Progress is moving forward with leaps and bounds. Until quite recently the computer was mostly used for work or for games. And we had no problems with communication. We spent half our lives in lines, traveling. Only one minus - with friends from other cities and countries we called up every six months. And only for five minutes, otherwise we then received a bill with six-figure sums. Today, thanks to the development of technologies, it became possible to make purchases in online stores, solve a number of administrative issues and, of course, actively communicate on the Internet. And you do not have to go out, go to a neighbor or colleague to work on a visit to exchange news. You can do this at home, sitting on your favorite chair or couch. Convenient, is not it? But is everything really as good as it seems to us at first glance? If you look closely at the situation, you can be horrified! Communication in the Internet space replaces our real relationship. Statuses are "engaged", "there is a guy", "everything is complicated," the hearts under the photos. And what is really going on in the soul of the person who sent us a smiley, we may never know.

What are social networks and what are they dangerous?

Social networks are gaining popularityand become an important part of our lives. The page in "Classmates", "FaceBook" or on "Facebook" is a reflection of your self. Through the same profiles of your friends you will learn the latest news from their life, listen to the music they prefer. Watch movies that your colleagues or comrades have uploaded. There is a fear that communication on the Internet in the near future will completely replace the real one. Is this so, and what is the use of the worldwide network? Many animals interact with each other, but only a person does it not for joint hunting or survival, but just for fun. Only Homo Sapiens (a reasonable person) has a need for communication as such. From the point of view of psychology, communicative relationships are the process of establishing and developing contacts between people. It arises from the needs of joint activities and includes the exchange of information, as well as the perception and influence on each other. What is the specificity of communication on the Internet? Because of anonymity, there are a number of barriers to interaction, due to gender, age, appearance, social status, financial position and so on. There is an opportunity to create about yourself any impression. It is interesting that many people are inclined to think up another life and image as a whole. This refers to the so-called "virtual personalities". These people do something that a person would never have dared to do in everyday life. So, for example, a shy fair sex representative can flirt with respectable and intelligent men, a hunted teenage boy will insult and criticize older people, an offended person - to be rude and prove their rightness. Where else can you show your character, without being afraid to get serious rebuff from your opponent. An important feature of communication on the Internet is also voluntary. You and only you determine with whom you will communicate now. And if you get bored, then you can just shut down. (For the same reason, the sometimes broken links can be misinterpreted by the interlocutors, as an unwillingness to communicate with them). And in real life you will have to answer for all your actions and actions. Communication on the Internet, as well as the usual, has two sides - information exchange and perception. Here we get to know each other, establish contacts and establish relationships with the people we like. However, in the network communication (due to the lack of a common physical space), the third party is limited - interaction with each other. You can not touch a person, hug him, look into your eyes. You do not understand whether your friend is telling the truth, what your second half is doing at this particular moment. But this same feature makes online communication so universal and limitless. Wherever you are, you just need to turn on the computer and find the network. You just want to, and before you will be a huge number of people who want to talk. In reality, it is very difficult to find a friend who would share your thoughts, ideas, suggesting how and what to do in this situation. The perception of another person on the Internet is also limited. For the most part, communication on the web is done through a written speech that can not express your intonation or facial expressions. Dialogue can not be accompanied by any eloquent gesture. This often hinders mutual understanding. Tell me how you will understand that you really like the interlocutor without hearing a shiver in his voice, a sly look and a flirtatious smile. Supporters of online correspondence decided to reverse this shortcoming. They tried to create a special language for Internet communication. He, like many other slangs, is prone to cuts (for example, "computer" - computer, "Internet" - Internet) and jargon (for example, "LOL" English laughing out loud - "loud laugh" - so comment on what -some very funny things). In addition to special words and expressions, the language of communication on the Internet also includes special icons - emoticons that display your facial expressions, gestures, actions or mood. Using them, you need to clearly understand the meaning of a particular sign, as well as be sure that it knows your interlocutor. Otherwise, he, firstly, might think that you are clogging your speech with incomprehensible brackets and scribbles, and secondly, confusing the meanings and deciding that what is happening to you is not what was meant.

How people communicate on the Internet

Live and direct communication includesa lot of different types and types: business, friendly, formal, spiritual, educational, verbal, nonverbal and so on. Communication on the Internet, unlike physical, can be reduced to three main types:

• Business

One of the main reasons why the Internet is soquickly and qualitatively develops, is his service to business goals and tasks. Fifteen years ago, all work issues were resolved by telephone, fax or mail. However, even now the cleaner has her own email address. After all, so she can send a resume to any company, and not go there, wait for the reception to give a piece of paper to the recruiting manager. Compared to the usual, business communication through a global network costs organizations much cheaper. You spend the allocated Internet, you put Skype - and your employee can answer calls from all over the world. Plus, you do not have to wait a few weeks, when they send you papers from, say, Canada. Two minutes - and everything is ready. Here you can also conduct training seminars - they are also called webinars - and network conferences. The transfer of information is easy, and the costs of such activities are meager. Thanks to the Internet, the sphere of business life is rapidly developing, like freelancing. Previously, a young mother sitting in a decree, it was very difficult to find a job that suited her needs: with a flexible schedule, interesting and well-paid. But now, thanks to the various freelance exchanges and the possibilities of working through the Internet, it became real.

• Informal

The Internet, as a means of communication, does not functiononly in the business sense, but also in the personal. And informal contacts now occupy the lion's share of our lives. Now, probably, there is no longer a person who does not sit in social networks and does not flinch at the sounds of working "ICQ". The Internet is one of the most common answers to the question of how to find a partner, because it is thanks to the global network that it became possible to search for your other half among the millions of other people. You can provide about yourself only the desired information and you, of course, will be easier to control what you say. In doing so, you will be able to make an appropriate impression. But the above advantages go smoothly to disadvantages when your partner has the same capabilities. Agree, it's disappointing when, after a long correspondence, you get to know a person live, and he turns out to be quite different from what you imagined. A tall blue-eyed blonde with a two-story villa can turn into a small plump man who last came to work about two years ago. And there is no magic in this. Just this person would like you to like. But the Internet is more than capable of satisfying the need for communication - that's why now it is considered that you can not be lonely if you have access to the network. But is it? Do you feel happy when you close the facebook page and go to sleep in an empty bed?

• Gaming

This type is separated from the informalcategory due to its place, which it occupies in human lives. Online games are a huge layer of modern culture. The nature of communication depends on the type of toy. For example, communication in role-playing games (so-called "brodilki") is built on the principle of theater and masks. Each participant has his own special role, which he plays to the end. Sometimes the characters need to unite to achieve a common goal. For example, you need to kill the main sorcerer or defeat another's clan. And then group correspondence acquires the character of communication, accompanied by some kind of joint activity. In this case, the characters love each other and can even meet in meetings of interest. Communication in other games such as "shooters" and races is distinguished by its aggressiveness (which is not surprising, because the goal of the game is victory at any cost). There is usually no place for friendship here. By the way, that's why you should limit access to such sites, if you have small children. In intellectual games (such as preference, chess, checkers) people's conversation is more like the conversations of old friends who came together. They are distinguished by a variety of topics and their own style of discussion. Here no one will insult you, ridicule and offend you. You can attack the aggression only if you are a beginner who is rude to the elder, or you are trying to deceive a partner.

Than it is dangerous to communicate through the Internet

Like any other phenomenon in our life, communicationin on-line it has its drawbacks. Therefore, before you plunge headlong into the worldwide network and forget about the real world, think about whether you need it. Weigh the pros and cons, assess the danger and future prospects. Plus is that you can connect with anyone in just a couple of seconds. In this case, you do not have to pay fabulous amounts for communication and communication. Negative aspects include abuse of anonymity, frequent deceptions, and Internet addiction. Abuse of anonymity or who is who Quite often when meeting people on the Internet, people, instead of being themselves, invent a new personality and play it. Therefore, lying becomes a rather serious problem in Internet communication. And if people do not speak about themselves the truth, the establishment of confidential contacts becomes impossible. When meeting through the Internet, there is no responsibility, no commitment, and without them no serious relationship is possible. Studies of psychologists show that from fantasies and inventing a new "I" most often suffer from the fair sex. Deception: scammers are allowed to enter. In the course of Internet communication, you can easily deceive another person. As mentioned above, because of anonymity, you do not have true information about the field, age, social status, work interlocutor. What he says is often very difficult or almost impossible to verify. That is why in communication on the Internet you must observe special care. Often, maniacs thus lure the victim to themselves. Do you have any suspicions if the person with whom you have a confidential relationship will invite you to a cup of coffee after a date? It's enough just to be skeptical about what was said and not to trust everything that you are told at the initial stage of acquaintance. You will act cleverly if you are wary of what people are telling you about themselves. It is especially difficult when your relationship is just beginning. Also it is necessary to accurately and carefully talk about your life. Scammers usually use data to find out passwords, codes and other information that will help them enrich themselves. Therefore, pay attention to the fact that self-disclosure should be only mutual. In any case, take your time and first talk on abstract topics, and then - on personal. Especially the danger of anonymity and deception is acquired when children communicate through the network. That's why pay close attention to how and with whom your child rewrites or calls up on the Internet. Internet addiction or say no to real life. The charms of communication in the network can cause deterioration of "ordinary" human relationships. In particular, there are cases when families disintegrated due to the fact that one of the spouses spent too much time in social networks with representatives of the opposite sex. In addition, for communication on the Internet are characterized by permissiveness, relaxation, lack of shyness. The network is easier to get to know and find like-minded people on any issue. And the person, having got used to such ease and to the lack of efforts in communication, begins to plunge deeper and deeper into the abyss of online communications. And then the Internet from the good turns into evil. In order to determine if you have an Internet addiction, try to honestly answer the following questions. The test for virtual addiction:

• Being outside the Internet, do you feel depressed, bad mood and irritation?
• Can you spend the latest money on Internet and online entertainment?
• Because you spend too much time on the network, do you risk losing your family, work or relationships with your friends?
• Do you think about the Internet without being online?
• Do you need to spend more time on the Internet to increase your comfort?
• Sometimes it seems to you that you can not live without the Internet?
• When you go online, do you spend much more time there than planned?
• Do you use the Internet in order to get away from real problems and cope with anxiety, depression or a sense of guilt?
• Periodically you lie to family and friends, minimizing the amount of time spent online?

If you answered yes to at least threequestion, then you should consider whether the use of the Internet causes too much harm to your life. Remember that, despite all the advantages that communication has in the global network, it also has serious limitations and can not completely replace the relationship in the real world. People who have dependence, it is difficult to get rid of it. In the twenty-first century this is considered a serious illness. In this case, you will need the help of a specialist who understands the problems that led to this disease. He will also adjust the patient to the desired mode.

How to communicate on the Internet

Observe the same communication rules on the network as inreal life. Do not be rude, do not insult other people. Many of them just as sharply react to sharp attacks, as usual. Therefore, observe moral and social norms, despite the absence of possible punishment. Then communication on-line will really bring you joy. When accessing various forums and websites, do not forget to familiarize yourself with the specific rules of communication on them. Read what other users write. Remember the saying: "Do not bother with your charter in a strange monastery." If you do not like something on a particular forum, it's easier to try to find another, and not to alter this (if you're not his mistress, of course). Respect your interlocutors. Do not neglect the norms of the Russian language and grammar. The "tongue padonkaff", which has been widely used at one time, for the most part causes a cultural person to reject and not to support the conversation. Keep track of your speech in all aspects. For example, abuse of quotes can cause dislike. Believe me, the phrase "I am a woman, and, therefore, I am an actress. I have a hundred faces and a thousand roles ... "are already sitting in the liver at most users. Write in the status of something clever, unfinished. And people will reach out to you. Listen to other participants and share your knowledge with them. Many people turn to the network for help, including you. Therefore, if you know the answer to the question asked in the chat, do not be lazy to write a couple of lines. Share with all the information that you have. Keep strong emotions. There is such a phenomenon - "trolling" - when one person writes something solely to provoke a violent reaction from other people and set them apart. Do not give him such pleasure, be moderately calm and restrained. The same goes for you. Do not ask provocative questions that can frustrate all forum participants. Be tolerant of your own and others' right to privacy. Do not try to crack your young man's e-mail to read the correspondence. It's just as ugly as it is in real life. If you, for example, have turned on the computer, and the page of your partner or comrade has loaded in the browser, exit it.

