Walking, romantic evenings, flowers, kisses,vows of eternal love, wedding, plans for the future ... A typical beginning for any marriage. Creating a family, none of the couple thinks about a possible divorce. Everyone hopes to live a long and happy life together, overcome difficulties, raise children, take care of each other. But the cracks in the relationship are inevitable, and sometimes through the fault of both, the crack becomes an abyss. Time passes, and, looking at the relationship, a person no longer understands what connects the two of them. Somewhere there are feelings, passion and love. It did not turn out to live happily ever after. It's about divorce. 
No one is insured
From this, no one is insured, not even the mosthappy couple. Some people decide for a divorce quickly. They sat down, talked, decided, divorced. Others have lived with a "stranger" in marriage for years. He is stubborn-loves, there is one who lies, another here keeps silent. They seem to be married, one loves, the second allows themselves to love and lives their own lives. Divorce the spirit is not enough, pity, habit. Divorce is ultimately inevitable in this situation. A matter of time. So, the husband left. Of course, surviving a divorce is much more difficult than parting with a man to whom a woman was just in love. Divorce is first and foremost ruined plans and hopes, unjustified trust in the closest person. Often the reason is treason, betrayal. For self-confidence, this is a very difficult test. There is a void inside, there are a lot of tormenting questions in my head. To divorce or to do anything to save the family? If there is a child, how to minimize damage for him, to grow him a full-fledged, harmonious person? How to establish an unmarried life after the experience of divorce, overcome its difficult consequences and open up for a new relationship? According to statistics, the percentage of divorces is large, more than 58%. To survive is much easier for those who find the strength to immediately begin a new life, say goodbye to the past, in exchange for what was, to accept the new. If you are not one of them, then you will find some tips for how to overcome a depressed state after a divorce, learn to live and enjoy life, love again and, most importantly and not easily, learn to trust the person again. The life of a woman can be overshadowed by two and three divorces, it happens different, you need to overcome this. Free yourself from negative energy To begin with, you need a full outburst of negative emotions and energy. To fill the emptiness that has appeared in your soul after the broken relationship, it must be filled with a completely different energy. you must allow the part of yourself to "cheer up", to cry for good, to survive this stress. Another part of you must be free to live in the future. Surviving a divorce is like surviving a serious illness, only the body is not sick, the soul is ill, and you are the first doctor for her. Think about what works best for you to strengthen your psycho-immune system, to regain harmony. You can also free yourself from negative energy by talking to someone. Let it be one person who can listen, give wise advice, and you will always have someone to regret. Do not hesitate to attend several trainings, for example, aimed at developing the personality and increasing self-esteem, showing how to deal with stressful situations more easily and with less losses. With support, it is easier to overcome any experience. Draw, sing, engage in any creativity that will bring you joy. Listen to your favorite music. Do not forget about your body, be sure to fulfill its needs. Do not stop eating, eat right, even when a piece in your throat does not climb. But there is no need to seize the "grief", the likelihood that it will make you feel better, is close to zero. A small charge in the morning will partially relieve your thoughts, give tone to the muscles, accordingly, you will feel less broken. The more alive you are, the sooner you will return to normal and enjoy life. Force yourself to move, even if you really do not want to. Remember about social life, which still requires your participation. Try to communicate with friends and family more than you usually allow. Take all your leisure, go to the cinema, to exhibitions, shopping, to discos, where your heart desires. Strive for anything that requires emotional and physical activity. Arrange for yourself a shake-up, it is useful and necessary. Do it more often. 
