It's terrible when you watch the depression of a loved onerights. He is in a dreary and depressed state, and you can not help him. It breaks the heart! Day by day you suffer with him and try to understand how to get a person out of depression. What is necessary to do this? The first thing you need is the desire of the person himself. Unfortunately, without it nothing will work: there is a special kind of people who live with suffering and negative experiences. From the side it may seem that they have an eternal depression: they constantly complain about their adversity, sad and yearn. However, the attentive eye very quickly notes that these people in some incredible way manage to "catch high" from depression. It sounds incredible, but it's true. Every "sufferer" gets his benefit from a depressive state: someone likes that everyone is sorry and helps him, someone thus attracts attention, and someone does not feel anything at all, except for negative emotions - so let them be better , than anything. I am glad that there are not so many such people. Periodic attacks of depression have happened, probably, for every person, and at such times it is very important that someone is close and put his shoulder. And at the same time and "for the hair pulled out of the swamp melancholy." Well, maybe not "for the hair," but at least somehow helped ease the experience. If you have a similar desire, but do not have enough understanding of what to do, be sure to read this article to the end. 
"Mental Resuscitation"
The desire to get a person out of depression usuallyvisits us in those moments when our relatives become very ill. And here arises the question of what you mean by this: someone depresses constant tears, someone - a melancholy expression and lying on the couch. Accordingly, the methods of withdrawal from depression in each case will differ from each other. It is not a fact that if a person is crying heavily, then one should stop his tears. They are a signal of inner experiences and contribute to psychological detente. For example, in the case when a loved one has died, constant tears and talk about him are the norm for the mourner. The same is true in cases of divorce and separation: in fact, this is the same loss, only less pronounced and intense. Therefore, if you want to help a loved one who finds himself in such a situation, support him in this expression of feelings: let him cry or even scream. Tell him that this is normal and stroke over the head, because some people manage to spend their energy on the unnecessary restraint of spiritual impulses. However, in some cases normal natural tears become pathological hysterics. They can not be delimited from each other in terms of time, because grief can manifest as tears in a year, and five years after a sad event. But this will be a single event, an act of longing for the person who left this world. In some cases, people start using their grief as a tool for manipulation, and it's easy enough to see: the tears and sadness of such a person appear whenever he has to do something, fulfill a promise or take care of something else. And he realizes that if he only needs to cry, he will immediately be left behind. Such things should not be indulged, but it is not depression in its original version. The simplest thing you can do to get a person out of depression is to give him the opportunity to speak out. Many people suffer not because of problems in their lives, but because of the inability to tell anyone about them. Communicating with a friend is a way to get support, to react emotionally to negative emotions, and also to analyze life's difficulties in the process of voicing them out loud. You probably noticed that it becomes easier after you discuss with a friend of the reptile or the disgusting "former"? It happens in all people. But this applies only to domestic turmoil. When it comes to more serious problems - chronic illness or death of relatives - a person can be annoyed by a return to this topic. If your loved one is going through because of some negative event, then to find him out of the depression will help to find meaning in this very event. It often seems to us that all the bad things happening to us are terribly unfair, that we do not deserve this, and this destroys our lives. However, if you try to find meaning in any, even the most horrible events, this gives you the opportunity to feel the ground under your feet. A person suffering alone can not do this, so your help and unconscious with depression will be very helpful. Here are a few more methods of prompt psychological help.
- Refocusing This method works because ofthe fact that during depression your loved one is concentrated on one of his own problems, and you suggest that he switch his attention. It is not difficult to do this: invite a person to walk around the park, the forest or near the river - without any goal, i.e. just walk. In the process, draw his attention to all sorts of details: the coloring of foliage, small animals, close and distant objects. The main thing is to overcome possible resistance, connected with unwillingness to be distracted from your problem.
- Entertainment Yes, yes, banal positive emotions -an excellent remedy for depression! Of course, it will not be easy for your loved one to get together and go somewhere, but often it needs to be done. It is best to choose such an option, where you do not have to communicate with a bunch of people, that is, the party certainly will not work. But watching a movie, going to a theater or flying in a balloon can be a source of positive energy. Maybe you do not even want to go anywhere: gather with your friends at home, take your favorite girl's melodramas and comedies, buy tasty food and popcorn - and a good evening is provided to you.
- Acquisition of animal Animal therapy for a long timeIt is used by psychologists in overcoming various kinds of problems, including depression. Naturally, it's worth discussing with the "sufferer" himself: maybe he does not like animals, he's allergic, or he's just not ready for responsibility for another being. Although numerous studies show that love and care for others can do wonders and improve mood in a matter of days and even hours.
- Catharsis Cruel, but sometimes in order to get outfrom depression, a person needs to plunge into the depths of sadness and sadness. Have you ever noticed that after watching a dreadful film or reading a tragic book, your soul is illuminated by warm light and harmony? Paradoxically, it works. Therefore, if you are sure of a person's moral readiness for such a "shock therapy", you can remind him of all the horrors and injustices of this world, cry together over it and move on.
Long-term perspective
Unfortunately, not always depression is fastpassing phenomenon. And in this case as it is impossible it is appropriate and the consultation of the expert is useful. Not in all situations you can help your loved one yourself, and if you have doubts, then seeking help is a normal and logical process. Especially it concerns prolonged experiences about the loss of someone's own, as well as regular depressions that arise from scratch. In some cases, a person suffers from repetitive, with an enviable periodicity of bouts of longing and bad mood. They can be associated with problems that hang over a person like a sword of Damocles. And first of all you need to find out what kind of problems these are. This will help frank conversation heart to heart in a confidential environment. And, maybe, you have your own suspicions about what upsets a person? Then they need to be announced, but only at the right time. If you have found the root of all ills, then you need to try to find a way out of this situation. And here, brainstorming will help you: throw out any, most diverse and strange ideas that you can then discuss together. A person who is depressed often does not see even the most banal decisions, and you can help him find them. It is believed that a person suffering from depression, you can not leave alone - you need to distract and entertain him in every possible way. In part this is correct, and partly not, and that's why. Some experiences, including negative ones, are important for the growth and development of the individual. This is called a "personal crisis": a person is at an impasse and learns to rely entirely on himself and his resources. He understands that there is no help and support from anywhere, and he himself finds a way out. This is how personal growth is carried out, so sometimes it is worth leaving a person alone and giving him the opportunity to think. If your loved one has been depressed for a long time, then perhaps he will be able to find a way out of it in charity. Yes, do not be surprised, because helping your neighbor has long been considered an excellent cure for melancholy and blues. The mechanism of its action is incomprehensible, but the fact remains: when you do good, your soul is purified from all negativity and filled with something bright. Sounds, of course, is not very scientific, but it really works! Therefore, you can offer your friend who is depressed to join you in "good deeds": dismantle things in a closet and give them to those who need something, become a friend by correspondence to a child from an orphanage, or even become a member of any volunteer community. Virtually every person knows that the best remedy for depression is love. In a state of love, the human brain produces "hormones of happiness" - endorphins - which can nullify any sadness. It seems to you that you can fly, the whole world is open to you and there is nothing impossible - such experiences are not forgotten! But how to "force" another person to fall in love? First, you need to clarify whether your friend is ready for a new love. Often happens that depression is associated with failed relationships, divorce or quarrel, and in this case a person may be completely closed on the problem and does not see anyone around him. To overcome this, we need to bring it to the realization of the completeness of the previous novel - this development of events is facilitated by pronouncing offenses and writing a letter to the former "second half". Once a person realizes that the old love is finished, he becomes able to let a new one into his life. The best way to find it is openness to new experiences and acquaintances. Unfortunately, a person who is depressed, it is difficult, so you have to become the initiator of communication: invite your "sufferer" to a party or a disco, buy a pair of cocktails and introduce him to someone who might like him. If your girlfriend is sad, then everything will pass quite easily: come up to a couple of nice guys, funny jokes - this will be an excellent start to a new acquaintance. And if your friend is suffering from depression? Then it will be interesting and unusual: you have to find a girl who he likes and distracts him from sad thoughts. And, maybe, you will be this girl personally? Who knows ... All the most important things in life are not easy for us. Remember the story of the ring of King Solomon, which on one side was written "it will pass," and on the other - "and this too will pass"? The idea that any depressive state is transient is capable of giving us much-needed strength. The most difficult tests fate always sends to the most capable and strong people - do not forget to remind this to your moping friend or girlfriend. And also support and help him - this will be the best way to get rid of a person close to you. We advise you to read:
