Human life is full of unpredictableevents, which sometimes cause such a crushing blow that you then come to yourself in years. Especially often such things happen with marriage unions, which are falling apart today everywhere. And often falling apart unexpectedly and at the initiative of men. That's like yesterday, the relationship between the spouses was normal. Well, sometimes there were quarrels ... And who does not have them? And then suddenly, without a special kind of reason, the husband collected things, said that he had met another woman, and left. And you are left alone with your grief, completely unaware of how to live on. The situation is awful. When the husband decides to leave after a series of grandiose scandals, his wife is somehow ready for it. She is ready for such a turn of events and when he suspects the faithful of treason. True, it does not get any easier from this, but here at least you know where to expect the blow. And if you do not expect it, it's no wonder and crash into the abyss, putting a cross on your existence. However, such an outcome threatens mostly weak, weak-willed people who are not able to cope with difficulties on their own. A woman is stronger, even falling into a depression, still trying to analyze what happened and look for some way out. Of course, the best option for her is the repatriation of her husband from another woman's home. But how to return it and what to do for it, she usually does not know, making because of this at times a lot of mistakes. How can we avoid them and ensure that the past is reanimated?

How to deal with emotions if the husband has gone to another

That's it. He left, ruthlessly tossing before closing the door behind him: "I realized that I did not love you anymore. I'm going to another woman. " And this is after so many years of marriage! But he promised to protect, love and cherish ... And I really wanted to believe that it will be until old age! It did not work out. The soul is devoured by jealousy, guilt, anger and hopelessness. What to do with these gluttonous creatures ?! It hurts because of their sharp teeth biting into the very heart. Well, now we can not escape from jealousy. This is a normal feeling, because a close person is almost a property! Property that suddenly passed into the hands of another. Well, what kind of person in this case will not get angry? They took it and took it away without any rights! Therefore, anger is an absolutely normal reaction to what is happening. But with a sense of guilt more difficult. It occurs even when the woman left by the man behaved flawlessly. All the time it seems as if something has not finished, I have not talked it out, I have missed it. And in vain. Because men go to another, even from ideal wives in all respects. I want to change. Fresh body, new sensations. Therefore, self-flagellation, coupled with despair, let them wait. A fresh body may show shortcomings with time. And the new sensations quickly get used to. And begins to pull to such a native past. Because there, in the past, you can be what you are. There they take you with all the twists and know how flaky. So the feeling of guilt does not need to be cultivated in yourself. Do not go over in your mind the options for what you should do when the husband left to return it. Well, we would rush to his feet, begging to stay, or vice versa, sent on all four sides, and what? For sure, the faithful was ready for this and knew what to say and how to behave in either case. And if we really begged to stay or send it far away - forget about it. The main thing in such a period is to try not to hysterically at least in the presence of her husband. It is better to pretend that we are calm. We are absolutely calm. It is this state of the abandoned wife that most of all catches men alive and strikes a blow to their vanity. And then the wrong spouse is sure to be interested, why the former half does not cut a vein and does not revel in the trash of grief. Let him be interested! And we still think about how much this runner husband we need now and whether we can forgive him for treason. Only the verdict must be borne out, being of sound mind. Let's try cold-bloodedly, sending emotions into the knockout, analyzing the situation and what happened before. Perhaps, attachment to her husband is just a habit developed over the years to the presence of this person in the house? If so, then after some time from the current internal discomfort there will be no trace. Irreplaceable in this case there. What's the difference, whose shoes are lying under the sofa! Went to another? And the tablecloth is expensive! Well, let's shed a week ... And then we'll wipe the tears, we'll clean the feathers and go enjoy the freedom, exploring the world around us. Well, if it's not just a habit, but a true feeling, and the husband really wants to return, then everything is more complicated. The main thing here is that under the influence of emotions, do not do anything stupid and behave so that he once regretted that he had left. What in this case can and should be done, and what not?

What can not be done after leaving her husband for another

First, when the husband left for another, one should notscourge themselves, or regret. No one is immune to this act of his half. So the present society is arranged. Marriage in it is not considered something monumental. And it can collapse even without any special reason. So do not bang your head against the wall. Better try to calm down the internal storm and pay more attention to yourself, beloved. Because if the husband who has moved to another house sees us disheveled, with eyes swollen with tears and a red nose, he is unlikely to start regretting his action. Rather, on the contrary. So, we need to put ourselves in order and hide our suffering away from him. In no event can you call your opponent, lie in wait for her somewhere, and even more so break into an apartment with the intention of finding out the relationship. Ugly scandals with grandiose tararama woman do not paint. And the husband after them not only does not burn with a love for the abandoned wife, - he will simply become disgusted with her. And to return it then it will not be possible under any circumstances. And there can be no question of running around fortune tellers and psychics. Their services are expensive, but their abilities are doubtful. As a result, in addition to the empty house we get an empty pocket. But even if the real witch (and this happens) happens, then the husband, reclaimed from the other by means of a spell, is not such a valuable gift. Surely he will become a completely different person, with whom he is not very happy. Why do we need a dreary future without the right to enlightenment? Do not try to forget yourself and sink grief in alcohol. Alcohol - a bad help in dealing with such issues. Under his influence, you can twist such a thing - Mom, do not worry! All my life I'll have to repent later. Yes, and a hangover does not ease the state, but only sharpen it. To the agony because of the deceased to another husband will add a headache and remorse due to yesterday's fraternization with a green snake. Oh, someone, and this type of friends just is not good. In close relations with him, the result is one - chronic alcoholism. In a word, pour tears for a day, two, three, and then take our emotions under control. Yes, it is very difficult. But still it's possible. Let's try to overcome trouble with the help of some tips.

What can and should be done after leaving the husband: tips

Left alone, weep, yell, whine,moaning. It is necessary to release the pain outside. Why alone? First, do not cause suffering to children. Im already so hard. Secondly, because consortious consolers in most cases only exacerbate the situation, saying that the husband is a complete scum, and regret it is not worth it. And they make you feel sorry for yourself. And that's no good. No, if there is a wise soul mate or an intelligent close friend, you can, of course, pour out your soul. But only when we are sure that they will really understand everything and correctly judge.

After the pain a little calms down, let's trystill find the reason that her husband left for another. Let's try to look at what happened objectively and, as it were, from the outside. What prompted the faithful to take such a serious step? Frequent scandals, misunderstandings of each other, boredom, everyday problems? Perhaps we stopped watching ourselves and made too many claims to the spouse, or did he always look to the side, and now there was a snapping person who managed to take the man out of the family? And it never occurred to us to give him more attention? It should be cold-blooded, reasonable and as precise as possible to determine why this happened, so as not to repeat then their mistakes.

If the reason is found, consider it from allparties and find the source. It is likely that the family crisis has just arrived. In such periods, men can fall in love and go to another woman, not particularly bothering with moral principles. If this is so, to return it, you need to be patient and behave as sensitively as possible. We maintain good relations with his friends and with common acquaintances. At the same time, no one is trying to set up against the present passion of the pious or against him. In general, we try not to discuss anything with anyone! Unintentional phrase in conversation can become an additional wedge in the relationship with the spouse. How little it is turned different "well-wishers"!

To get rid of painfulmemories, we will compile a list of things that irritated the faithful. We bring everything into it, starting from a spattered mirror in the bathroom and ending with an incomprehensible change of mood and refusal of preludes in bed. We re-read the list as often as possible and at the same time we say to ourselves: "It's good that all this now has to be tolerated by another! I went to her, and wonderful! We still do not know who was lucky! ".

We remove from sight all the things reminiscent ofwife. We hide instruments, photographs, forgotten shirts-panties-sneakers and stuff. Just do not need these shirts-panties-sneakers-tools to send to the current place of his dwelling. (There are ladies who do this). First, this is a very ugly act, emphasizing our weakness. Usually those who leave the family, such things are annoying. Second, all these reasons can be necessary for the husband if he comes back and does not take them with him. Means, either it is necessary to be spent for purchase of new, or to take away them from other woman. Still it is not known, than it will terminate.

Well, here, we did our best to somehow calm the spiritual storm. This is already good, but in order to return her husband to the family, is not enough. It is also necessary to take care of yourself.

How to behave, what to increase the chances of returning a husband from another woman

I must say that the chances that a spouse withjoy will return to the abandoned wife, not a bit unchanged during the separation, a little. If a person once ran away from being oppressed, he is unlikely to accept it with enthusiasm again. No, when there is no other way out, it will, of course. Where can I go? But nothing good will happen in this case. So, we need to try to make sure that the fugitive rushed back not from despair, but from his own irrepressible desire. That's why we:

We try to raise our self-esteem with all our might,which, of course, is now fluttering below its level. This is a mess. People converge, separate, meet again, part again ... This is how life is arranged. And if at parting lose faith in yourself, not for long and generally become a clogged gray shadow, which no one will ever notice. We need not only to preserve our face, but also to improve it at all costs! First, we'll put a piece of paper somewhere in the visible place with the inscription: "There is no more in the world like me. I'm charming, sweet, unique! And anyway, I'm the greatest clever woman! ". Let him hang and obsessively remind us of what we really represent ourselves.

We try to be as much as possible in society,we make acquaintances, we surround ourselves with interesting people. We forget that the husband left, and we go without him to the cinema, to the theaters, to some events. We meet with friends, go out with them to the nature or have fun at a party. That is, we are looking for the possibility of entertainment and filling our lives with new events. But there is no need to start novels for now. Novels - this later, when we make sure that my husband does not return. Or that there is already no need for him in his presence.

We begin to improve and change tobetter. In the dense we are engaged in work or any hobby, we define the purposes and persistently to them we advance. We correct our appearance, we make sure that it gets better and better. If possible, shasta shopping and buy nice things: clothes, shoes, cosmetics, some souvenirs and knickknacks. Not enough money - buy cheap. The main thing - at least from something to have fun and not less to think that the husband left the house. In other words, we try to spend the days with benefit and with joy. And then the hour will come when we will understand that life without a husband continues.

In general, for every woman whose spouse has gone toanother, to understand that life without it continues - the most important. It should not be too long to suffer from the thought that we were betrayed-abandoned. We will consider that this is one of the steps to further development. No one can predict what this or that event will eventually turn into. Perhaps, then we suddenly realize that, having left, the husband opened doors, behind which a lot of opportunities were languishing both for self-development and for the modernization of family relations. It is likely that just such an act was necessary, as resuscitation or shake-up for extinct or dull feelings. Yes, now the pain is uncontrollable, because it is supported also by a bitter resentment from the fact that he left not just for that, but for another woman. But early or it will subside, because time heals. And then, it not only heals, but also gives an opportunity for a fugitive to another woman to see her from all sides. Certainly the flaws of the razluchnitsa, carefully hidden before, will bring her husband to life. And one day he will return with the guilt. Well, if you suffer from the fact that the beloved man has gone, there is no strength, let's turn to a good psychologist. In the end, they then exist to help people put mischief on their shoulders and suggest how to return a loved one. We advise you to read:

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