From the earliest childhood, you knew thatchange is not good. That adultery is betrayal, treachery, a knife in the back. You with grief noticed that public opinion is very tolerant of male infidelity, listened to sad arguments that all men are the same and that they all change their wives. Internally, you even prepared for the fact that in your life there can be a story when a beloved man will commit adultery with another woman. But they just could not imagine that you'll find yourself in the role of a betrayer. What exactly are you destroying the previous relationship with your husband, having changed him with another man. What happens in the soul of a woman who has committed such an act? Repentance, shame, fear of losing a husband? Or does treason entail triumph and joy from what was done? Everything depends on the situation and on what led this woman to treason. Now we will not talk about those young ladies who easily go on to have sex with other men, despite their status as married women. It does not matter at all, the official marriage is civil or the most important is that the girl is not free. We will talk about those women for whom treason is an event that can turn lives around. Before wringing your hands and lamenting "what have I done", try to calm down and understand the objective reason for your action. Even if everything happened spontaneously, even if after a good dose of alcohol - still your betrayal of her husband has a deep underlying reason. In order to move on and decide what to do with your life, you just need to put everything in order. It will be just perfect if you reflect far from your husband, because a sense of repentance will not give you the opportunity to concentrate and think logically. Find an excuse to leave home for a couple of days to think things over.
Why did you change
It is believed that all women are divided into 2 categories: those that are good and faithful, and those that are bad and walking. More often than not, society treats women with contempt for "going to the left," but there are situations when such behavior can be justified. Life sometimes presents surprises, and female treason is no longer a reproach, but approval and even a loud applause. On the part of other women, of course, because men will never approve of such an act. Even if they themselves regularly "rest" on the side, even if their girlfriends are married ladies, they will still beat their fists in the chest and scream that any traitor woman is the last rubbish. But we know that there are situations when loyalty to the husband is not the main sign of virtue. So what can lead a woman to a situation where she forgets oaths of loyalty and changes her husband with another man?
Tell her husband about treason
Here, again, it all depends on whether you wantto save the family. One must know the psychology of men to understand that they do not forgive betrayals. Confident that the god himself created them polygamous and that treachery on their part is just a prank that should not be given value, they have a completely different attitude to the female adultery. Men all their life compete with each other for the right to be considered the most powerful, the most successful. And with regard to sexual wins, this rule does not change. To be a cuckold for a man is the same as declaring to the whole world that he is a loser. "I change - I have a woman myself, they change me - they have me," - this is the postulate of any man. In addition, it has long been known that female treason is much more dangerous than a man's. It is not immoral or dirtier, but it is more dangerous. A man who tied an affair on the side thinks with the "brain" that he is below his belt. He might not even want to part with his wife because of another woman, because for him treason is just another way of asserting oneself. With a woman everything is much more difficult, because she is looking for not sex, but relationships. And the usual betrayal can result in the fact that she will simply leave her husband for a lover. This is another reason to keep silent about what happened in the adultery and not let her husband think that you no longer appreciate him. Of course, you are tormented by remorse, and on the soul with a stone lies the memory of a terrible deed. But if you want to ease your conscience and honestly confess to a husband of treason, then it will not be easier for you. Even if after that you keep the relationship, then no one will trust you. Insulting words about your past betrayal will break out of the husband at every quarrel, he will remind you of the misdeed to the end of his days. Even on condition that he swears in that he forgave you and will not raise this topic again. If you understand that you do not want to continue your relationship with your husband, you can tell him everything. Although it is much more compassionate to simply collect things and leave without devoting it to these unpleasant details. Here you will catch two birds with one stone: spare his pride and save face, remaining in his eyes a faithful and decent person. After all, you once chose this man for your husbands, which means that he was very dear to you. So why end the knife in his wound, telling about the treason? If you want to leave your husband or not - it does not matter, in any case, you need to understand yourself. At least to ensure that in the future such a story does not happen again. Treason is a situation that can destroy everything that was dear to you in dealing with a man. After all, we, women, are very difficult to feel happy next to a man whom we ourselves betrayed. We advise you to read: