The features of modern life are such that manychildren have to stay home at home early enough. And this is not always so easy to do. Sometimes the child is afraid to stay at home, and sometimes the mother is afraid of not less, or even more than the baby itself. And really - if the child is alone at home, the rules of conduct should be indicated very strictly. After all, safety is paramount. Many parents argue very violently, at what age can the child be left alone at home. It is almost impossible to answer this question unequivocally. Someone without any problems leaves for a long time one two-year-old baby, and someone and an eight-year-old child can not leave unattended even for a minute. Moreover, in some countries the abandonment of a child at home alone can lead to the removal of the child from the family by the social welfare authorities. For example, in most countries in Europe, you can not leave your child at home alone until he turns twelve years old, and in some states of America - up to fourteen years. Of course, these are some extremes, and the laws of the Russian Federation do not say anything about this, but if one of the relatives or neighbors informs the guardianship agencies that a small child often remains alone at home, problems will be difficult to avoid . Child psychologists say that the most optimal age in which a child can already start leaving one house is five years. Approximately at this age, children already perfectly understand what "it is impossible" and realize why it is impossible to do this or that. In addition, it is at this age that the child becomes fully able to fully understand everything that you explain to him, to fulfill all your instructions, to use the phone. However, it goes without saying that a five-year age is an approximate landmark. Very much depends on the individual characteristics of each child - the nature, skills, his temperament. Careful and attentive parents will be able to determine this is the time. However, of course, it is not necessary to leave one child's home under five years old, no matter how independent it may seem - the impression may be deceptive, and the child - be confused in some kind of freelance situation. So, for example, for sure, all adults have heard about such tragic cases when children died because they could not make the right decision, for example, in case of fire, instead of leaving the living quarters, they were hammered into cabinets or under beds, from for which they are simply choking. Psychologists offer parents a kind of psychological test that will help determine the degree of the child's readiness to remain alone at home. Each positive response - plus ten percent in favor of the child's autonomy:
How to prepare a child?
So, in your opinion, the child is ready toto stay home alone? However, do not do this spontaneously, without preparing the child for this in advance. And be prepared for the fact that this preparation will take quite a lot of time. However, do not get upset - remember that such a large-scale preparation will be only the first time, and when the child gets used to staying alone at home, it will turn into something self-evident. The first and most important thing that parents should take care of is the child's complete safety. Unfortunately, many parents trust their child too much, mistakenly believing that he is old enough to be aware of all the dangers that can threaten him, and not touch those things that can be dangerous - knives, scissors, matches and the like. Of course, parents must necessarily explain to the child what a dangerous thing is. Show the baby that a knife, a scissors or a needle can cause pain - slightly prick the baby so that he feels it on himself. Show that gas, matches and lighters can lead to fire and burns, tell us that medications and household chemicals can lead to severe poisoning and illness. Moreover, you can find on the Internet suitable videos that will become a vivid illustration of your stories about the danger. Although, of course, it is worth carefully selecting these videos - do not hurt the fragile psyche of the child with excessively bloody shots. Be sure to make sure that the child understands you well - let him say it all out loud, and preferably not one or two times. And then regularly repeat this with your baby. But that's not all. You spent time and effort, made sure that your child is very well mastered, that in any case should not approach dangerous subjects? Does he know how this can turn out? Great, you did it right! And now ... gather all the items that can represent even the slightest danger for the child, and safely hide them. As they say, God protects the benign - do not tempt the child, no matter how independent and literate he was. Moreover - always think and make a list of what can be dangerous for the child. Electric kettle - like the most ordinary household item. However, in the event that a child wants to drink tea in your absence, and does not keep the kettle in hand, burns can be dangerous. Therefore, take the kettle away and get a thermos bottle, in which you can leave the child with warm water of the right temperature. Your child will probably want to watch TV - make sure that it is in good order, and the wiring will not short in your absence, and your child will not climb to see what happened there. By the way, about wiring and electricity in general - before you leave the child alone, you should make sure that the possibility of a short circuit is excluded completely. In addition, never leave a working household appliance, for example, a washing machine or a bread maker. In addition, it is very undesirable without the urgent need to leave the child at home alone in the evening, when it's dark outside. Unfortunately, the blackout of electricity in the dark in cities is a very common phenomenon. And practical, any child who is at home at this moment alone can be very frightened. Even an adult can become uncomfortable in the first few seconds. However, if you have really good reasons for leaving your child at home alone, and not just going to visit, be sure to provide this opportunity. Provide the child with an alternative light source. However, needless to say, it should not be a candle, but a flashlight. Acquire in the store easy to handle, but a powerful flashlight and regularly check its performance. However, be prepared for the fact that in such a situation, when you come home, you will find your child somewhere under the blanket, and in order frightened. And there is no guarantee that after such an incident you will have to attend a child psychologist to cope with childish fears. Therefore, still try not to leave the child alone in the evening and at night, even asleep - because he can wake up.
- Sleeping baby
Incidentally, even if the childone home is left without any problems, it is still in no case to leave the house at a time when the child is sleeping, even if you were warned about leaving before going to bed. A child of half-sleepiness can forget about it and get scared, not finding any of the adults in the house.
- Lesson for the child
In no case should not leave the child at homeone, not having thought up to him a really interesting occupation. You can buy a kid a CD with a cartoon or a movie that he has long wanted, or new coloring books with pencils, or puzzles. The main thing that the child had something to do in the absence of adults. After all, if the child is bored, he can start looking for something, than to occupy himself. And there is no guarantee that he will find the right one, and not nabeozobraznacha or, worse, will hurt himself.
- Phone and doorbells
Particular attention should be paid to telephonecalls. Children's psychologists very much recommend parents to turn off their home phone before leaving, and buy a mobile phone for their child. They explain their advice simply - it is undesirable for a child to approach a home phone when he is alone at home. And on the mobile you can only call him. If there is no such opportunity, teach the child that he never told by phone that he is at home alone. It would be much more reasonable if he answered that his mother was busy and would call back a little later. And do not forget to call your child as often as possible. At first try to call the kid at every opportunity, but at least four times an hour. Tell the child about what you are doing at the moment, say that you are very bored and will try to get home as soon as possible. Strictly forbid the child to not only open the door, but generally approach it. Tell him that all family members have their keys without exception. And remember the most important thing - if a child is afraid to stay alone at home, then he is not ready for it yet. We advise you to read: