You dream of your son going to study at theeconomist, but he does not like mathematics at the same time? From the very beginning of his birth, you wanted him to become a famous doctor, and does your baby fall into a swoon at the sight of a drop of blood? Very often one can observe an impartial picture when parents choose their future profession for their children, not taking into account their wishes and preferences. At best, the child will bring a diploma, give it to his mother and father, after which he will get a second education. At worst - the son will work all his life on unloved work, hating the boss, colleagues and subordinates. Therefore, it is very important to understand the talents and tastes of your baby. Remember, your child is a river. You can only slightly redirect it to the right track. But the current will not be completely replaced. 
The main rules for choosing a future profession
Consider desires, abilities and opportunitieschild So, first of all you have to decide what is interesting for the student. It is very important that your child very much loved his future profession. No wonder they say that if the work coincides with a hobby, then a person does not have to work a single day in life. So, for example, if a baby loves animals, he can become a veterinarian, an ecologist, a zoologist. Son likes to make, repair and build? Why should not he then go to the engineer of the designer. Girls who love to draw, you can be not only artists. An architect, a designer, a photographer is just a small list of professions, where her abilities will be useful. Also do not forget about the abilities of the student. Ask him to solve a difficult task and observe how he will behave. Will he be able to sit for 2 hours without a break or will he be distracted by trifles. Will he ask for help or will he try to do everything himself. It is from his perseverance, loyalty and character that depends on how his career will develop in the future. When choosing a profession for a schoolboy, consider his temperament. If the son is sociable, starts up, likes to be in the center of attention, he will like the work, where you need to be able to contact people. Conversely, a quiet, quiet person is better to choose an occupation where one does not have to constantly worry and be nervous. Children who easily understand the numbers, you can link your life with mathematics, programming, engineering. Linguists should be sent to writers, journalists, lawyers, philologists or teachers. Do not worry if the student does 10 mistakes in the essay, and in each sentence. The main thing is the content. After all, it's wise to write, but not to cling to the reader's word - it's much worse. Physically strong children can go to the sport. Usually such schoolchildren are very poorly trained, but they play the best football, basketball or hockey. Do not stop these makings at the root - give the opportunity to go to the big leagues. In extreme cases, the child will then be able to get a second education or be weaned in absentia. By the way, athletes earn well and are popular. Emotional children, who have a great charisma, can go to the actors. Do not worry if the child can not do it from the first time to the theater faculty. Many celebrities tried to break into the arena of glory 3-4 times. The main thing is to provide psychological support. Do not put pressure on children Dynasty - this, of course, is good, but only if the student is really interested in the occupation of parents. Otherwise, the child can become in a pose, refusing to continue studying at school and enter the university. The most that you can do is to reduce your child to your work, give you the literature you need, and so on. But in no case should we speak directly about material goods. At this age, children do not always understand the value of money, influence and connections. Do not blame or hint that the son will not be able to support you or his family. Otherwise, he will do everything to spite you, forgetting about his desires. In addition, in our country, the situation with wages can change dramatically. Do not pay attention to the certificate. Learn to prioritize. Naturally, it is impossible in one minute to decide on whom the child should go to. Parents are obliged to think about this from the 5-8th grade. And if you are already determined, then focus on the items that are really useful in the future. Remember once and for all - you can not know everything. Of course, it's nice when a kid is an excellent pupil and learns best of all, but in that case his knowledge will be superficial. But under no circumstances should you let the child relax, making indulgences in school. Let him learn to four, but the three are not allowed. The maximum is 1-2, not more. And then only in those areas that are given to him with difficulty. For core subjects, you must hire tutors. We differentiate dreams and reality. If your child has chosen a profession that he is unlikely to be able to master, try to explain it gently to him. All of us in our childhood dreamed of becoming pilots, cosmonauts, teachers. Having grown up, most of us begin to really look at things. But there remain units that look at the world through rose-colored glasses. Of course, if your son has the makings of a football player, bravely support his endeavors. A singing daughter should be sent to vocals. However, it would be senseless to choose an actor's profession for a child if he is afraid to speak in public. Do not look at the talents of children through the eyes of a loving mother. Rate as if you are a strict critic, because this depends on the future life of a little man. 
How to help your child choose a future profession
Make a list Take a piece of paper andwrite on it several options that are suitable for the child. Do not forget to indicate the requirements that apply to applicants during admission and to future employees. So, for example, now the daughter will be able to pass on biology or chemistry to study on the laboratory technician. But think about whether she will be able to further dissect rats? Then show the list to the child. The schoolboy only needs to choose two or three professions, which he likes more or less. Of course, it's bad if there are different directions. In this case, the baby will have to decide once again where it is best to go, especially if he successfully passes the exams. Information about professions If the child has chosen a profession, give the teenager an opportunity to plunge into it with his head. A future journalist can be post-paid for free in a local newspaper, a physician can work as a volunteer in a hospital. Only after this the schoolboy will be able to understand whether he really likes this lesson. After all, many of them do not even realize what difficulties await in this or that situation. Agree, in most cases, to get an idea of the position of the pilot, stewardess or singer, we can only based on the movie. There everything is always smooth, perfect and interesting. In fact, this is much more complicated than it seems to us at first glance. We pass the test for career guidance. Go to the center of employment with the child, where he will be asked to answer a number of questions. After analyzing and summarizing the expert will provide a number of professions for which your baby is suitable. Exactly the same tests are conducted in some schools, only parents do not pay much attention to them. But do not take this assessment too seriously. The result could be affected by a bad mood, a fear of not responding correctly, etc. In addition, when composing the test, psychologists did not take into account the nature of each particular individual. Questions were thought up for a wide audience, and not just for your case. We study the situation on the labor exchange Hundreds of unemployed economists, lawyers, philologists and historians can not find a place under the sun. Without experience in such positions, few people are taken, as there are many professionals in this field. Therefore, it is better to choose a profession that will always be in demand, regardless of the economic situation in the country. They are engineers, teachers, doctors, builders, programmers, cooks. Naturally, the future applicant must be well versed in his business. 
