There is a misconception that leadersare born, not become. And if this is not given to you, there's nothing to try, climb out of the skin, try to stand out and lead a group. Nature itself has tried, dividing society into leading and led. In fact, the makings of a leader are in each of us. Simply, some have developed this in themselves, while others have let things go on their own, yielded to stronger individuals. Therefore, there are so many ordinary workers and so few managers, directors and entrepreneurs. Of course, every parent wants his child to be successful, lucky, loved and worshiped. But, unfortunately, very few people pay attention to the development of leadership qualities. Mom and Dad are more concerned about assessments and behavior at school. And then, 10 years later, they look with envy at the Wachu dvoechnik, the ringleader and the fighter, saying that he was just lucky to get a job in life. In fact, this man simply managed to organize a friendly company, to rally all employees and make them work for themselves. Remember: the fives are not the most important thing in life. Communication skills are more useful than knowledge of chemistry for the fifth grade. 
How to recognize a leader in a group
So, how to understand that a child is a bornleader. Observe how he behaves with others. You can conduct a small test: put a few students at a table and ask to draw together any picture. How will your son behave? Will he lead or follow directions? So you can understand what category your child belongs to. The first thing parents should do is to understand how strongly the leader's qualities are developed in the child. After all, it depends on it, what kind of tactics of education to choose. If, for example, a child from the first minutes captures the attention of teachers and classmates, knows how to put others around, you just need to guide him. With shy, passive schoolboys it is necessary to work, and not one year. But then your work will pay off with interest. 
We develop leadership qualities in the child
For some reason, nowhere (in the kindergarten, or in the school), we are notteach how to become a leader in the classroom. Rather, on the contrary, the task of teachers and educators is to create good students from a group of students who will first go to university, then they will work in some organization until old age. Further - a pension, education of grandchildren. Therefore, if you want your child to become a president (companies or states are a secondary issue), start developing the necessary qualities as early as possible.
- Self-confidence
Only self-confident and able personcan achieve everything in life. He knows what he can do. He will not sit in the corner and think that he is not worthy of a higher salary, better position, etc. It is not necessary for a person to be the most intelligent, beautiful, strong. It's just that he should positively assess his abilities, and not be self-critical of himself. But it is necessary to distinguish two concepts: confidence and self-confidence. In the second case, a person does not see his own shortcomings and disadvantages. He believes that all are to blame for his mistakes. Such people in the future can not achieve anything in life, because they never agree to work, where you can get experience. What kind of refresher courses, if they already know everything! How can you develop confidence in a child? To begin with, learn to praise and support him in the most difficult moments. Say that he will succeed, because you believe in him. And never criticize for failure. If this time did not work, you will be able to do it in another.
- Talents
Each person should have his own "zest"which is useful in the future. It can be different talents: the ability to sing, dance, write beautiful texts, draw, take pictures, etc. There are no people who can not do anything. If your child does not stand out from the crowd, try to write it down on various mugs. And where he most likes, there is his place. Everything is bad? Then the problem is laziness, which needs to be eradicated. By the way, do not forget to explain to the child that talents can be shown at suitable moments. To sing it is necessary at concerts, instead of on employment, to run - at physical education classes, instead of on corridors. And always stimulate the baby to action. If an event or competition is planned in the school, let them take a direct part.
- A responsibility
The leader is not the person who will laughall in the company and will seduce the first beauty in school. A leader is a person who knows how to be responsible for mistakes. Such a person would never blame his comrades if he had smashed the glass in the classroom and would not give the culprit if he saw who did it. He is responsible, bold, but not fearless. Developing responsibility is not so easy. But if you try, you can raise a decent person. To begin with, always praise your child when they were helped. Encourage initiative! The kid should not be afraid to do something he has never encountered before. For example, he never washed dishes, but then decided to help my mother. But, alas, he broke the cup. Calm the child and say that you are grateful to him for a clean plate. Remove the debris and do not return to this topic. And then he will do the housework further. And never punish your child for misconduct or mistake by work. The next thing you need to teach your child is to get things done. However, this concerns the feasible tasks for him. So, the kid must decide the exercise given to him at school, even if he is tired. However, if he was sick and missed a week of classes, help him with the tasks. It's impossible to swear that he is not a friend. In this case, the baby is not to blame.
- Oratory skills
Who do you think the crowd will go for? For a man who knows and knows a lot, but can not explain even elementary things? Or for a special, which will clearly tell how the business will be built. Remember Mavrodi, who managed to force millions of people to incur him money. At the same time, there were no guarantees that the depositors would receive the promised millions. Okay, for the first time the majority did not know about such scams. That talented speaker managed to force to do it in the second and third time. By the way, there are a number of professions that require the ability to speak. Lawyers can not prove the innocence of the defendant, the manager will not force the client to buy an unnecessary thing, the teacher will not teach the students minds. Note: if a student is not able to express his thoughts clearly, even if he knows everything, it will be bad to learn. So be sure to write down your child for special courses. From the first classes, learn poems from him. And he should not read them monotonously, just to get rid quickly. Everything should be pronounced clearly, with an expression. Then, when he becomes older, memorize whole pieces of text. Every day, teach one tongue twister. Show the child what exercises to perform in order to develop a speech device. Many TV presenters make certain movements with each jaw, jaw, tongue, lips before each ether, doing some charging. It will not be bad if you at least once a week with the child begin to learn new words. Conglomeration, profanity, prototype - sometimes people use them incorrectly in speech. And, as experienced speakers say, if you do not know the meaning, never insert such words. Otherwise, you can seem ridiculous and stupid.
- Adequate perception of criticism
How do we usually feel when we are criticized? We are embarrassed, we blush, we behave as if everything are to blame. Sometimes some of us drop their hands, lose their spirits and desire to work further. In fact, constructive criticism should be perceived a little differently - as a chance and an opportunity for self-improvement. So, never do "debriefing" in the presence of outsiders. At the same time, you should clearly point out mistakes, without resorting to humiliation and insulting the intellectual or physical characteristics of schoolchildren. Do not just say that it was not so, but help to understand how it should be done in this or that situation. 
The hidden leader: who is in charge of everything
Is your baby the quietest and quietest in the class? He does not like noisy companies and does not get involved in disputes, discussions, does not take part in public events? Do you think that he will never become a leader? But leadership is not always obvious. There is a category of people that makes you "dance to your tune" of everyone who is nearby. In this case, no one considers them the most important. He does everything quietly, calmly, achieving the set goal. By the way, most interestingly, this person often affects even the strongest and most active person in the group, which no one suspects. How does the informal leader manifest in the classroom? This is the person who keeps everyone in the distance. It is suitable to ask advice, learn something interesting. Unlike the obvious, he will not directly impose his point of view. He will express an opinion, but listen or not, the cause of the rest. Over time, classmates begin to understand that this person is never wrong. The second sign is an individual style. Almost all schoolchildren worship an idol: a singer, actor and other famous personalities. The hidden leader is not influenced by fashion, he will have a classic hairstyle, a strict look. Even in a room such a child will have complete order. No toys on the bed, comics on the bookshelf. So, having become acquainted with how to become a leader in the classroom, you can help the child achieve success in life. It is necessary to disclose its potential, to extract it from the shell, in which most modern schoolchildren are sitting. Tear off the child from the computer monitor, write down on various sections and circles. Do everything possible to communicate with one-year-olds and older people.
