The first date for girls is like ... the first purchasecar for guys. As if everything is familiar, all the conditions are met, all the girlfriends told, and what to do and what to say is still not clear. A lot of girls on the first date are lost, because they do not know what to talk about with a guy. Both guys and girls have always been interested in what you can talk about at the first meeting. The question of what can generally be communicated with an unfamiliar person, especially when the first rudiments of mutual sympathy arose, were always of interest to the fair sex. It is best to consider your first conversation on a date with a guy as an opportunity to demonstrate your interest. It is possible that the guy is also worried and hopes that the subjects for the conversation will suggest the girl. Therefore it is important to think in advance what to talk about with a guy, and what topics for conversation it is better not to touch on the first date.

How to start

You do not have to set a goal to show youroratorical skills gained in the school debate club. Sometimes a smile and a look can convey more information about the location to the interlocutor than the entire large encyclopedia. And not only sometimes. Overtime chatter leads to very different results than expected. A correct look and an appropriate smile can melt the ice of the first communication. Indeed, the constraint of the first moments of communication is easier to overcome, smiling. A guy who is greeted with a smile, as a rule, always begins to speak first. And then everything will go by itself. The conversation is fastened, a lively conversation begins ... And here many make mistakes. Very often the girls on the first date or tell a bunch of useless details about their lives, or answer monosyllables for all the questions of the guy. Neither one nor the other do not need.

What you can not talk about

Planning or simply thinking about what you will betalk to a young man, pre-set a ban on certain topics. For example, do not discuss your illness. Believe me, the conversation about health will be more interesting for your doctor than for your interlocutor on the first date. If you do not set a goal together to make an appointment with a therapist, then you do not need to talk about sores. Another forbidden topic is reasoning about prosperity. How many cars in your dad's garage and how much money on his (or his parents') accounts, how these goods are received - is a very interesting topic for the tax inspection. But in any case not for young people on a romantic date. Discussing the level of income with an unfamiliar person is simply indecent. Also how indecent to talk about personal life. For this there will be time. Another topic that should not just be closed, but even buried and forgotten, where it is buried - past relationships. Stories about your "former" or "former" are unlikely to please your interlocutor, and you will be uncomfortable to know when, how and with whom the person who is at the moment with you is spending time with you. We must live real, and comparisons with the "former" - the lot of grumpy and stupid ladies with an unclear position in life. You're not like that!

Show female wisdom

If the guy really interested you, thentry to learn more about it. Do not ask questions with a machine gun, but gently, listening to his words, weave a thread of conversation. Wise women listen more than they say. To do this, there is not much to do: show sincere interest in his stories and ask leading questions, starting from the details that are present in his narrative. Any little thing in the conversation can be the beginning of a very interesting story about your counterpart. But - attention! If the guy still begins to talk about his former women - listen more carefully doubly. Because the way he responds to them, can serve as a signal for understanding what he expects from you and what he does not want to see his future girlfriend. Yes, you can predict how he will later talk about you. And do not expect that all those surrounding him earlier, before you, women were bad, but about such an angel as you are, you can not say anything bad. It is possible that they also thought the same, but the negative, with which the stories about them are painted, characterize the guy rather than his former girls. If you do not know what to talk about, tell a funny story from what you heard or read recently. It is not necessary to tell on the first date how many cats live in your apartment, what a bastard can be a neighbor-drunkard, or, even worse, about a very complicated schedule of studies at a university or school. Do not ask the guy about his personal life and biography. It's still not an interrogation, but a date. And you came in order to spend pleasant time with a guy, and not to fill in personal data, his, your own or your neighbors. Leave at least some information for later. Guys are interested in girls who leave the place of fantasy and conjecture, and do not tell their full biography, starting with diapers, continuing with vaccinations in kindergarten and ending with grades in examinations at school - this is not the information that should be poured on the guy on the first day dating. It is possible that after a plentiful flow of such information, a second meeting may not take place. For the simple reason that the guy will just be bored with you.