Errors in choosing a future profession
To impose one's opinion is half the disaster. It's bad when parents do not take part in the child's life at all. Schoolchildren choose the future profession, not taking into account the realities of our life. As a result, he is in vain studying for 5-7 years, and then goes to work not by specialty. To date, there are six common mistakes that are committed annually by applicants.
- Lack of information about the profession
How can a child choose anything without havingthis representation? Obsolete information or idealistic ideas about a particular position can ruin the life of a future employee. Often children are guided by the prestige of the profession or the possible earnings. But no one explained to them that in the beginning they will have to work hard, climb on their heads, forget about the family, to become a boss or open their own business. Moreover, unfortunately, not many people manage to stay afloat.
- Ignorance of own abilities
It so happened that a person can not properlyevaluate yourself and your abilities. He either exaggerates them, considering himself a genius and superman, or understates, thinking that he is no good for anything. And in that, and in another case it is rather difficult to choose for yourself the direction in which you can move.
- Inability to prioritize
Never draw a line between study and futurework. Good grades do not talk about the true abilities of a teenager. It is not necessary to love mathematics to be able to solve problems. You also do not need to be an excellent student to get involved in biology, computer technology or medicine.
- Fear of being rejected by friends
Another mistake is the transfer of one's attitude towardsthe person who occupies this or that post. So, for example, a teenager may be afraid that friends turn away from him if he goes to study for a policeman or traffic policeman. In this case, explain to the child that friends should perceive the person as he is. And in every profession there are good and bad people. And people, endowed with power, usually all are afraid or dislike.
- Follow the crowd
There are cases when schoolchildren come "forcompany. " So always do either love doves, or best friends. But, unfortunately, only one person will like this profession. The second one will have to fulfill his duties, because it is so necessary.
- Inability to choose a good institute
Learn on the budget at a state universityor on commerce in private - it all depends on your financial capabilities. The main thing is that in the chosen institution you teach good professors. Excellent, if at the department I practice traveling abroad. But what you should not do is enter a non-accredited educational institution with a dilapidated building. Perhaps philologists and historians will cope without computer equipment, but programmers, chemists, physicists and other students will be tight. But the future salary and job placement of your child depends on the received knowledge and on the prestige of the university (institute, college, academy). 
What to do if the child does not want to learn further
The first thing to do is to talk with a teenager,to understand why he decided to give up his studies. Perhaps he just did not decide on the choice of profession or does not want to spend 5 years in vain. In that case, give him one year. Let him work officially. At the same time, always take from him part of the salary for food, housing. Since he wanted to become independent and adult, let him immediately feel the bitter taste of freedom on himself. The second reason may lie in the difficulties with finances. Not all children want to study at the expense of their parents. And unfortunately, not everyone can enter the budget. There are two ways to solve the problem: either to earn, or to lend. Set the conditions that after the termination of the university the child will pay you a certain amount every month. Also, children often hope that they will inherit a family business. Come on everything ready, without putting any effort into it - which can be easier. Smart parents in such cases do not put sons or daughters at the helm, but are forced to start, for example, with an assistant director, an ordinary manager or a salesperson. Such is the psychology of man - he does not appreciate what is left to him for nothing.
Why enter the university: answer the questions correctly
A teenager sets as an example of people who, withouteducation have made good progress? Do not convince the child that it is only a few. At this age, schoolchildren rarely listen to parents or teachers. We need to give him more substantial and interesting arguments that will make us think.
- Connections
At the faculty with your child will belearn children who in the future, perhaps, will take serious positions. Having kept warm friendly relations with classmates, your son will always be able to turn to them for help in a difficult situation.
- Development
Only at university people learn a lotcunning, which not all experts know. In addition to knowledge and skills, mentors make their students think. Reply to excellent, pulling an unhappy ticket - easily. To discuss with the dean is a simple matter. The main thing is to learn how to defend your opinion.
- Sociability
If you compare a student and a graduate of the university, then thisthere will be two completely different people. Even the most shy students are revealed at seminars, conferences and other serious events. And, not least, your child will learn to be independent. By the way, try to explain to the child that for a good post of school education there will be little. And if in the beginning the absence of a diploma will not interfere with him, then in the future, when the choice will be between him and his colleague, the preference will be given to the second.
