Everyone likes to hear in their addresspleasant words, including your friends. In our culture, they are not as common as compliments to a loved one. But this does not mean that it should always be this way, because sometimes you really want to tell your close friend something nice. However, the question arises where to find sources of compliments to a friend, and what should they be? You will learn all this from our article.

Why do you need compliments in female friendship

Compliment is an expression of admiration, sympathy andapproval of something in a person. As a rule, its purpose is the desire to please another or raise his self-esteem, to bring warmth and intimacy to the relationship. With the help of a compliment we can improve the mood of a person, encourage him; in general, a compliment is a weapon for all time! Unfortunately, it is very difficult to get pleasant words from a man - they often do not understand why they need to constantly talk about our beauty and charm. Therefore, compliments from a friend can very well compensate for the lack of compliments from men, because they are almost as pleasant. For a woman's friendship, pleasant words are of particular importance. Sometimes we sometimes need something from a friend: for example, you want to ask her to go with you to a tedious dinner with your relatives, spending a whole day on it. And then it will be very opportunely to make a compliment to the girlfriend: "You know how to infect with fun and optimism all around, and only you can get to save the trip to a family dinner from the abyss of despondency!". In addition, some things no one except friends do not notice, for example, small changes in the haircut or a new handbag. Compliment on this occasion is able to give a lot of pleasure to you both.

Types of compliments

Compliments in the world there is a greata bunch of. They differ from each other in structure, purpose, effect - in general, by very different parameters. Therefore, when you want to make a friend pleasant, you have plenty to choose from. The main thing is to know it well, so as not to be mistaken with the type of compliment (for example, some people do not perceive compliments-antitheses in connection with the peculiarities of their thinking and perception). So, what are the options for "pleasures"?

• Direct compliment

These are words that directly point topositive qualities of your friends. Sometimes the message about the dignity of a person is added to his transcript, for example: "Masha, you have incredibly beautiful hair! Every time I see them, it seems to me that someone shed a bottle of deliciousness on your head. " Such compliments often use adjectives in superlatively degree, positive comparisons, amplifiers (the words "such", "such") or words indicating time ("as always", "today"). Often the appearance of a girlfriend (figure, hairstyle, facial features), positive qualities (traits, abilities) or a positive evaluation of her behavior or actions becomes an object of direct compliments.

• A hidden or indirect compliment

Its purpose is to emphasize in a veiled formdignity of the interlocutor. Unfortunately, direct compliments are not always appropriate (well, or we think so), but something nice to say I want. A wand-bailout for us may be a hidden compliment. In them, as well as in direct, exaggerations, comparisons and other artistic means are often used. It has the following varieties:

praise is not addressed to the girlfriend, but to what is dear to her, for example, the results of work, achievements or children ("Your children are very nice and something like angels").

the compliment is addressed to the girlfriend indirectly and indirectly ("My mom's friend is an amazingly strong woman." You look very much like her. ")

praise highlights your feelings or the kind of positive impact your girlfriend has on you ("next to you I feel ten years younger").

mention in a compliment of some generally recognizedregularities, proverbs and signs (for example, when a friend complains to you about the mess in the apartment, say: "Talented people always have a creative mess").

• Compliment made with humor

About some people you can say that a jokepermeates their life. If your friend is from such, then, most likely, she will appreciate a compliment made with a sense of humor or even mild irony. For example: "You're very smart. Just like me!". Sometimes it's funny to scare her a bit before saying nice words: "Well, how can you do that ?! Only half an hour was spent, and such a delicious pie turned out! ".

• Compliment-opposition

In such compliments you can fullyto show their creativity and ability to non-standard thinking. This type of praise is based on a paradoxical combination of the negative and the positive: first you say something that can be perceived in a negative way, and then sharply turn it in a positive way. An example can be the following compliment: "I can not say that you are a good artist ... You are the most talented and beautiful artist!". The main thing is that the positive outweighs the negative, otherwise the effect will be reversed. Thanks to the contrast, these compliments are very bright and memorable.

• Compliment-response

As a rule, they are very similar to each other - thispleasant words that we want to say in response to what the girlfriend said. They are of two types: disagreement with those negative things that a friend says about herself, for example: "You are not at all distracted, but, on the contrary - very attentive!". Another option is a kind of verbal curtsey addressed to her:

Do you cook well

I had someone to study

• Bezemotsionalny compliment

It is not so common - it's still usuallypraise can be quite expressive and emotional. This kind of compliment, as a rule, seldom causes constraint or indignation at the interlocutor, therefore it can be made even to the modest or closed girlfriend. An example of such praise may be the words: "You have a good car. Where did you buy it? ". The girl can only agree with this and tell the story of the purchase of the car.

Sources of inspiration for compliments

You know this feeling when you want to dogirlfriend compliment, but do not know what to talk about? Is it worth praising her character or is it better to just praise a new dress? And how nice it would be to have a universal instruction on how to compliment a girlfriend! Unfortunately, this does not exist, because all people are different. But the girls have some common features, thanks to which one can come across the content of future praise. Each of us strives to be unique and unique, including every your girlfriend. Therefore, if you want to cheer her up, you can always make a compliment about those qualities that distinguish her from others (or which she considers distinctive). For example, if your girlfriend is proud of her unique manner of laughing, you can always emphasize this once again in a conversation: "He just did not stand a chance to bark at your winding laugh." If there is nothing that lies on the surface, try to look more closely at your girlfriend: what is there in her that others do not have? About this and say. If you know that your girlfriend is proud of something, you can rest assured that this can be the content of your compliment. And do not worry about the repetition: even if you have praised this particular thing, action or quality a hundred times, the one hundred and first will not be superfluous (this is a feature of human psychology). Praise for something important and meaningful for us, we are able to listen endlessly, is not it? An interesting step will be the desire to make an unexpected compliment. It has several useful and pleasant consequences. First, it is an increase in the self-esteem of your girlfriend. She did not even think that she had such a positive trait, and you noticed her - now she will be more than proud of everything else. Accordingly, she will be grateful to you. Secondly, you will find a lot of pleasant feelings from the girlfriend. What do you think, what birthday present is more pleasant: a surprise or one that you yourself chose for yourself? Probably a surprise. The same and with compliments - if your friend is used to the fact that everyone praises her mind, and you note the appearance, it will be doubly pleasant for her. You can also try to praise what your girlfriend generally considers a disadvantage. This type of compliments requires special art, so you should treat it with caution. For example, if a friend thinks herself too thin, you can turn it into dignity, saying: "I would really like to be as slim and attractive as you".

How to properly compliment a girlfriend

It happens that the words are also sorted outcorrect, and the moment is chosen well, and the compliment does not bring joy and satisfaction to you or your friend. It can mean two things: either your girlfriend does not like compliments at all, or you say something wrong. In the first case, nothing depends on you (but this variant is quite rare in life), but in the second one there is always the opportunity to improve your manner of saying compliments. What is the secret of a good compliment? First, he must be spoken sincerely. In it there should not be even a hint of ambiguity or mockery of a friend - it should be simple and understandable. Secondly, one can not greatly exaggerate reality. A little strengthening of the girlfriend's virtues will not be superfluous, but if you say to your plump girlfriend: "You are incredibly slender," she will not only be not happy, but, most likely, will be offended. Thirdly, do not forget about the correct manner of saying a compliment:

• Do not forget that compliments should correspond to the person, place, time and situation in which they are pronounced;
• The compliment should be spoken kindly and confidently. In conversation, a sign of openness and sympathy is a smile, so you can safely take advantage of it;
• Avoid stamps in your speech: most of it causes either boredom or irritation;
• Pay attention to whom you say compliments. Do not overdo it with solemnity, but sometimes a compliment made in passing can offend;
• In the manner of saying compliments, excessive emotionality, theatricality and enthusiasm are not welcome. This makes the praise insincere and irritating;
• Do not allow a touch of irony and sarcasm in yourcompliments. If you want to offend a girlfriend, this, of course, will be the best means, but if you want to make her something pleasant, then irony and sarcasm will be superfluous;
• The best indicator of truthfulness is the correspondence of facial expressions and gestures to what you say. Agree, it will be strange and unpleasant if you confess to a friend in love, and your eyebrows will be frowned.

The compliment should be short enough, otherwisethis is not a compliment, but a whole monologue on the topic "what a wonderful friend I have." This, of course, is pleasant, but difficult for perception: your friend can get tired and do not understand what is so important you wanted to tell her. Try to choose words that correspond to the level of your girlfriend's horizons: for example, a girl with a higher education can praise the level of development of verbal-logical thinking, and a girl who has just finished school, it is better to say pleasant words about her beauty. In conclusion, I would like to once again note the indisputable benefits and dignity of compliments. Thanks to them, relationships are established and restored, love arises and fates are built. "A kind word and cat nice," - says a famous saying. We, of course, are not cats, but sometimes one nice remark is enough to cheer us up for the whole day. But it's so simple! So why not use compliments in communicating with girlfriends regularly? After all, who, like us, should please, support and protect each other! We advise you to read:

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