Look for common ground

If two people have common interests andhobbies, the question of what they talk, disappears by itself. In general, people with common views are usually involuntarily attracted to each other. Therefore, during a conversation, it is worthwhile to look for these common themes. You can talk about things that make your life more pleasant, about music you like to listen to, about books or about hobby, for example, roller skates or hikes to the mountains. In this case, in no case should not mention the situation with the former guys. For example: "I like cycling in the evenings" - right, and "we used to ride in the evenings on bicycles" is a big mistake. But about your hobbies you need to tell without much fanaticism - you still do not know if it will entice your interlocutor. As a rule, girls with a sense of humor and with a bit of self-irony are more interesting for young people. A good sense of humor will always find its connoisseur, and if you tell a funny story from your life, you will only benefit from the ease of conversation that you create yourself. You can talk in general about what you are especially proud of, about successes and achievements, only without pathos. And do not drag the guy by the arm to your home to show your diplomas and convince him that you got the first place in the composition of the Christmas tree of balls! Be sure that the concept of "girl", "home", "show" and "best" does not fit in the mind of your interlocutor in the picture "show diploma." Believe me, he will regard your invitation in his own way! Whatever the conversation is, do not complain! Complaints are relevant only in conversation with girlfriends, who are interested in knowing where you got a new ringlet. With them, you can talk about how you worked all the holidays / holidays / evenings (underscore) and denied yourself even in the crust of bread to buy this very ringlet. Let her sympathize with you and let them be ashamed of her envy, if that appeared at the first glance at the decoration! But in any case, do not complain about the difficulties and bad bosses / teachers to the guy with whom they met for the first time. First, men perceive a complaint as a call to action, and secondly, because this is the first date, your guy might think that you agreed to a meeting only because you want to ask someone to pierce the wheels of a neighbor's car that moved your a cat, and besides him there were no more candidates for the role of an avenger. It's better to talk about his hobbies and interests. Show him your interest in his stories, and do not hesitate to laugh when he tells something funny. Perhaps if you and a man laugh at some merry situation from his life, then this laugh will bring you closer than a normal conversation. Remember that seventy percent of the success of your first date depends on how well you are able to listen, and especially - to hear your interlocutor!

Rules for a successful first date

In order to more easily pass this test, there are a few simple rules. So:

• Be a good interlocutor

It's not as difficult as it might seem. Think about the word "interlocutor". It is assumed that a person is able to "co-talk", that is, he can talk, supporting the conversation, but can give another person an opportunity to tell something. Let the same guy in the conversation, as in the dance, "lead" you, and you will be surprised how pleasant the evening may be. During a conversation, behave naturally. If you are very fake to represent the greatest interest, when you are told about quantum physics, it will be very noticeable. After all, in fact you will not understand what is at stake. If you do not understand any "high matter", which the guy started talking about, find the moment and tell him about it. It is better to confess sincerely that the subject of the conversation is not understandable to you, than then with a shudder to remember that you barely held back the yawn, when the guy beat the hour with unfamiliar terms.

• Punctuality - courtesy of kings

Do not be late! Perhaps you think that only crowned people should be polite, and all the rest can and do not strain. If so, then you are forced to say that you are mistaken. Show an elementary courtesy both to yourself and to the guy. Coming in time, you will remove one of the reasons for stress on the first date. Come at the appointed time! Well, maybe, you, as a girl, it is permissible to be a little late. Only not more than five minutes! And only if you are sure that you are not a princess.

• Get ready for a date

The very fact that you are reading this article,that you are preparing for the first meeting with a guy. And rightly so! Prepare topics for conversation, remember pleasant trivia about which you can tell. Choose good and comfortable shoes and clothes for a date. Sixteen centimeters hairpin, in which you appear on the first date, the guy, of course, will make an indelible impression; but to you they themselves will create a truly "unforgettable evening". Do not talk about your legs getting tired; but also instead of listening to what he is saying while walking with a man, you will be able to think only of keeping your balance. You do not want to look like on the first date, like a heron on stilts?

• Stay yourself

Do not tell stories and do not tryimagine yourself a cleaner if you have two higher educations. And do not be called the heiress of the owner of oil rigs, if you are a music teacher in primary classes. Deception will reveal itself, and you will feel uncomfortable. A guy can just think that you do not take it seriously, and look for another companion.

• Do not tell me too much

The fact that you were lisping up to the third grade or thatlike tomatoes with cream, can seem funny. But not on the first date. Imagine what IT is telling you. Will you wish for a second meeting with such an unceremonious and strange character? That's the same.

• Be a person

A person can be considered a person who hashis opinion and knows how to express it. Tell the guy honestly what you like and what does not. Just try not to sound rude. But it's also not worth to go on about anyone. Agree that it does not seem interesting to a person who agrees with everyone else or can not show his attitude to something that occurs before his eyes or what he hears.

• Be polite

No one doubts your upbringing, butstill, this rule you must always abide by. An elementary "thank you" for help with putting on outerwear, for the door opened before you, for the brought glass; but how much you can thank for that! The guy will appreciate the evaluation of his actions, and you will get a double pleasure from the very fact that you could appreciate his efforts.

• The pleasure of dating should be mutual

Enjoy. And give pleasure. Only in this way you can say goodbye at the end of the evening, having a mutual desire to meet again and continue pleasant acquaintance with the guy.

• Live this day

Be able to rejoice in trifles. Forget about grievances and unpleasant situations! Today you have a good reason for a good mood - you are meeting with a wonderful man, everything will be great on your first date. Do not let the past - neither past problems, nor former men - interfere with your sense of happiness and fullness of life. Do not sit sad and look sullen, if you agreed to a meeting, even if you are concerned about something. If you are not in the spirit, it is better to postpone the meeting for another day. The first impression remains for a long time, and you should not intentionally spoil it. As you can see, there is nothing complicated in the rules of a successful first date. Follow them, and everything will work out just fine!

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