Forgive your former partner Obid - thisa very serious obstacle to personal happiness and spiritual harmony. And only after truly forgiving someone who offended you, you can be happy. For sure in your past life together there were many pleasant moments that united you. Remember them all, this is exactly what you can now thank your former partner for. Do not store resentment, anger and negative memories, it can very badly affect the health of both the soul and the physical. Release the former with calm and kind thoughts, forgive all the grievances, the pain that he caused you. All this is now far behind. "Cleanse" yourself, leaving only good in memory. Forgive the offender will be easier if you understand and the fact that everyone is mistaken, there are no perfect people. Most likely, it is not easy for him now, and he is also to some extent experiencing mental discomfort. To forgive a person means to show mercy and love even to those who did not deserve it. Often it is very difficult, but learning to forgive, it will become much easier to live. Release your past Being married to a loved one, you most often often dreamed, you had plans for the future. Even if after parting you will feel that having lost a loved one, you lost the future, remember - it's not so! Many women believe that everything they once dreamed of together, aspired, now makes no sense. And here you are again mistaken! Your fate is now in your hands, you decide what to strive for and what to plan. Think, personally, you certainly had some dreams of your own, which were never allowed to become a part of your overall plans. Maybe because your plans went against the plans of your former partner, and your dreams seemed to him ridiculous. Now there is a chance to translate these dreams into reality. And there is a huge chance for your future, which you need to build without looking back, and without unnecessary regrets and worries. Confidently look to the future Direct the flow of your thoughts into a beautiful future. Close your eyes and imagine yourself in five years. Try to see yourself the way you want - a happy, successful, strong and beloved woman. Imagine everything to the smallest detail. This is your ideal life, though only in dreams. If you think about the bad all day, constantly feel sorry for yourself and drive you into a corner, provoking an irritated and depressed state, it will only attract negative events. Take control of yourself, as soon as you notice bad thoughts in your head, start dreaming about your ideal life. The more often you do it, the more likely it will be. The thought is material. Believe in yourself, then others will believe in you. Love yourself, then everyone will fall in love with you. This simple truth is the best motivator for certain actions, which should change the life of a woman spoiled by divorce. It is with oneself that we must start all the changes for the better, try for ourselves, and fight for our happy future, and not wait for others to understand and compassion. Do not be afraid to make new mistakes, mistakes are an experience, just like your previous marriage. Get out of divorce lesson, take it in your hands. You will succeed.
A new stage in life
It sounds ridiculous, but among men there isa stable opinion that a woman after the divorce turns into a "hunter", who dreams to quickly find a new elected one and marry him to herself. In fact, a woman who survived a divorce, build a new relationship can be very difficult. After a divorce, there is usually a desire to close from people, from the outside world. I do not want to see or hear anyone. The woman becomes extremely sensitive and vulnerable, because the one whom she trusted most was a traitor. And betrayal does not always mean only betrayal. Betrayal is when the native person has distanced himself, has ceased to experience mutual feelings, has ceased to value the spouse. When betrayed the closest, the woman after the divorce begins to expect a blow from all her associates. It is better to close from all than experience feelings of resentment and disappointment again. Usually this period lasts from one to one and a half years. This period passes. The woman blossoms again, rejoices at her reflection in the mirror. Self-esteem comes back to normal and there is a hope that not everything is lost. Again I want new meetings, acquaintances and relationships. And that's right, life goes on. New acquaintances can be more successful and happy than those that have remained in the past. Past family life, as if litmus paper, showed all the weak and strong sides of the spouses. After the divorce, the woman knows exactly with what drawbacks her future chosen one she will not be able to accept, what you need to pay attention to.
How not to repeat mistakes
What is the strategy for finding a new partnertake advantage of, so that future relationships become happy, it's up to you. The first option is self-critical - change yourself, then start looking for a new partner. But you need to know that you can not change the structure of your personality globally, you can not become a completely different person. It is possible only to retrain the general psychological portrait of personality, while the basic features of your temperament will remain unchanged. Therefore, first of all, you need priorities in your personal life and attitudes towards your partner's personality. The second option is more realistic - do not change anything in yourself, but just find a person who will accept you for who you are, get along with your personality and shortcomings. In both cases, the search for a new satellite after the divorce is similar to working on errors. In the first case, the woman corrects these errors in herself, and in the second eliminates the shortcomings of the external environment. A woman who has become accustomed to defend her point of view, her independence, will again and again choose the soft-bodied and infantile men. Women who are accustomed to depend on a man, especially need protection and try to find a man with a strong character for building a family, sometimes even a tyrant, which turns her life into a colony of strict regime. It is understandable that after a long time after a divorce a woman again yearns for caresses, attention, cares. It is very important to carefully look at your chosen one, and not rush into the pool with his head. Remember what specifically repelled you in dealing with your past partner, what traits and patterns of behavior are unacceptable for you. Make sure that under the guise of your new life partner there is no hidden copy of the person who brought you so much suffering and because of whose fault you survived the divorce. To start a new relationship without reconsidering all the mistakes of the past is an empty and senseless undertaking, doomed to the same bitter ending. It is necessary to change the life guides or slightly revise them, otherwise you will start to build a model of a family that was formerly disintegrated.
Explain the beginning of a new relationship child
There is a myth that a woman who hasa child from a previous marriage, getting married again is almost impossible. This is nothing more than a myth, there is nothing deadly in divorces, even when there are children. If you have a child, the beginning of a new relationship gives rise to a serious experience - you need to explain the appearance in his life of a new person. First, do not let your child learn about new relationships before they become serious. The essence of the problem lies in the fact that, having met your new partner, the child is likely to be emotionally attached to him, moreover, quite quickly. And if your relationship does not work out, the child can suffer quite painfully all this. If history repeats itself several times and becomes very common, the child will close and reject any man who has appeared in your life.