How to like the interlocutor on the Internet

Many people, as already mentioned above, usecommunication in the Internet space in order to make new friends. In this regard, the network provides virtually limitless possibilities. But in reality it is not so easy. In order to attract other people to cyberspace, try to correctly use the dignity of the Internet and bring to naught its shortcomings. As mentioned earlier, no one will appreciate your appearance on the Internet. And this can be both a plus, and a minus. In case you are accustomed to the fact that beauty is your trump card encouraging the beginning of acquaintance with you, then in Internet communication you can feel yourself at a loss. You may feel as if no one is paying attention to you. But if there are any shortcomings in your appearance that in ordinary life discourage other people, then the Internet can do you a good service. It is here that your inner world will become your main asset, in which men will fall in love. By the way, about the soul and your thoughts. It depends on this, what kind of people you will be perceived. Therefore, as many train a figure and rock the press, "pump" your inner world! Read books, watch movies, be interested in the latest news and events happening in the world. If you want to get to know the Internet with a man, try to develop in the direction of purely masculine themes. Of course, sports, weapons, cars, fishing and the like are not as interesting as shopping, but you can get involved with it in time. Be sure to visit forums dedicated to such topics. There are usually much less representatives of the fair sex than on other sites. You will be a unique woman who shares the interests of men, and they are very attracted to them! But in any case, do not forget about your individuality. Since the Internet is unimportant appearance, it becomes particularly noticeable how some girls are similar to each other. The same interests (like "expensive clothes, beautiful cars, sexy men"), the same statuses (classic of the genre - "I'm hard to find, easy to lose and impossible to forget"), the same pictures on avatars. All this causes a sad smile at smart and interesting men (which is exactly what we need?). Do not try to stand out. Just do not be trivial. In the process of communication, try to be natural. Even if the partner does not see your face and gestures, he can still feel deceit and falsity. Therefore, do not try to support the conversation on the topic "cognitive dissonance as a factor in the formation of negative emotions," while continuously using the search engine and Wikipedia. Better honestly admit that you do not understand anything about it, but you will learn something new with pleasure. And then your interlocutor (especially a man) will be happy to tell you about it. At the same time, do not deliberately portray a fool, as many women like to do. Certainly, one of the men likes this image, but not all. A real man will be interested in communicating with an equal partner. There are no untalented and unsuccessful in all persons. Most likely, you have a tendency to do something, in some ways you can even be an expert. And do not think that your hobby or interest is not interesting to anyone - it is not so. Try to enter the forum of people interested in your topic. And you will see how many people you have something to share. In order to make it easier and more enjoyable to communicate with you, post a couple of your photos. But only those where you are portrayed in a favorable light. Due to this, the interlocutor, talking to you, will represent you mentally. And this will only improve the relationship and make your contact direct. In addition, some things or events can be a clue for talking. For example: "How, were you also on Goa? I adore this place! What did you like most of all? ", Etc. ... Gradually, such a conversation can reach the discussion of plans for a joint holiday. Just do not need to specifically look for topics that can be discussed. Corresponding on the Internet, watch the manner of your communication - the benefit of delayed response replicas allows you to do this. For example, if in life you are blamed for too complicated speech or for the excess of words-parasites, then in the network you can control it. And gradually this useful habit from conversations on the Internet can go into real life. And then the benefits of social networks and forums for communication will become obvious. Communication in the Internet space on various topics in general is a useful and safe platform for working out new behaviors. For example, you always wanted to be brave and relaxed in dealing with men. And there's nothing better than trying it on the internet! The worst thing that can happen is that you will break off contact and will never see these partners again. And if you like it - you can relocate the acquired manner to ordinary life with relative ease.

What not to do on the Internet

How to communicate on the Internet, then not to ariseno problem? To begin with, always and everywhere observe precautionary measures and communicate only on detached topics. First, do not lay out for public view personal information. Year of birth, place of residence and work, the presence of children - all this should be classified. Also, do not upload photos and videos of an intimate nature into your profile. This can provoke you in the future. It is not known how the husband will react if he finds your photo in one linen (or, worse, without it). Do not tell on the forms about the problems that are happening in your home. Do not take dirty linen out of the hut. Think, I would like you to find the correspondence of the husband with other people, where he would tell, what a bad mistress and wife you are. The same will be tested by your partner, if you accidentally stumble upon the site. Plus, almost always all the secret becomes obvious. In an extreme case, if you still need to get advice from people not related to your family, remain anonymous. Change the names, place of action and other information that can give you. Do not write as you normally do. Each person has his own style. And it is in the manner of writing that your friends can understand that the author is you. And in any case, do not describe the situation that happened to your friends or relatives. What only you are aware of must remain in your head. Other people should not know that your neighbor is cheating on her husband and the janitor, and the best friend is dressed in second hand. Also do not try to cheat! To lure money from forum participants or social networks is prohibited. Many representatives of the fair sex offer men to throw money into the account, give gifts. In return they are promised a romantic date. You're not a fraud, are you? So why joke on other people! By the way, the same goes for you. If the man with whom you have corresponded for a long time, asks you to borrow thousands of five to pay, do not do it. Money, like a person in a difficult situation, will disappear from your life once and for all. Unfortunately, many women fall for this bait. Observing all the above rules, you will protect yourself and your personal life. After all, the most important thing to remember is that the most important thing is family and friends. Losing a loved one who is near you is much more difficult and painful than someone who is on the other side of the monitor. We advise you to read:

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