor mother-in-law is around, and her husband is always at work, one can find a way out of the situation. Surely you have a girlfriend? Ask them for help! As practice shows, in most cases, women willingly respond to such a request. Especially if they do not have their children yet. And let this help be minimal. After all, even going to the store takes a lot of time and energy from a young mother.
- Daily regime
Try to allocate the time necessary forhealthy sleep. In the end, if once a night a dad gets up to the baby, no harm will happen. Do you breastfeed? So what, just put it to your chest. And then put it into the crib - you just wake up and do not have time. Sorry for my husband, who tomorrow to work? Well, taking care of others is worthy of praise. But remember that you are not at the resort. What is there to do? Nobody promised that it would be easy. And in the daytime try to go to sleep at a time when the baby is sleeping. Do you have a lot to do? Well and let - you do not live in a museum, the floor, not washed one day, is not a tragedy of universal scale. Do not have time to make dinner? Well, an excuse to pamper yourself - you can always order food from the restaurant. Well, or pizza, at the worst. A nursing mother, who only needs to dream about pizza, will completely manage the curd dessert or yoghurt. Dad is outraged? Explain to him that this lasts only until you come to your senses. Does not understand? Under a plausible pretext, leave him alone at home with the baby for a couple of hours. And try to guess the time in such a way that the crumb was awake. Most likely, after this, no more claims to you will ever arise in your life.
By the way, about food. The above variant is suitable only for emergency cases - it should not become a system. Take care that your diet is full and balanced. By the way, for this purpose it is absolutely not necessary to stand for hours at the stove, inventing more and more new dishes. There are a lot of recipes that allow you to eat deliciously and correctly.
Whatever one may say, a woman always remains a woman. Even if she was just a mum just a couple of weeks ago - months ago. And I always want to look good all the time. A neuhozhenny appearance, hair with otrosshimi roots, a stained home dressing gown to whom you want to spoil the mood and without postpartum depression. As practice shows, those young mothers, whose depression lasts long enough, especially in its appearance do not bother. But those women who find time and follow themselves, almost no depressions. So take this way of fighting postpartum depression for a note. On the soul was very sad? Visit a hairdresser or go to a clothing store - how can you put it off? And do not rush to object - these little things are very cool distracting from negative thoughts and cheer up.
- Communication with people
In no case do not become a recluse. Do not avoid contact with people, no matter how hard you initially were. Very soon this reluctance to see anyone will pass, and you will begin to enjoy the communication. You have no one to communicate with? Girlfriends are busy, but do household members work? Little trouble! Take the stroller and go outside. Even psychologists advise women in such a situation to start communicating with other moms. And not only to not only get practical advice and share their experiences, but also to realize that not always other mothers immediately find a way out of difficult situations. It is necessary for a woman's self-esteem to go up and she gets rid of the worries that she can permanently harm somehow herself or a child. Yes, and women's secrets have the right to exist - sometimes it's nice to gossip. And it is very likely that among young mothers you will have new friends. After all, your children will grow together, most likely, go to one kindergarten, and then to school. And you will be over a cup of coffee with emotion to remember your fears and anxieties.
- Expressing your emotions
According to psychologists, for humanmentality is nothing more terrible than the inability to open emotionally. This circumstance even a healthy person can bring to a nervous breakdown, not to mention the fragile psyche of a woman who recently became a mother. Sharing impressions, news, discoveries and joys is extremely necessary. If the mother is introvert nature, in such cases self-expression will help - keeping a baby diary, photographing, drawing, knitting - all this not only emotionally unloads a woman, but also helps to refresh thoughts in the head and recharge oneself in a good mood. By the way, the same is true with regard to negative emotions - they also need to give a way out. If you have someone to talk to, share your fears, anxieties and doubts - it's just wonderful. But if not - do not despair. You can resort to one psychological device - the simplest, but very effective. Take a piece of paper - it is on him that you will bear all your negative. If you draw well, try using your watercolor paints to portray your fears and anxieties. Do not know how to draw? Do not worry, make a list. Done? Burn this leaf. Typically, this method helps very effectively - depression lasts a much shorter period of time.
- Awareness of what is happening
We must not forget that during the care of the child,sometimes there may be a sense of remoteness from him. Emotional intimacy may vary depending on the circumstances and psychological state of the woman, but this does not mean that she is a bad mother. A similar phenomenon is observed in a huge number of newly mums, you are not the first and not the last. In no case do not blame yourself for this, otherwise your psychological state will rapidly deteriorate. Can not deal with anxious thoughts? Talk about this with friends who already have children - surely they will tell you about a similar situation. If, after this, the guilt does not disappear, it is worth thinking about how to seek help from a psychologist. To leave such a question without attention is by no means possible, since such a state can turn into serious problems. And the longer it lasts, the higher the risk of developing various nervous disorders.
- Pamper yourself
At the first opportunity it is necessary to allowwoman a little pampered - shopping, meeting with girlfriends, a romantic evening and much more. All this will help a little to abstract from the heavy work days and recharge. By the way, do not forget about the husband, who after the birth of the child may feel alienated. Try not only to go through new trials together, but also to rejoice together and celebrate all achievements and victories;
- Sexual life
Do not lose sight of the sex life. The problem for many women is that, after giving birth, they feel unattractive to the opposite sex. After all, we know that an extra millimeter is seen by women in a hundredfold increase, and everyday cares without taking care of themselves make even the first beauties of the world shudder from their reflection in the mirror. Husbands should often compliment their wives, try to discuss problems and not allow doubts to their spouses that they are primarily women. And in most cases, a woman does not have any strength for sexual life itself. However, it is extremely important for them to know that they are still loved and desired. And as for sex itself - a man needs a little patience. If he will take care of his wife, help her - very quickly sex life will go into the usual course. And - most likely - expectation will be rewarded a hundredfold. Most women claim that after giving birth, the sex life becomes much brighter and more intense. Of course, if a couple has enough wisdom and patience together to survive this difficult period. Incidentally, most young mothers, even the most reserved, in this difficult period for them, there are fears that her husband had a mistress. And no matter how much a man tries to prove to his wife that this is not so, the alarms do not disappear. Especially in the event that a woman does not have the words and deeds of a man's confirmation, which is still of interest to him primarily as a woman, and not just the mother of his child. If a man will be hysterical and leave the conversation, the suspicions of a woman will only strengthen. Therefore, it is extremely important for a man to show endurance and patience - very quickly everything will fall into place. And how many nerves he will save his wife!
- Timely contact with a doctor
In some cases, it can be effectivetreatment to a doctor or a psychologist before the onset of depression. In such cases, a woman can prescribe antidepressants, which are safe for her mother's health, as well as for her baby. How many complications can be prevented in this way! Remember that any depression is treated quickly enough. And how long it will last in your case depends first of all on you. The main thing is for a woman to understand that she is the best mother in the world, and any problems are easily solved. The depression that has arisen in life after the birth of a crumb, the treatment of which is possible and quite effective, will not last forever. It is necessary just to adequately look at things, do not be afraid to open oneself to happiness and go to it with a confident gait. We advise you to read: